Monday, November 29, 2010
Tips On Asking A Girl Out
If there's a girl you really like and don't know how to ask her out, you can feel so helpless. I should know - I've been there before. Go here to get some great tips on asking a girl out from Swinggcat.
Thursday, May 20, 2010
A Dirty Little Pleasure Most Women Never Admit To
By Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction
I've got a question for you: Do women enjoy being hit on - or do they loathe it?
If you know in your heart-of-hearts women enjoy it - maybe even love it - you're well on your way to experiencing massive success with women.
If you've got the belief, though, that women find men hitting on them more annoying than nails against a chalk board you're in big trouble.
But don’t worry, my friend, because you're in the same position as most men.
Many a man believes women hate to be hit on - and rightfully so.
If you, for example, frequent bars or nightclubs, you've probably overheard groups of women yapping away about how they fear and loathe men hitting on them.
But if this were so, women would wear shower curtains to bars and nightclubs.
But they don't.
They, instead, wear skimpy little outfits to maximize the amount of male attention they get.
I'm gonna return to this train of thought in a moment.
But first, I want to shed some serious light on why believing women don't like to be hit on is akin to sentencing your penis to life in prison with no chance of parole. No hope of him ever vacationing in that warm, cuddly place he enjoys dancing into the wee hours of the morning to that old Digital Underground song "Do The Humpty Hump." The only love he's gonna get is from Bubba's nether regions.
When this nefarious belief creeps its way into a man’s noggin, fear will prevent him from approaching women.
He'll, for example, think to himself: "If I approach a woman she'll see me as an insidious little vermin she wants shunted from her reality."
If he does get up the gall to approach a woman, he's gonna have scrawled across his forehead in indelible red ink: "I'm so scared you'll reject me, I'm about to poop my pants."
This will communicate to her, he's a consummate gimp. Women feel no attraction for gimps. They feel attraction toward men they perceive as a Prize.
Okay.
I think I've convinced you that this belief has the worth of a sewer rat.
But you might be having second thoughts.
Maybe you're not fully convinced.
So I'm gonna rewind and go back to my original train of thought: The belief that women don't like to be hit on is crap.
If this belief ever crossed paths with the Food & Drug Administration they'd stamp it with an official FDA seal reading: 100% Certified B.S.
Why do you think women spend so much time - sometimes hours - primping and preening themselves to go out to nightclubs and bars?
Because they want to be hit on.
There's a school of thought, though, that says: "Women don't dress up for men; they do it for other women."
I think there's a grain of truth here but what this means is that women dress up to compete with other women for male attention. For male validation.
In other words, one of the reasons women put time into primping and preening themselves is to compete for who gets hit on the most by men.
Many a woman will never explicitly admit she enjoys men hitting on her.
If she did, she'd risk other women perceiving her as being at the top of the Slut-O-Meter.
Wanting to be hit on is one of women's dirty little secrets.
Think of those stupid, gossip magazines - such as, Enquirer and Star magazine. Almost everyone talks about the stupidity of these publications and claims to have never picked one up.
This is B.S.
If most people didn't read them, their circulation wouldn't be so widespread.
The lurid reality is this: Most of us can't wait to get our dirty little paws all over these magazines while standing in line at the supermarket.
A lot of us have too much pride to admit it.
But almost all of us get picked up by our lapels and sucked into the contents of these papers.
Same holds true with women. Most women claim, they hate when guys hit on them.
But most women love it. They can't get enough of it.
But they'll never admit it. It's their dirty little pleasure they don’t admit.
When you make no apologies for hitting on a woman and convey the belief that by YOU hitting on her you're doing her a favor, it lets her know she's dealing with a real man who's a Prize she has to win over.
If you believe women want and love to be hit on, you're half way to massive success with women.
Go here to get more tips on how to pick up women.
I've got a question for you: Do women enjoy being hit on - or do they loathe it?
If you know in your heart-of-hearts women enjoy it - maybe even love it - you're well on your way to experiencing massive success with women.
If you've got the belief, though, that women find men hitting on them more annoying than nails against a chalk board you're in big trouble.
But don’t worry, my friend, because you're in the same position as most men.
Many a man believes women hate to be hit on - and rightfully so.
If you, for example, frequent bars or nightclubs, you've probably overheard groups of women yapping away about how they fear and loathe men hitting on them.
But if this were so, women would wear shower curtains to bars and nightclubs.
But they don't.
They, instead, wear skimpy little outfits to maximize the amount of male attention they get.
I'm gonna return to this train of thought in a moment.
But first, I want to shed some serious light on why believing women don't like to be hit on is akin to sentencing your penis to life in prison with no chance of parole. No hope of him ever vacationing in that warm, cuddly place he enjoys dancing into the wee hours of the morning to that old Digital Underground song "Do The Humpty Hump." The only love he's gonna get is from Bubba's nether regions.
When this nefarious belief creeps its way into a man’s noggin, fear will prevent him from approaching women.
He'll, for example, think to himself: "If I approach a woman she'll see me as an insidious little vermin she wants shunted from her reality."
If he does get up the gall to approach a woman, he's gonna have scrawled across his forehead in indelible red ink: "I'm so scared you'll reject me, I'm about to poop my pants."
This will communicate to her, he's a consummate gimp. Women feel no attraction for gimps. They feel attraction toward men they perceive as a Prize.
Okay.
I think I've convinced you that this belief has the worth of a sewer rat.
But you might be having second thoughts.
Maybe you're not fully convinced.
So I'm gonna rewind and go back to my original train of thought: The belief that women don't like to be hit on is crap.
If this belief ever crossed paths with the Food & Drug Administration they'd stamp it with an official FDA seal reading: 100% Certified B.S.
Why do you think women spend so much time - sometimes hours - primping and preening themselves to go out to nightclubs and bars?
Because they want to be hit on.
There's a school of thought, though, that says: "Women don't dress up for men; they do it for other women."
I think there's a grain of truth here but what this means is that women dress up to compete with other women for male attention. For male validation.
In other words, one of the reasons women put time into primping and preening themselves is to compete for who gets hit on the most by men.
Many a woman will never explicitly admit she enjoys men hitting on her.
If she did, she'd risk other women perceiving her as being at the top of the Slut-O-Meter.
Wanting to be hit on is one of women's dirty little secrets.
Think of those stupid, gossip magazines - such as, Enquirer and Star magazine. Almost everyone talks about the stupidity of these publications and claims to have never picked one up.
This is B.S.
If most people didn't read them, their circulation wouldn't be so widespread.
The lurid reality is this: Most of us can't wait to get our dirty little paws all over these magazines while standing in line at the supermarket.
A lot of us have too much pride to admit it.
But almost all of us get picked up by our lapels and sucked into the contents of these papers.
Same holds true with women. Most women claim, they hate when guys hit on them.
But most women love it. They can't get enough of it.
But they'll never admit it. It's their dirty little pleasure they don’t admit.
When you make no apologies for hitting on a woman and convey the belief that by YOU hitting on her you're doing her a favor, it lets her know she's dealing with a real man who's a Prize she has to win over.
If you believe women want and love to be hit on, you're half way to massive success with women.
Go here to get more tips on how to pick up women.
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
A Jedi Mind Trick For Piquing Any Woman's Interest
By Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction 2.0
The collective male’s attempt at piquing a woman’s interest runs the gamut from demonstrating a lightning-quick wit and sharing interesting stories about himself to doing magic tricks like a clown out of Barnum & Bailey’s circus.
But more often than not, her eyes wander to her cell phone and then meander to the people behind him.
In fact, just about everything in her environment seems to enthrall her except for him, causing a billion and one insecurities to snake into his mind, such as…
1). She must think I am ugly as sin.
2). Does she find me as boring as Velveeta cheese?
3). Do I have the personality of a houseplant?
4). Did I forget to wear deodorant?
5). Is my ego going to be an obituary in tomorrow’s paper?
And if he’s bitter, he might think: She’s like a warm toilet seat – some guy was there before me, another will be there when I get up.
Like a hard working mule, he takes one last crack at making conversation.
But, alas, she stings him with, “It was nice meeting you but I have to go.”
In retrospect, he may think: Damn! That fall-asleep boring conversation piece took the pickup to a crippling halt. It was like the one unlucky drink that shoves a wavering alcoholic off the wagon. I should’ve never used it.
Most of us have experienced something along these lines.
Many of us have thought: If I only had more interesting things to say, do, or show women, my outcome with them would be completely different.
Although there may be a speck of truth here, most great orators, politicians, and salesmen will tell you, “The content of what you say is far less important than how you say it.”
I’ve seen comedians put an audience in stitches one night yet bomb the next. While the standup routine they used was exactly the same on both nights, their delivery was completely different.
For this reason…
You won’t learn any interesting conversation pieces, cute lines, or fall-on-the-floor-laughing jokes in this article.
Instead…
I’m going to teach you a communication secret that captivates women.
But before I go on, I want you to make me a promise (and, as you’ll see in a few minutes, this promise is for your own good)…
No matter how boring you think you are (even if you think you’re more boring than a 90 year old woman living in a nursing home), I want you to promise me that you won’t change the content of what you say to women for one week.
Here’s why…
I want you to see how adding just this simple secret to what you currently do and say when interacting with women can dramatically increase your success.
In school, you’re taught to finish a thought or idea before moving onto the next. Great advice if you want to plunge women into a narcoleptic stupor.
But if you want women to hang onto your every word, you need to break this crippling habit and start using nested loops.
A nested or open loop is when you start an idea, thought, or story, and instead of finishing it, you move onto something else. In other words, you keep the loop open.
Whenever the human mind is presented with an open loop – unfinished idea, thought, or story – it seeks closure.
Open loops are a form of what I call “tension loops” because they create unresolved emotional tension in a woman.
Even if a woman finds you as interesting and attractive as a sewer rat, the open loop unconsciously compel her to hang onto every word that pours out of your lips and emotionally drives her to see you as a valuable Prize.
Because she seeks resolution to the tension you’ve sparked in her mind and knows that you can release the tension, she perceives you as having value and heeds close attention to everything you say.
Imagine a slovenly bum and a high maintenance babe crossing paths. The bum makes a tragic try at conversation with her by saying, “Hello. My name is Jack and I am homeless. Let me tell you about how I became homeless.”
Chances are, she’d have no interest and scurry off because she finds him aesthetically repulsive, possibly scary, and of little value.
But if he fired an open loop at her, such as, “You know what they say about women with green eyes?” he would probably spark unresolved tension in her body. She’d feel a yen for emotional closure. Closure only he has the power to bring her.
And bada bing, bada boom…
This vagabond she normally would never give the time of day to piques her interest and has value (or Prizability) in her eyes.
Furthermore, open loops can build sexual arousal…
When you spark emotional tension within the context of flirting with a woman it becomes sexualized in her body.
But there’s a facet of open loops I haven’t mentioned yet…
It’s called the “Zeigarnik effect.”
One of the early contributors to Gestalt psychology Bluma Zeigarnik noticed that waiters remember orders up until they serve the food. Then they forget. This led to the discovery that the mind retains the most information when a loop is open.
How does this help you? A woman will probably remember everything you tell her between opening up a loop and closing it.
I want to share with you a powerful application of open loops I learned from watching politicians…
Oftentimes, when politicians are asked a question, they skirt around it for several minutes, talking about almost irrelevant topics, before directly addressing it. This keeps the listener in suspense.
How can we apply this to seduction and attraction?
Here’s an example…
When most men meet a woman they utter their name and then shake the woman’s hand. Usually that’s it. The interaction is over.
An hour – or even a few minutes – later she probably won’t remember his name or anything about him.
Instead, when a woman asks me my name I use an open loop.
I may say,
“When I was a kid my mom told me that she and my dad originally named me Arete, which means all the qualities that make up someone with good character.
And I said, ‘Wow, mom… that’s awesome! Why didn’t you keep the name?’
And she said, ‘Well honey, you’re lucky we didn’t name you Arete because it’s the name of a goddess from Greek mythology.
But we didn’t really give a crap about you having a female name.
The real reason we didn’t name you Arete was that our dog was named Arete – we really loved the name.
And on the day you were born our dog was hit by a car. When we looked at you, we didn’t want you to remind us of the dog. So we named you Josh instead.’”
In lieu of giving her the instant gratification of learning my name I’m using an open loop. This builds unresolved tension inside her body.
Her unconscious mind seeks to bring closure to this loop, inciting her to hang on to my every word.
Had I just told her my name from the get go, she might have judged, “This average looking guy probably lives a boring life,” and then moved onto another man.
But by using an open loop, I had an opportunity to demonstrate that I come from cultured people, have a sense of humor, tell great stories, and possess value (or Prizability).
Plus, due to the Zeigarnik effect, she will remember that I was the guy almost named Arete.
Vist Swinggcat's website to get more seduction tips.
The collective male’s attempt at piquing a woman’s interest runs the gamut from demonstrating a lightning-quick wit and sharing interesting stories about himself to doing magic tricks like a clown out of Barnum & Bailey’s circus.
But more often than not, her eyes wander to her cell phone and then meander to the people behind him.
In fact, just about everything in her environment seems to enthrall her except for him, causing a billion and one insecurities to snake into his mind, such as…
1). She must think I am ugly as sin.
2). Does she find me as boring as Velveeta cheese?
3). Do I have the personality of a houseplant?
4). Did I forget to wear deodorant?
5). Is my ego going to be an obituary in tomorrow’s paper?
And if he’s bitter, he might think: She’s like a warm toilet seat – some guy was there before me, another will be there when I get up.
Like a hard working mule, he takes one last crack at making conversation.
But, alas, she stings him with, “It was nice meeting you but I have to go.”
In retrospect, he may think: Damn! That fall-asleep boring conversation piece took the pickup to a crippling halt. It was like the one unlucky drink that shoves a wavering alcoholic off the wagon. I should’ve never used it.
Most of us have experienced something along these lines.
Many of us have thought: If I only had more interesting things to say, do, or show women, my outcome with them would be completely different.
Although there may be a speck of truth here, most great orators, politicians, and salesmen will tell you, “The content of what you say is far less important than how you say it.”
I’ve seen comedians put an audience in stitches one night yet bomb the next. While the standup routine they used was exactly the same on both nights, their delivery was completely different.
For this reason…
You won’t learn any interesting conversation pieces, cute lines, or fall-on-the-floor-laughing jokes in this article.
Instead…
I’m going to teach you a communication secret that captivates women.
But before I go on, I want you to make me a promise (and, as you’ll see in a few minutes, this promise is for your own good)…
No matter how boring you think you are (even if you think you’re more boring than a 90 year old woman living in a nursing home), I want you to promise me that you won’t change the content of what you say to women for one week.
Here’s why…
I want you to see how adding just this simple secret to what you currently do and say when interacting with women can dramatically increase your success.
In school, you’re taught to finish a thought or idea before moving onto the next. Great advice if you want to plunge women into a narcoleptic stupor.
But if you want women to hang onto your every word, you need to break this crippling habit and start using nested loops.
A nested or open loop is when you start an idea, thought, or story, and instead of finishing it, you move onto something else. In other words, you keep the loop open.
Whenever the human mind is presented with an open loop – unfinished idea, thought, or story – it seeks closure.
Open loops are a form of what I call “tension loops” because they create unresolved emotional tension in a woman.
Even if a woman finds you as interesting and attractive as a sewer rat, the open loop unconsciously compel her to hang onto every word that pours out of your lips and emotionally drives her to see you as a valuable Prize.
Because she seeks resolution to the tension you’ve sparked in her mind and knows that you can release the tension, she perceives you as having value and heeds close attention to everything you say.
Imagine a slovenly bum and a high maintenance babe crossing paths. The bum makes a tragic try at conversation with her by saying, “Hello. My name is Jack and I am homeless. Let me tell you about how I became homeless.”
Chances are, she’d have no interest and scurry off because she finds him aesthetically repulsive, possibly scary, and of little value.
But if he fired an open loop at her, such as, “You know what they say about women with green eyes?” he would probably spark unresolved tension in her body. She’d feel a yen for emotional closure. Closure only he has the power to bring her.
And bada bing, bada boom…
This vagabond she normally would never give the time of day to piques her interest and has value (or Prizability) in her eyes.
Furthermore, open loops can build sexual arousal…
When you spark emotional tension within the context of flirting with a woman it becomes sexualized in her body.
But there’s a facet of open loops I haven’t mentioned yet…
It’s called the “Zeigarnik effect.”
One of the early contributors to Gestalt psychology Bluma Zeigarnik noticed that waiters remember orders up until they serve the food. Then they forget. This led to the discovery that the mind retains the most information when a loop is open.
How does this help you? A woman will probably remember everything you tell her between opening up a loop and closing it.
I want to share with you a powerful application of open loops I learned from watching politicians…
Oftentimes, when politicians are asked a question, they skirt around it for several minutes, talking about almost irrelevant topics, before directly addressing it. This keeps the listener in suspense.
How can we apply this to seduction and attraction?
Here’s an example…
When most men meet a woman they utter their name and then shake the woman’s hand. Usually that’s it. The interaction is over.
An hour – or even a few minutes – later she probably won’t remember his name or anything about him.
Instead, when a woman asks me my name I use an open loop.
I may say,
“When I was a kid my mom told me that she and my dad originally named me Arete, which means all the qualities that make up someone with good character.
And I said, ‘Wow, mom… that’s awesome! Why didn’t you keep the name?’
And she said, ‘Well honey, you’re lucky we didn’t name you Arete because it’s the name of a goddess from Greek mythology.
But we didn’t really give a crap about you having a female name.
The real reason we didn’t name you Arete was that our dog was named Arete – we really loved the name.
And on the day you were born our dog was hit by a car. When we looked at you, we didn’t want you to remind us of the dog. So we named you Josh instead.’”
In lieu of giving her the instant gratification of learning my name I’m using an open loop. This builds unresolved tension inside her body.
Her unconscious mind seeks to bring closure to this loop, inciting her to hang on to my every word.
Had I just told her my name from the get go, she might have judged, “This average looking guy probably lives a boring life,” and then moved onto another man.
But by using an open loop, I had an opportunity to demonstrate that I come from cultured people, have a sense of humor, tell great stories, and possess value (or Prizability).
Plus, due to the Zeigarnik effect, she will remember that I was the guy almost named Arete.
Vist Swinggcat's website to get more seduction tips.
Friday, May 14, 2010
A Key Attribute For Seducing Women
By Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction 2.0
Take a guess what kind of men women find attractive.
The hapless collective male thinks you need a litany of material characteristics in tow to attract women.
This "seems" about right.
Listen in on a gaggle of females chattering on about what they look for in a man. They'll yap on about how they want a man sporting Johnny Depp's face, Christian Bale's physique, Warren Buffett's money, and John Lennon's fame.
Yet many of these females will sleep with and marry men with none of these things.
How do we resolve the paradox?
Here's the answer: the attributes women think they want in a man and the attributes that unconsciously drive them to see a man as a Prize bear little resemblance.
I'm going to focus on one of these characteristics: assuming a female wants you from the get go.
In the Empire Strikes Back there's a scene where Han Solo is being frozen in carbonite.
Here's how George Lucas originally wrote the scene:
Princess Lea gushes, "I love you."
Han gushes back, "I love you too."
Lucas thought the writing was romantic. But it wasn't.
So the day they filmed the scene, Harrison Ford, the actor who played Han Solo, threw Lucas a monkey wrench by veering off script.
When Princess Leia gushed, "I love you," he knowingly said, "I know."
What a pimp.
This single line made Empire Strikes Back a cult classic.
Whenever females hear Harrison Ford deliver the words "I know," their heart thuds with excitement.
Don't women think this is a bit arrogant?
Probably.
Nonetheless, when a man sees himself as a Prize, women are hard-wired to sexually respond to him.
Will this work if a woman is not attracted to you?
Yes. Beliefs are contagious. If your belief is strong enough, she'll start believing it too.
I've got a few questions for ya...
Have you ever spotted a girl you'd like to meet but didn't approach her because you thought your social value wasn't high enough?
Have you ever wanted to get physical with a girl but didn't because you thought she was out of your league?
If you've experienced any of these things, it's because you didn't - or don't - have the belief that you're the Prize.
Once you have this belief attracting women becomes as easy as shooting fish in a barrel.
Just imagine approaching a woman most men think is out of their league. She isn't attracted to you at first. But within minutes of meeting her, she starts touching you. You guys start kissing. Before you know it, she invites you back to her place to make sweet passionate monkey love.
That's what life is like when you believe you're the Prize.
Big Warning: You cannot just tell yourself to start believing you're the Prize.
Changing your beliefs is a little more involved than that.
That's why I've dedicated a whole chapter in my book Real World Seduction 2.0 to changing your beliefs. Inside you'll get powerful techniques that quickly mutate your self-image into a Prize women want to win over.
Plus, in Real World Seduction 2.0 you'll receive a PhD education on generating attract, compelling women to see you as the Prize, and taking your female interactions in exactly the direction you choose.
Click here to get Real World Seduction and receive other seduction tips.
Take a guess what kind of men women find attractive.
The hapless collective male thinks you need a litany of material characteristics in tow to attract women.
This "seems" about right.
Listen in on a gaggle of females chattering on about what they look for in a man. They'll yap on about how they want a man sporting Johnny Depp's face, Christian Bale's physique, Warren Buffett's money, and John Lennon's fame.
Yet many of these females will sleep with and marry men with none of these things.
How do we resolve the paradox?
Here's the answer: the attributes women think they want in a man and the attributes that unconsciously drive them to see a man as a Prize bear little resemblance.
I'm going to focus on one of these characteristics: assuming a female wants you from the get go.
In the Empire Strikes Back there's a scene where Han Solo is being frozen in carbonite.
Here's how George Lucas originally wrote the scene:
Princess Lea gushes, "I love you."
Han gushes back, "I love you too."
Lucas thought the writing was romantic. But it wasn't.
So the day they filmed the scene, Harrison Ford, the actor who played Han Solo, threw Lucas a monkey wrench by veering off script.
When Princess Leia gushed, "I love you," he knowingly said, "I know."
What a pimp.
This single line made Empire Strikes Back a cult classic.
Whenever females hear Harrison Ford deliver the words "I know," their heart thuds with excitement.
Don't women think this is a bit arrogant?
Probably.
Nonetheless, when a man sees himself as a Prize, women are hard-wired to sexually respond to him.
Will this work if a woman is not attracted to you?
Yes. Beliefs are contagious. If your belief is strong enough, she'll start believing it too.
I've got a few questions for ya...
Have you ever spotted a girl you'd like to meet but didn't approach her because you thought your social value wasn't high enough?
Have you ever wanted to get physical with a girl but didn't because you thought she was out of your league?
If you've experienced any of these things, it's because you didn't - or don't - have the belief that you're the Prize.
Once you have this belief attracting women becomes as easy as shooting fish in a barrel.
Just imagine approaching a woman most men think is out of their league. She isn't attracted to you at first. But within minutes of meeting her, she starts touching you. You guys start kissing. Before you know it, she invites you back to her place to make sweet passionate monkey love.
That's what life is like when you believe you're the Prize.
Big Warning: You cannot just tell yourself to start believing you're the Prize.
Changing your beliefs is a little more involved than that.
That's why I've dedicated a whole chapter in my book Real World Seduction 2.0 to changing your beliefs. Inside you'll get powerful techniques that quickly mutate your self-image into a Prize women want to win over.
Plus, in Real World Seduction 2.0 you'll receive a PhD education on generating attract, compelling women to see you as the Prize, and taking your female interactions in exactly the direction you choose.
Click here to get Real World Seduction and receive other seduction tips.
The Raquette - The Most Powerful Archetype Of Seducer
Question From Reader:
Hey Swinggcat
This is Tomi. I've mailed you a couple times about how sweet your book is and I got a question about something that really confuses me BUT I'll tell you what has been working with me so far and how I'm doing. So I'll just lay it all out right now.
I'm at chapter 11: Push-Pull. In the past few months I can definitely say my comfort zone has increased, and I honestly thought it would never ever happen this way, I still got a ways to go but I can see the improvement, I'm making progress.
I'm building on my character and becoming who I want to become, who I've always been but couldn't show. This gives me confidence, leading to a stronger reality and I really am seeing what you meant in one of your quotes, "the correlation between a woman's looks and how she reacts to you is as strong as a 6 year old girl". This makes me laugh because in many cases it's too true :P.
I know I'm non-reactive, and it's just so much easier being this way because it allows you to think and builds prizability. I'm still working on my meta-intent, I'm really not sure what I want in a girl it's just that there's so many directions I could go.
Anyways as you read I'm on the push-pull part of the book, I started part 3 about a week ago and I like :) But one bit I couldn't understand was 'The Coquette' and 'The Rake'. You said the Coquette was the embodiment of the push, but instead of pushing women away, it pulls them in. It was right after the part talking about the push, so I'm assuming its meant to be a push, but it also pulls woman in. I'm confused, I'm really having trouble differentiating the push between the coquette.
- Tomi from Ontario
Swinggcat’s Response:
Tomi,
Congrats on increasing your comfort zone. You and I know this is a result of doing the exercises from Chapter 2.
Funny side story: When I was a kid, my mom coaxed me into going to a therapist to “cope” with my shyness.
He fed me some psychobabble about how your personality is cut in stone by the ripe age of seven. He told me, “If you’re shy, you’re always gonna be shy… and there’s nothing you can do about it… the key is to learn to accept it.”
Anyone who’s done the exercises from Chapter 2 knows that this is a bunch of B.S.
“I'm building on my character and becoming who I want to become, who I've always been but couldn't show.”
I’m gonna go out on a limb and guess that this is a result of reading Chapter 1: Developing The Attributes Of Men Women Respond To As The Prize.
As you know, developing these attributes transforms you into the man you’ve always wanted to be but couldn’t.
“I really am seeing what you meant in one of your quotes, "the correlation between a woman's looks and how she reacts to you is as strong as a 6 year old girl". This makes me laugh because in many cases it's too true :P.”
Yes. So many guys think their looks prevent them from getting the girl of their dreams. Before approaching a girl, they think, “How do my looks measure up to hers?”
“If my looks fall short of hers,” they believe, “I’ll get a bad reaction.”
But this isn’t true. I've met 200 lb. females with more facial hair than a teenage boy sport egos the size of a hot air balloon. On the other hand, I know models with the confidence of a battered dog.
More importantly, your looks play only a small factor in determining how a woman reacts to you.
Your confidence, social awareness, and skill at attracting women are much more important.
“One bit I couldn't understand was 'The Coquette' and 'The Rake'. You said the Coquette was the embodiment of the push, but instead of pushing women away, it pulls them in. It was right after the part talking about the push, so I'm assuming its meant to be a push, but it also pulls woman in. I'm confused, I'm really having trouble differentiating the push between the coquette.”
The coquette and the rake are classic seducer archetypes. Each one embodies half of Push-Pull.
The coquette intoxicates women by taking a step backward. His power lies in his ability to briefly withdraw his attention and interest from women, his lack of need to appease them, his self-reliance, and his willingness criticize their flaws.
While he proactively Pushes them away, he ends up Pulling them in. Put better, by Pushing them away, he sparks sexual tension and compels them to win him over. (I hope this answers your question.)
A big part of coquetting is being nonreactive.
Most men think acting nonreactive is keeping your emotions in check when women tease, test, challenge, or flake on you.
That’s part of it.
Here’s another part...
Have you ever laughed at a woman’s joke you didn’t get or find funny?
Why did you do it?
Maybe you didn’t wanna look like an idiot.
Maybe you felt bad for her.
Maybe you feared breaking rapport.
Maybe you wanted her to like you.
Believe it or not, the coquette wouldn’t laugh.
This may seem a bit harsh.
But when you laugh at a woman’s unfunny joke you’re attempting to get her validation.
Or, even worse, flattering her in a way that comes across with the sincerity of a used car salesman.
This reactive response might work for the moment but over the long haul, it nail files your Prizability down flat.
By the coquette acting nonreactive, the girl feels emotionally driven to make him laugh. In other words, she struggles to get his validation, transforming him into a prize she wants win over.
Should you refrain from laughing even when you find a joke funny?
Yuck. Sooner than later, women will be onto your mind game and then they’ll find you about as appealing as a dingle berry.
This only scratches the surface of acting nonreactive around women. If you want to master the ins-and-outs of acting nonreactive around women, get yourself a copy of Real World Seduction 2.0.
The rake is the embodiment of the Pull.
According to the Swiss psychiatrist Carl Young, everyone carries around a shadow. This is the side of them repressed by society. A big part of a woman’s shadow is sexual desire.
Alas, society looks down upon loose women and throttles them from fully expressing their sexual desire. This makes their shadow grow bigger and causes an internal strife to keep the shadow shackled up inside or to let it out.
The rake is a master at cajoling women into letting their shadow out. He does this through giving women validation and attention. His power lies in letting women know the sexual affect they have on him.
At first, women may resist, feign disgust, or accuse him of being a lecher. But secretly this makes them feel sexy. Sooner than later, they let their shadow out.
The most powerful seducers are what I call raquettes.
The raquette is a highbred: half rake, half coquette. He is an expert at Push-Pull: half the time he Pushes women away; the other, he Pulls them in.
This cocktail of Pushes and Pulls fills a woman head-to-toe with sexual tension, giving you the power to take the interaction in the direction you choose.
Go here to become a master raquette and receive other powerful seduction tips.
Hey Swinggcat
This is Tomi. I've mailed you a couple times about how sweet your book is and I got a question about something that really confuses me BUT I'll tell you what has been working with me so far and how I'm doing. So I'll just lay it all out right now.
I'm at chapter 11: Push-Pull. In the past few months I can definitely say my comfort zone has increased, and I honestly thought it would never ever happen this way, I still got a ways to go but I can see the improvement, I'm making progress.
I'm building on my character and becoming who I want to become, who I've always been but couldn't show. This gives me confidence, leading to a stronger reality and I really am seeing what you meant in one of your quotes, "the correlation between a woman's looks and how she reacts to you is as strong as a 6 year old girl". This makes me laugh because in many cases it's too true :P.
I know I'm non-reactive, and it's just so much easier being this way because it allows you to think and builds prizability. I'm still working on my meta-intent, I'm really not sure what I want in a girl it's just that there's so many directions I could go.
Anyways as you read I'm on the push-pull part of the book, I started part 3 about a week ago and I like :) But one bit I couldn't understand was 'The Coquette' and 'The Rake'. You said the Coquette was the embodiment of the push, but instead of pushing women away, it pulls them in. It was right after the part talking about the push, so I'm assuming its meant to be a push, but it also pulls woman in. I'm confused, I'm really having trouble differentiating the push between the coquette.
- Tomi from Ontario
Swinggcat’s Response:
Tomi,
Congrats on increasing your comfort zone. You and I know this is a result of doing the exercises from Chapter 2.
Funny side story: When I was a kid, my mom coaxed me into going to a therapist to “cope” with my shyness.
He fed me some psychobabble about how your personality is cut in stone by the ripe age of seven. He told me, “If you’re shy, you’re always gonna be shy… and there’s nothing you can do about it… the key is to learn to accept it.”
Anyone who’s done the exercises from Chapter 2 knows that this is a bunch of B.S.
“I'm building on my character and becoming who I want to become, who I've always been but couldn't show.”
I’m gonna go out on a limb and guess that this is a result of reading Chapter 1: Developing The Attributes Of Men Women Respond To As The Prize.
As you know, developing these attributes transforms you into the man you’ve always wanted to be but couldn’t.
“I really am seeing what you meant in one of your quotes, "the correlation between a woman's looks and how she reacts to you is as strong as a 6 year old girl". This makes me laugh because in many cases it's too true :P.”
Yes. So many guys think their looks prevent them from getting the girl of their dreams. Before approaching a girl, they think, “How do my looks measure up to hers?”
“If my looks fall short of hers,” they believe, “I’ll get a bad reaction.”
But this isn’t true. I've met 200 lb. females with more facial hair than a teenage boy sport egos the size of a hot air balloon. On the other hand, I know models with the confidence of a battered dog.
More importantly, your looks play only a small factor in determining how a woman reacts to you.
Your confidence, social awareness, and skill at attracting women are much more important.
“One bit I couldn't understand was 'The Coquette' and 'The Rake'. You said the Coquette was the embodiment of the push, but instead of pushing women away, it pulls them in. It was right after the part talking about the push, so I'm assuming its meant to be a push, but it also pulls woman in. I'm confused, I'm really having trouble differentiating the push between the coquette.”
The coquette and the rake are classic seducer archetypes. Each one embodies half of Push-Pull.
The coquette intoxicates women by taking a step backward. His power lies in his ability to briefly withdraw his attention and interest from women, his lack of need to appease them, his self-reliance, and his willingness criticize their flaws.
While he proactively Pushes them away, he ends up Pulling them in. Put better, by Pushing them away, he sparks sexual tension and compels them to win him over. (I hope this answers your question.)
A big part of coquetting is being nonreactive.
Most men think acting nonreactive is keeping your emotions in check when women tease, test, challenge, or flake on you.
That’s part of it.
Here’s another part...
Have you ever laughed at a woman’s joke you didn’t get or find funny?
Why did you do it?
Maybe you didn’t wanna look like an idiot.
Maybe you felt bad for her.
Maybe you feared breaking rapport.
Maybe you wanted her to like you.
Believe it or not, the coquette wouldn’t laugh.
This may seem a bit harsh.
But when you laugh at a woman’s unfunny joke you’re attempting to get her validation.
Or, even worse, flattering her in a way that comes across with the sincerity of a used car salesman.
This reactive response might work for the moment but over the long haul, it nail files your Prizability down flat.
By the coquette acting nonreactive, the girl feels emotionally driven to make him laugh. In other words, she struggles to get his validation, transforming him into a prize she wants win over.
Should you refrain from laughing even when you find a joke funny?
Yuck. Sooner than later, women will be onto your mind game and then they’ll find you about as appealing as a dingle berry.
This only scratches the surface of acting nonreactive around women. If you want to master the ins-and-outs of acting nonreactive around women, get yourself a copy of Real World Seduction 2.0.
The rake is the embodiment of the Pull.
According to the Swiss psychiatrist Carl Young, everyone carries around a shadow. This is the side of them repressed by society. A big part of a woman’s shadow is sexual desire.
Alas, society looks down upon loose women and throttles them from fully expressing their sexual desire. This makes their shadow grow bigger and causes an internal strife to keep the shadow shackled up inside or to let it out.
The rake is a master at cajoling women into letting their shadow out. He does this through giving women validation and attention. His power lies in letting women know the sexual affect they have on him.
At first, women may resist, feign disgust, or accuse him of being a lecher. But secretly this makes them feel sexy. Sooner than later, they let their shadow out.
The most powerful seducers are what I call raquettes.
The raquette is a highbred: half rake, half coquette. He is an expert at Push-Pull: half the time he Pushes women away; the other, he Pulls them in.
This cocktail of Pushes and Pulls fills a woman head-to-toe with sexual tension, giving you the power to take the interaction in the direction you choose.
Go here to become a master raquette and receive other powerful seduction tips.
Saturday, September 30, 2006
The Secret Psychology Behind Challenging Women...
All ladies' men know the importance of challenging a woman.
The problem is...
Most guys don't know how to challenge women in a way
that triggers attraction. In this letter I'm gonna teach you
exactly how to do this.
Plus... I'm going to reveal a hilarious yet powerful challenge
to say to a woman. A challenge I've NEVER written or
talked about before.
Click here to keep reading
The problem is...
Most guys don't know how to challenge women in a way
that triggers attraction. In this letter I'm gonna teach you
exactly how to do this.
Plus... I'm going to reveal a hilarious yet powerful challenge
to say to a woman. A challenge I've NEVER written or
talked about before.
Click here to keep reading
Friday, September 29, 2006
A Secret Method For Turning Bratty Behavior Into Uncontrolable Attraction...
I've got a very special treat for you...
I'm going to reveal to you a secret method for
transforming a woman's bratty or rude behavior
into uncontrollable attraction.
Click here to learn this method now!
I'm going to reveal to you a secret method for
transforming a woman's bratty or rude behavior
into uncontrollable attraction.
Click here to learn this method now!
Thursday, September 28, 2006
How To Get A Woman's Phone Number... The Right Way...
Click here to discover the secret to getting a woman's phone number.
Sunday, November 27, 2005
Does Bragging To Women Work?
I've got a question for you: Does bragging to women work?
If your answer is "yes," you're right and you're gonna
like what I'm about to tell you.
If your answer is "no," keep reading by clicking here
My rationale might surprise you.
If your answer is "yes," you're right and you're gonna
like what I'm about to tell you.
If your answer is "no," keep reading by clicking here
My rationale might surprise you.
Thursday, November 10, 2005
An Attraction Secret I Learned From A Frog...
Yes, that's right...
I learned an attraction secret from a frog... and there's a good chance this secret will instantly double your success with women.
Years ago a friend of mine told me a story about a bunch of little frogs who decided to have a race up a huge tower.
Whomever hops to the top of the tower first would be the winner, they determined.
A huge crowd gathered around the little frogs. No one believed the tiny frogs even had a chance at making it to the top of the tower.
People from the crowd heckled the little guys with: "You're way too small to climb that tower, you'll never make it!"
And guess what?
Heaps of frogs slid off the tower.
The crowd heckled louder, and the rest of the frogs tumbled down - except for one. The crowd continued to berate and snicker at him. But he slogged his way to the top.
Do you know why?
Click here to find out...
I learned an attraction secret from a frog... and there's a good chance this secret will instantly double your success with women.
Years ago a friend of mine told me a story about a bunch of little frogs who decided to have a race up a huge tower.
Whomever hops to the top of the tower first would be the winner, they determined.
A huge crowd gathered around the little frogs. No one believed the tiny frogs even had a chance at making it to the top of the tower.
People from the crowd heckled the little guys with: "You're way too small to climb that tower, you'll never make it!"
And guess what?
Heaps of frogs slid off the tower.
The crowd heckled louder, and the rest of the frogs tumbled down - except for one. The crowd continued to berate and snicker at him. But he slogged his way to the top.
Do you know why?
Click here to find out...
Monday, October 31, 2005
A Misconception Almost All Men Have... And An Attraction Secret Few Men Know...
I want to warn you my friend...
If you're not game for trying something different from what you're currently doing with women, stop reading right now. Go away. This letter isn't for the closed-minded.
But... If you're up for learning something new, you're in luck because... in a minute I'm going to reveal to you a secret for attracting women almost no one knows... and there's a good possibility it'll increase your current success with women by 400%.
I'd actually be shocked if you know this secret.
Have you ever noticed how some of the things people think will help them, end up hurt them... and vice versa?
For example...
Most people believe Stannous Fluoride - the stuff found in many popular toothpaste brands - is good for them. They think it fights cavities. Maybe so. But it's made from recycled tin - yuck!
Some think bottled water is healthy. But Evian, one of the most popular brands of bottled water, spells Naïve backwards.
Likewise, there's a misconception about attracting women most men have...
Click here to find out what it is...
If you're not game for trying something different from what you're currently doing with women, stop reading right now. Go away. This letter isn't for the closed-minded.
But... If you're up for learning something new, you're in luck because... in a minute I'm going to reveal to you a secret for attracting women almost no one knows... and there's a good possibility it'll increase your current success with women by 400%.
I'd actually be shocked if you know this secret.
Have you ever noticed how some of the things people think will help them, end up hurt them... and vice versa?
For example...
Most people believe Stannous Fluoride - the stuff found in many popular toothpaste brands - is good for them. They think it fights cavities. Maybe so. But it's made from recycled tin - yuck!
Some think bottled water is healthy. But Evian, one of the most popular brands of bottled water, spells Naïve backwards.
Likewise, there's a misconception about attracting women most men have...
Click here to find out what it is...
Wednesday, August 31, 2005
How To Kiss A Woman... Without Rejection
By Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction
If there was a secret to kissing women you desired without rejection, would you want to know more about it?
Of course you would. What heterosexual male that's sane wouldn't?
Let's up the ante, my friend...
What if a secret method existed for kissing attractive women minutes after meeting them without rejection?
Would that pique your curiosity?
Maybe you're feeling a bit skeptical? You might be thinking, "Yeah right," or "This seems too good to be true."?
But if you were lucky enough to get your hands on a simple secret that gave you the power to kiss every woman you desired without rejection, looking back, wouldn't you be glad you took a chance by learning this secret?
The good news for you is...
A few years back I stumbled onto, almost by accident, a method for kissing women without rejection.
There's a good chance you've never seen or heard or read about what I'm going to share with you.
Some of my closest friends believe it's the most power technology for getting intimate with a woman.
One refers to it as "The real Jedi mind stuff."
You'll have to make that decision for yourself.
Before I reveal this method to you, I want share with you a quick story.
I wasn't born with these skills. I remember, back in the day I'd go out with a woman, drag her back to my place, and then...
Talk All Night Without Ever Kissing Her...
Even When I Had An Inkling That She Liked Me...
...because I was afraid she'd reject me.
Lest she'd turn my ego into a meat by-product to be ground up and pooped out by the Num Num snack factory.
Here's a list of a few of the thoughts that would snake into my brain when I felt like kissing a woman...
- If she rejects me, it means she feels no attraction toward me.
- If she rejects me I'll never ever have a chance with her again.
- If she rejects me it'll confirm that I'm not able to attract women.
- If she rejects me the world will come to an end.
Back then, my success rate at kissing women was close to 100%...
...because I'd only go in for the kiss when I felt certain she wanted to kiss me... which, unfortunately, wasn't very often.
I perused books on body language, struggling to figure out all of the signs women display when they feel attraction toward a man.
Those books, alas, frustrated me more.
Women, I lamented, almost never display these signs around me.
On rare occasion women did display attraction signals in my presence.
But I still didn't feel certain they were attracted to me.
If they weren't putting their little paws all over me and overtly telling me, "I find you sexy," I wasn't convinced they found me any more appealing than a big smelly fart.
Have you ever had similar thoughts?
Hmm. Interesting.
If you had the power to kiss any woman you desired without rejection...
- which woman (or women) would you kiss?
- what types of women would you kiss?
And if you had the power to kiss the women you wanted, how would that positively impact your life?
Before I disclose my secret method to you, I want to share with YOU some of the mindsets YOU need to make what you're about to learn work...
Mindset # 1: If She Doesn't Kiss You Back, It's No Big Deal...
Attractive women are used to men of all shapes and sizes making physical passes at them.
They're used to letting men know they aren't interested.
If you try to kiss a woman and she pushes you away, DON'T squawk like a b*itch or I'll conk you upside the head.
Women aren't going to view you as a grotesque piece of dog poo for acting like a man. In fact, they'll appreciate it.
You've got more to lose, my friend, from not kissing her.
Attractive women know when men want to kiss them but feel scared. This turns women off - big time.
My advice: If you want to kiss a woman but feel scared, lean over and kiss her - ASAP.
You're better off.
Mindset # 2: You've Gotta Believe She Wants To Kiss You...
If you've read my book you're aware that what you put out into the universe is what you'll get back.
You know: What the thinker thinks, the prover proves.
This couldn't apply more to kissing women.
Believing a woman wants to kiss YOU is a surefire way to skyrocket the probability that she'll return your kiss.
Women are experts at figuring out just how confident (or insecure) a man is.
Desire in the absence of the belief that a woman wants you is neediness. Women feel no attraction toward needy men.
When you lean in to kiss a woman while believing she doesn't want to kiss you back, you're setting yourself up for rejection.
Mindset # 3: Develop A Willingness To Push Your Comfort Level...
Maybe you've studied a library full of books on body language, memorizing all of the signs indicating that women feel attraction toward a man.
But perhaps when women display these attraction signals you don't feel, in your heart of hearts, they're attracted to you. I dunno?
This used to describe me to a tee.
What I've discovered is that when women display these attraction signals it's imperative to push your comfort level by going in for the kiss... even if you hear your gut reaction shouting, "She feels no attraction for YOU!"
When you, for example, read or hear about these attraction signals, it becomes a possibility in your mind that when women display these signals, they feel attraction toward YOU.
But when a woman displays the attraction signals and YOU get up the gall to kiss her and she kisses you back, something magical happens...
It Becomes Your Reality That When Women Display These Signals, They Feel Attraction
Toward You.
Your belief transforms from mere possibility into your full fledged reality.
Now for the main course: Swinggcat's Method For Kissing Women... Without Rejection.
Has a woman ever displayed attraction signals toward you - twirling her hair, touching you, giggling like a four year old child, giving you that "F me now you big boy" look... and so on - yet when you dove in for the kiss, to the horror of your self-esteem, she pushed you away?
If this hasn't happened to you, I'm willing to bet at some point during your life it will.
Even when a woman pushes you away, there's still a good possibility she feels attraction toward you.
"Then why would she push me away?" you might be asking yourself.
Because, my friend, she was playing a special type of attraction game (or a mating ritual) with You.
Socially and sexually adept women intuitively grasp the rules of this game. This game is a form of what I call "Push/Pull."
Push/Pull is whenever you emotionally push a woman away from you...and, then, emotionally pull her back in.
Each Push creates an emotional space for each Pull.
Imagine, to get a feel for this, a teacher who's critical toward one of his students. Once in a blue moon, however, he feeds them a sliver of praise.
The student feels elated.
But if he praises the student constantly, the emotional impact will lessen because...
He Will Not Be Creating The Needed Emotional Space.
Women understand this because this is how they get aroused.
When a man, for example, does something to stimulate a woman... and then stops and then starts again, she becomes exponentially more aroused. This is "Sexual Push/Pull."
Let's push forward into the attraction trenches...
GIVING WOMEN "THE LOOK"...
When you want to kiss a woman, give her "the look."
Do you know what "the look" is?
It's dominant with a dash of playfulness. A carnal gesture used to strip away all pretenses, leaving her psychically naked and vulnerable.
The dominant part reveals the little girl in her.
The playful part brings out the innocent little boy in you - think of the enthusiasm and the excitement little kids have about going to a toy store or to Disneyland.
The look communicates to women: "No ifs ands or buts about it, we're gonna kiss. And it is gonna be a lot of fun for the both of us."
Inside my audio course you'll get the full scoop on developing "the look."
click here
INTRUDING THEIR PERSONAL BUBBLE...
You also need to intrude a woman's personal bubble. All women have a personal bubble.
And usually they only let people they are intimate with or close to into their personal bubble.
If you, however, couple intruding a woman's personal bubble with giving her "the look," she'll almost always let you in.
Once a woman accepts a man in her personal space, she views him as someone she's intimate with or is open to becoming intimate with.
MAKING PHYSICAL CONTACT...
Another piece of the puzzle is getting physical contact with a woman. You need to be touching her in some way.
For me, I like holding their hands or putting my hand on the sacrum of their back.
Inside my audio course you'll learn several secrets for making physical contact with a woman in way that she'll accept and enjoy.
click here
When you combine "the look," with touch and with intruding her personal bubble, something magical happens...
She feels a rush of attraction moving through her body.
She's paralyzed. Stupefied. Titillated. Aroused. In a trance like state.
You move in closer to her, suggesting you're about to kiss her.
Then you pause, yet continue to give her The Look.
You've sparked the fire of an emotional and sexual connection in her body and mind. She's excited and compelled to move in closer to you.
Then you push her away, making her feel the moment never happened. The emotional and sexual connection? Just a figment of her imagination.
Then you pull her in again, bringing back that emotional and sexual connection. Then push her away.
At this point she might feel she's crazy or think of herself as a nut job who forgot to take her lithium.
She might - and this has happened to me many times - grab you and start ravenously kissing you.
If she doesn't grab you, grab her and start passionately kissing her.
There's no rejection because it's a game. I've used this method successfully on women who flat out told me from the get-go, they felt no attraction toward me.
Some men might think this is cruel to put women through.
But these men just don't get it.
It's the moral equivalent of killing a car, chopping off the head of a Barbie doll, or erasing a computer disk.
Women love this... because it shows them that you're in control of your desires and demonstrates that you understand how they get aroused.
But this doesn't even scratch the surface of the attraction secrets you'll get your hands on inside my brand new audio course.
Inside you'll discover...
- Nine powerful ways to kiss a woman you've just met (even if you're a ladies man, I'm almost certain you've neither seen nor heard these techniques).
- Two secrets compelling women to literally force you to hold onto their hands.
- A secret for getting intimate with a woman who specifically tells you that she's not interested in You.
- My secret formula for using challenges that compel women to kiss you.
- Two low risk role playing games specifically designed to quickly and effectively become intimate with women
- even if you sense they don't feel attraction for you.
- Body language secrets that not only build attraction inside women, but also emotionally drive them to get intimate with you.
This is only a tiny tiny sliver of what you'll learn inside my course. This knowledge took me many long hours of experimenting to discover. And you won't find these secrets anywhere else in the world.
If there's even a small part of you that wants to possess the power to get intimate with any woman you desire, then you owe it to yourself to get a world class education on attracting and getting intimate with women by grabbing a copy of my audio course right now.
click here
A final thought: Maybe you're thinking that you'll put off learning these skills for a few months because you're bogged down at work or financially strapped?
If you put off learning these skills now, there's a chance you'll put them off forever.
That's why my philosophy has always been: Live your dream life to its fullest."
That means equipping yourself with the skills and tools to live your dream life.
So take control of the life you want to start living by getting your hands on a copy of my audio course right now.
click here
And if you haven't picked up a copy of my ebook, do so.
click here
Your Loyal Dating Coach,
Swinggcat "Dr. of Attraction"
______________________________________________
Copyright 2005 Superior Living, Inc. All rights reserved."Swinggcat"
and "RealWorldSeduction" are trademarks of Superior Living, Inc.
If there was a secret to kissing women you desired without rejection, would you want to know more about it?
Of course you would. What heterosexual male that's sane wouldn't?
Let's up the ante, my friend...
What if a secret method existed for kissing attractive women minutes after meeting them without rejection?
Would that pique your curiosity?
Maybe you're feeling a bit skeptical? You might be thinking, "Yeah right," or "This seems too good to be true."?
But if you were lucky enough to get your hands on a simple secret that gave you the power to kiss every woman you desired without rejection, looking back, wouldn't you be glad you took a chance by learning this secret?
The good news for you is...
A few years back I stumbled onto, almost by accident, a method for kissing women without rejection.
There's a good chance you've never seen or heard or read about what I'm going to share with you.
Some of my closest friends believe it's the most power technology for getting intimate with a woman.
One refers to it as "The real Jedi mind stuff."
You'll have to make that decision for yourself.
Before I reveal this method to you, I want share with you a quick story.
I wasn't born with these skills. I remember, back in the day I'd go out with a woman, drag her back to my place, and then...
Talk All Night Without Ever Kissing Her...
Even When I Had An Inkling That She Liked Me...
...because I was afraid she'd reject me.
Lest she'd turn my ego into a meat by-product to be ground up and pooped out by the Num Num snack factory.
Here's a list of a few of the thoughts that would snake into my brain when I felt like kissing a woman...
- If she rejects me, it means she feels no attraction toward me.
- If she rejects me I'll never ever have a chance with her again.
- If she rejects me it'll confirm that I'm not able to attract women.
- If she rejects me the world will come to an end.
Back then, my success rate at kissing women was close to 100%...
...because I'd only go in for the kiss when I felt certain she wanted to kiss me... which, unfortunately, wasn't very often.
I perused books on body language, struggling to figure out all of the signs women display when they feel attraction toward a man.
Those books, alas, frustrated me more.
Women, I lamented, almost never display these signs around me.
On rare occasion women did display attraction signals in my presence.
But I still didn't feel certain they were attracted to me.
If they weren't putting their little paws all over me and overtly telling me, "I find you sexy," I wasn't convinced they found me any more appealing than a big smelly fart.
Have you ever had similar thoughts?
Hmm. Interesting.
If you had the power to kiss any woman you desired without rejection...
- which woman (or women) would you kiss?
- what types of women would you kiss?
And if you had the power to kiss the women you wanted, how would that positively impact your life?
Before I disclose my secret method to you, I want to share with YOU some of the mindsets YOU need to make what you're about to learn work...
Mindset # 1: If She Doesn't Kiss You Back, It's No Big Deal...
Attractive women are used to men of all shapes and sizes making physical passes at them.
They're used to letting men know they aren't interested.
If you try to kiss a woman and she pushes you away, DON'T squawk like a b*itch or I'll conk you upside the head.
Women aren't going to view you as a grotesque piece of dog poo for acting like a man. In fact, they'll appreciate it.
You've got more to lose, my friend, from not kissing her.
Attractive women know when men want to kiss them but feel scared. This turns women off - big time.
My advice: If you want to kiss a woman but feel scared, lean over and kiss her - ASAP.
You're better off.
Mindset # 2: You've Gotta Believe She Wants To Kiss You...
If you've read my book you're aware that what you put out into the universe is what you'll get back.
You know: What the thinker thinks, the prover proves.
This couldn't apply more to kissing women.
Believing a woman wants to kiss YOU is a surefire way to skyrocket the probability that she'll return your kiss.
Women are experts at figuring out just how confident (or insecure) a man is.
Desire in the absence of the belief that a woman wants you is neediness. Women feel no attraction toward needy men.
When you lean in to kiss a woman while believing she doesn't want to kiss you back, you're setting yourself up for rejection.
Mindset # 3: Develop A Willingness To Push Your Comfort Level...
Maybe you've studied a library full of books on body language, memorizing all of the signs indicating that women feel attraction toward a man.
But perhaps when women display these attraction signals you don't feel, in your heart of hearts, they're attracted to you. I dunno?
This used to describe me to a tee.
What I've discovered is that when women display these attraction signals it's imperative to push your comfort level by going in for the kiss... even if you hear your gut reaction shouting, "She feels no attraction for YOU!"
When you, for example, read or hear about these attraction signals, it becomes a possibility in your mind that when women display these signals, they feel attraction toward YOU.
But when a woman displays the attraction signals and YOU get up the gall to kiss her and she kisses you back, something magical happens...
It Becomes Your Reality That When Women Display These Signals, They Feel Attraction
Toward You.
Your belief transforms from mere possibility into your full fledged reality.
Now for the main course: Swinggcat's Method For Kissing Women... Without Rejection.
Has a woman ever displayed attraction signals toward you - twirling her hair, touching you, giggling like a four year old child, giving you that "F me now you big boy" look... and so on - yet when you dove in for the kiss, to the horror of your self-esteem, she pushed you away?
If this hasn't happened to you, I'm willing to bet at some point during your life it will.
Even when a woman pushes you away, there's still a good possibility she feels attraction toward you.
"Then why would she push me away?" you might be asking yourself.
Because, my friend, she was playing a special type of attraction game (or a mating ritual) with You.
Socially and sexually adept women intuitively grasp the rules of this game. This game is a form of what I call "Push/Pull."
Push/Pull is whenever you emotionally push a woman away from you...and, then, emotionally pull her back in.
Each Push creates an emotional space for each Pull.
Imagine, to get a feel for this, a teacher who's critical toward one of his students. Once in a blue moon, however, he feeds them a sliver of praise.
The student feels elated.
But if he praises the student constantly, the emotional impact will lessen because...
He Will Not Be Creating The Needed Emotional Space.
Women understand this because this is how they get aroused.
When a man, for example, does something to stimulate a woman... and then stops and then starts again, she becomes exponentially more aroused. This is "Sexual Push/Pull."
Let's push forward into the attraction trenches...
GIVING WOMEN "THE LOOK"...
When you want to kiss a woman, give her "the look."
Do you know what "the look" is?
It's dominant with a dash of playfulness. A carnal gesture used to strip away all pretenses, leaving her psychically naked and vulnerable.
The dominant part reveals the little girl in her.
The playful part brings out the innocent little boy in you - think of the enthusiasm and the excitement little kids have about going to a toy store or to Disneyland.
The look communicates to women: "No ifs ands or buts about it, we're gonna kiss. And it is gonna be a lot of fun for the both of us."
Inside my audio course you'll get the full scoop on developing "the look."
click here
INTRUDING THEIR PERSONAL BUBBLE...
You also need to intrude a woman's personal bubble. All women have a personal bubble.
And usually they only let people they are intimate with or close to into their personal bubble.
If you, however, couple intruding a woman's personal bubble with giving her "the look," she'll almost always let you in.
Once a woman accepts a man in her personal space, she views him as someone she's intimate with or is open to becoming intimate with.
MAKING PHYSICAL CONTACT...
Another piece of the puzzle is getting physical contact with a woman. You need to be touching her in some way.
For me, I like holding their hands or putting my hand on the sacrum of their back.
Inside my audio course you'll learn several secrets for making physical contact with a woman in way that she'll accept and enjoy.
click here
When you combine "the look," with touch and with intruding her personal bubble, something magical happens...
She feels a rush of attraction moving through her body.
She's paralyzed. Stupefied. Titillated. Aroused. In a trance like state.
You move in closer to her, suggesting you're about to kiss her.
Then you pause, yet continue to give her The Look.
You've sparked the fire of an emotional and sexual connection in her body and mind. She's excited and compelled to move in closer to you.
Then you push her away, making her feel the moment never happened. The emotional and sexual connection? Just a figment of her imagination.
Then you pull her in again, bringing back that emotional and sexual connection. Then push her away.
At this point she might feel she's crazy or think of herself as a nut job who forgot to take her lithium.
She might - and this has happened to me many times - grab you and start ravenously kissing you.
If she doesn't grab you, grab her and start passionately kissing her.
There's no rejection because it's a game. I've used this method successfully on women who flat out told me from the get-go, they felt no attraction toward me.
Some men might think this is cruel to put women through.
But these men just don't get it.
It's the moral equivalent of killing a car, chopping off the head of a Barbie doll, or erasing a computer disk.
Women love this... because it shows them that you're in control of your desires and demonstrates that you understand how they get aroused.
But this doesn't even scratch the surface of the attraction secrets you'll get your hands on inside my brand new audio course.
Inside you'll discover...
- Nine powerful ways to kiss a woman you've just met (even if you're a ladies man, I'm almost certain you've neither seen nor heard these techniques).
- Two secrets compelling women to literally force you to hold onto their hands.
- A secret for getting intimate with a woman who specifically tells you that she's not interested in You.
- My secret formula for using challenges that compel women to kiss you.
- Two low risk role playing games specifically designed to quickly and effectively become intimate with women
- even if you sense they don't feel attraction for you.
- Body language secrets that not only build attraction inside women, but also emotionally drive them to get intimate with you.
This is only a tiny tiny sliver of what you'll learn inside my course. This knowledge took me many long hours of experimenting to discover. And you won't find these secrets anywhere else in the world.
If there's even a small part of you that wants to possess the power to get intimate with any woman you desire, then you owe it to yourself to get a world class education on attracting and getting intimate with women by grabbing a copy of my audio course right now.
click here
A final thought: Maybe you're thinking that you'll put off learning these skills for a few months because you're bogged down at work or financially strapped?
If you put off learning these skills now, there's a chance you'll put them off forever.
That's why my philosophy has always been: Live your dream life to its fullest."
That means equipping yourself with the skills and tools to live your dream life.
So take control of the life you want to start living by getting your hands on a copy of my audio course right now.
click here
And if you haven't picked up a copy of my ebook, do so.
click here
Your Loyal Dating Coach,
Swinggcat "Dr. of Attraction"
______________________________________________
Copyright 2005 Superior Living, Inc. All rights reserved."Swinggcat"
and "RealWorldSeduction" are trademarks of Superior Living, Inc.
Friday, April 22, 2005
Do Women Want To Be Hit On?
By Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction
I've got a question for you: Do women enjoy being hit on - or do they loath it?
If YOU know in your heart-of-hearts women enjoy it - maybe even love it - you're well on your way to experiencing massive success with da ladies. If you've got the belief, though, that women find men hitting on them more annoying than nails against a chalk board you're in big trouble.
But DON'T worry, my friend, because you're in the same position most men are.
Many a man believes women hate to be hit on - and rightfully so. If you, for example, frequent the bar or club scene you've probably overheard groups of women yapping away about how they fear and loath men hitting on them. But if this were so, women would wear shower curtains to bars and nightclubs. But they don't. They wear skimpy little outfits to maximize the amount of male attention they get.
I'm gonna return to this train of thought in a moment. But before I do, I want to shed some serious light on why believing women don't like to be hit on is akin to sentencing your penis to life in prison with no chance of parole. No hope of him ever vacationing in that warm, cuddly place he enjoys dancing into the wee hours of the morning to that old Digital Underground song "Do The Humpty Hump." The only love he's gonna get is from Bubba's nether regions.
Having this belief will cause a man to fear and loath hitting on women. He'll, for example, think to himself: "If I approach a woman she'll see me as an insidious little vermin she wants shunted from her reality."
If he does get up the gall to approach a woman, he's gonna have scrawled across his forehead in permanent red ink: "I'm so scared you'll reject me, I'm about to poop my pants."
This will communicate to her, he's a consummate gimp. Women feel no attraction for gimps. They feel attraction toward men who are a Prize they've gotta win over.
Okay. I think I've convinced you of how wretched this belief is. How it will pound any future opportunities with beautiful women into jelly.
But you might be having second thoughts. Maybe you're not fully convinced. So I'm gonna rewind and go back to my original train of thought: "The belief that women don't like to be hit on is crap." If this belief ever crossed paths with the Food & Drug Administration they'd stamp it with an official FDA seal saying: "100% Certified B.S."
Why do you think women spend so much time - sometimes hours - primping and preening themselves to go out to nightclubs and bars? Because they want to be hit on.
There's a school of thought, though, that says: "Women don't dress up for men; they do it for other women."
I think there's a grain of truth here but what this means is that women dress up to compete with other women for male attention. For male validation. In other words, one of the reasons women put time into primping and preening themselves is to compete for who gets hit on the most by men.
Many a woman will never explicitly admit she enjoys men hitting on her. If she did, she'd risk other women perceiving her as being at the top of the Slut-O-Meter. Or, even worse, people thinking she's a power hungry rhymes-with-witch. Wanting to be hit on is one of women's dirty little secrets.
Think of those stupid, gossip magazines - such as, Enquire and Star. Almost everyone talks about how stupid these publications are and claims to have never picked one up. This is B.S.
If most people didn't read them, their circulation wouldn't be so widespread.
The lurid reality is this: Most of us can't wait to get our dirty little paws all over these magazines while standing in line at the supermarket. A lot of us have too much pride to admit it. But almost all of us get picked up by our lapels and sucked into the contents of these papers.
Same holds true with women. Most women claim, they hate when guys hit on them. But most women love it. They can't get enough of it. But they'll never admit it. It's their dirty little secret.
When you make no apologies for hitting on a woman and convey the belief that by YOU hitting on her you're doing her a favor, it lets her know she's dealing with a real man who's a Prize she has to win over.
If YOU believe women want and love to be hit on, you're half way to massive success with women. All you've gotta do is learn the right way to hit on women.
You could go out and experiment. And if you're willing to put in a lot of work, you probably will become successful with women. But it's going to be a lot of work.
Or you could take the shortcut by cracking open my brain and hijacking all of my secrets that took me years of hard work and experimenting to discover. In just a few minutes YOU could start mastering these secrets, allowing you to leap over years of hard work and start experiencing the success you want to have with women.
You're still gonna have to put in some work. But truckloads less than if you didn't have these secrets. I wish I had access to this info when I was starting out. Click here to get your hands on the tools you need to start living your dream life with women.
Real World Seduction
Your Loyal Dating Coach,
Swinggcat"Dr. of Attraction"
I've got a question for you: Do women enjoy being hit on - or do they loath it?
If YOU know in your heart-of-hearts women enjoy it - maybe even love it - you're well on your way to experiencing massive success with da ladies. If you've got the belief, though, that women find men hitting on them more annoying than nails against a chalk board you're in big trouble.
But DON'T worry, my friend, because you're in the same position most men are.
Many a man believes women hate to be hit on - and rightfully so. If you, for example, frequent the bar or club scene you've probably overheard groups of women yapping away about how they fear and loath men hitting on them. But if this were so, women would wear shower curtains to bars and nightclubs. But they don't. They wear skimpy little outfits to maximize the amount of male attention they get.
I'm gonna return to this train of thought in a moment. But before I do, I want to shed some serious light on why believing women don't like to be hit on is akin to sentencing your penis to life in prison with no chance of parole. No hope of him ever vacationing in that warm, cuddly place he enjoys dancing into the wee hours of the morning to that old Digital Underground song "Do The Humpty Hump." The only love he's gonna get is from Bubba's nether regions.
Having this belief will cause a man to fear and loath hitting on women. He'll, for example, think to himself: "If I approach a woman she'll see me as an insidious little vermin she wants shunted from her reality."
If he does get up the gall to approach a woman, he's gonna have scrawled across his forehead in permanent red ink: "I'm so scared you'll reject me, I'm about to poop my pants."
This will communicate to her, he's a consummate gimp. Women feel no attraction for gimps. They feel attraction toward men who are a Prize they've gotta win over.
Okay. I think I've convinced you of how wretched this belief is. How it will pound any future opportunities with beautiful women into jelly.
But you might be having second thoughts. Maybe you're not fully convinced. So I'm gonna rewind and go back to my original train of thought: "The belief that women don't like to be hit on is crap." If this belief ever crossed paths with the Food & Drug Administration they'd stamp it with an official FDA seal saying: "100% Certified B.S."
Why do you think women spend so much time - sometimes hours - primping and preening themselves to go out to nightclubs and bars? Because they want to be hit on.
There's a school of thought, though, that says: "Women don't dress up for men; they do it for other women."
I think there's a grain of truth here but what this means is that women dress up to compete with other women for male attention. For male validation. In other words, one of the reasons women put time into primping and preening themselves is to compete for who gets hit on the most by men.
Many a woman will never explicitly admit she enjoys men hitting on her. If she did, she'd risk other women perceiving her as being at the top of the Slut-O-Meter. Or, even worse, people thinking she's a power hungry rhymes-with-witch. Wanting to be hit on is one of women's dirty little secrets.
Think of those stupid, gossip magazines - such as, Enquire and Star. Almost everyone talks about how stupid these publications are and claims to have never picked one up. This is B.S.
If most people didn't read them, their circulation wouldn't be so widespread.
The lurid reality is this: Most of us can't wait to get our dirty little paws all over these magazines while standing in line at the supermarket. A lot of us have too much pride to admit it. But almost all of us get picked up by our lapels and sucked into the contents of these papers.
Same holds true with women. Most women claim, they hate when guys hit on them. But most women love it. They can't get enough of it. But they'll never admit it. It's their dirty little secret.
When you make no apologies for hitting on a woman and convey the belief that by YOU hitting on her you're doing her a favor, it lets her know she's dealing with a real man who's a Prize she has to win over.
If YOU believe women want and love to be hit on, you're half way to massive success with women. All you've gotta do is learn the right way to hit on women.
You could go out and experiment. And if you're willing to put in a lot of work, you probably will become successful with women. But it's going to be a lot of work.
Or you could take the shortcut by cracking open my brain and hijacking all of my secrets that took me years of hard work and experimenting to discover. In just a few minutes YOU could start mastering these secrets, allowing you to leap over years of hard work and start experiencing the success you want to have with women.
You're still gonna have to put in some work. But truckloads less than if you didn't have these secrets. I wish I had access to this info when I was starting out. Click here to get your hands on the tools you need to start living your dream life with women.
Real World Seduction
Your Loyal Dating Coach,
Swinggcat"Dr. of Attraction"
Thursday, January 27, 2005
A Mindset Every Guy Who's Good With Women Has...And You Can Develop
By Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction
A few months ago a girl came to my house
selling magazine subscriptions. When I
opened the door and hinted a willingness to
hear her spiel, she looked surprised. I
think I was the first person in my
neighborhood to actually listen to her. Most
people hate and avoid at all costs
door-to-door solicitors, fearing that
they'll be conned and swindled into buying
their wares. Not me. I love hearing a
salesman's pitch. Probably because - as
someone who's done a lot of sales - I take
a personal interest in analyzing other's
attempts at persuading me.
She was offering subscriptions to magazines
I enjoy reading. The money was going toward
helping troubled youth get into College - a
cause I wholeheartedly support!
But she would have had to hold me at gunpoint
to get even a single penny out of me. Was I
skeptical about where the magazine profits
were really going? Nope. I felt she was
completely honest with me.
Why couldn't she get me to crack? Am I a
cheap bastard? I can be - yet I would have
bought from her. But there was something
holding me back. Was it her sale's
presentation? For the most part - no! The
pitch she splurted out of her fast moving
lips was well crafted and persuasive. I
was slightly turned off by her plowing
through the sale's presentation at a
Speedy Gonzalez gait, sprinkled with
jerky, contrived hand gestures. Although,
not to the tune of dissuading me from
forking over the cash. What stopped me
from giving up the moolah was something
else...
She had a Weak Intent. She was lumbered
with the desire to make a quick sale - I
could see it her puppy dog eyes. She even
said all the necessary things to get me to
buy. Yet something was entirely lacking...
She didn't believe I would buy from her.
Desire In The Absence Of Belief Is Neediness.
Read this sentence ten times aloud. Brand
your forehead with it if you have to. Do
whatever you have to do to internalize the
adage. This is something that all men who
are amazing with women get.
Women are repulsed by the needy. Human
beings across the board are repulsed by
the needy. This, I think, is part of our
biological hardwiring. Neediness is a
one-way ticket to squandering all possible
success with women. Do whatever you need
to do to purge yourself of it.
I'm the ex world champion at acting needy
with women. I had the desire to succeed
with them but not the belief.
It wasn't only the smart women who were
onto my weakness, the borderline dummies
were too. These girls weren't stupid enough
to get a handicapped parking space. And
were too smart to qualify for the
Special Olympics Games. But not by much.
If you look on their bookshelves, you'll
probably only find the two books: How to
strip and a made-easy-for-children version
of the bible. Even these girls, however,
could see, hear, feel, and smell my
weakness. I had the desire to succeed with
them but not the belief. I had a Weak
Intent. And as you now know...
Desire In The Absence Of Belief Is Neediness.
These women saw me as one needy bitch -
and they were right.
Everything changed when I started
developing a mindset that every man who's
exceptional with women has: A Strong
Intent.
You might be thinking: "Hmm...what exactly
is a Strong Intent?"
Desire in the presence of belief is having
a Strong Intent. But I'm not talking about
any run-of-the-mill belief. The belief
has to be the unwavering certainty that
you'll achieve your intended outcome.
You could have all of the skills and
desire in the world but without the
unwavering certainty that you'll get what
you want, you're doomed.
One thing that has helped me tremendously
is rehearsing my intended outcome. So,
for example, if your goal is to kiss women
you've just met, maybe, rehearse in your
mind women brimming with the desire to
kiss you. Imagine women feeling elated
that you finally kissed them. Think of
them passionately kissing you back. The
more you rehearse these outcomes the more
unwavering your belief becomes that women
are yearning and willing to kiss you.
Here's a quick way of testing right now
how unwavering your beliefs are. If your
intended outcome, for example, was to
engage very beautiful in conversation,
could you follow through?
Even if you answered, "yes," it doesn't
mean you have the unwavering belief that
you can engage beautiful women.
Thinking you can do something is very
different from having the unwavering belief
that you can do something.
Years ago, for example, I was at a seminar
where the teacher purported to give men
confidence. Afterwards, many of the
attendees felt, they could talk to any
woman. But when push came to shove, I
discovered, they were scared to death of
approaching women. These men felt confident
yet had no confidence.
Here's a better test you can do right now.
Close your eyes and imagine a beautiful
woman five feat away from you. Go talk
to her right now without any hesitation.
Don't wait. Do it now. If you can't or feel
yourself wanting to wait a few minutes, you
don't yet have the unwavering belief. You
don't yet have the confidence. You don't
yet have a Strong Intent. But you can.
I can't even begin to describe to you just
how much success with women you're missing
out on by not having a Strong Intent. When
I was first learning how to attract women
I was frustrated because almost all of the
available material was geared toward making
men feel confident and think they could
accomplish their goals with women. But I
soon found out, to my chagrin, this
wasn't good enough. If I wanted to make my
dreams come true, I realized, I needed to
develop real confidence and the unwavering
beliefs that I could accomplish my goals. I
developed a fool-proof system, giving me
the tools to step-by-step develop
unwavering beliefs, confidence, and a
powerful intent, leading to massive
success with women. In my book you'll gain
access to this complete system,
irrevocability changing how women respond
to you for the rest of your life. This,
however, is only part of what you'll learn
from my book. You'll find hundreds of
powerful techniques, skills, and concepts
for attracting women you won't find
anywhere else in the world - period! Just
think what it will be like to finally have
the skills and confidence to plop your butt
in the driver's seat while interacting with
women, giving you the power and choice to
take your interactions with them in the
direction you want. Start getting this area
of your life taken care of right now by
downloading my book.
Your Loyal Dating Coach,
Swinggcat
"Dr. Attraction"
______________________________________________
Copyright 2005 Superior Living Inc. All rights reserved. "Swinggcat" and
"RealWorldSeduction" are trademarks of SuperiorLiving Inc.
Tuesday, January 18, 2005
A Secret For Attracting Women Only The Pros Know...
By Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction
Important Note: Read this newsletter in its entirety because you're going to learn an attraction secret that less than one percent of the world's male population knows about!
The other day I was talking to a buddy of mine, a real rock star at attracting women, about, of all things, Bill Gates. We werediscussing how Gates's financial problems are vastly different from the average person. Bill spends his days fretting over ways to either make more money or sustain the money he has, while most people concern themselves with making money in the first place. The man lives in a completely different reality from most of us. As we were chatting about Mr. Microsoft, something dawned on us...
When it comes to succeeding with women, we realized, we live in a very different reality from most men. In our reality, generating attraction in women is as easy as taking a crap - little effort, yet feels great! The skills and tools for generating attraction are so ingrained in us that when interacting with gorgeous women, there's not even an iota of hemming and hawing over how to attract them. Our focus, instead, is on: using the attraction we already know we can generate in them to get our intended outcome. If there's a woman we're interested in, for example, we don't stand there stiff and stupefied, like a dear caught in headlights, wondering: "How in the world are we going to attract her?" We know, if we just chat with her for a few minutes, it's inevitable that she'll feel attraction toward us. That's why our focus is entirely on, even if we haven't yet said a word to her, using the attraction we already know we can generate in her to get our intended outcome.
But this isn't the reality of most men. "What to do in the wake of a woman feeling attraction toward you?" is a thought never crossing the minds of many a man - and rightfully so...because most can't evengenerate attraction inside women in the first place.
A few nights ago, for example, I was at a little bar down the street from my house. My friend and I watched a forty-somethingyear-old distinguished looking business man play the big passive bottom to the verbal gang bang of two twenty-one year old looking, sponge-brained rhymes-with-witches. The poor bastard attempted to attract these women the only ways he knew how: buying them drinks, giving them lots of compliments, and, worst of all, asking them if they thought his clothes are cool. Funny enough, the more he did these things, the crueler the girls acted toward him. This man was a walking, talking attraction death sentence.
Can you relate? Have you ever felt, every attempt to attract a woman was actually turning her off? Or have you experienced the frustration of trying to figure out why a woman was more attracted to your friend than you? Or maybe you've brooded: Attracting women is as difficult as a blind man trying to find a bobby pin on an open football field. I dunno?
Each scenario represents the reality of not knowing how to attract women. A reality I personally overstayed my welcome. I, however, have moved far away from this reality and now reside in a place where attracting women is cake.
I'm going to share something with you only known, for the most part, by people living in a reality where attracting women is aseasy as turning on a light switch. This is something I don't think I've ever talked about in a newsletter...and might never again. If you've read my book, you'll know what this is. If you've gone out and experimented with it, there's a good chance you understand the power behind it.
Before I get into this I'm going to review some attraction basics.
Realize this: Most women march through life to the rhythms of some drum most men will never hear. My job is to get you to hear those rhythms, so, you can start experiencing massive success with women.Attraction is neither how a woman judges you nor what she prefers. Women prefer men who are tall and dark and lumbered with boa constrictor sized wieners. Think of the guys featured in Calvin Klein, Guess, and Abercrombie catalogues. That's what women prefer! This probably isn't you, and certainly isn't me. But that's okay...because...the men women prefer and the men they feel attraction for are as similar as apples are to oranges. Attraction has very little to with preference. Attraction, instead, is the emotion of a woman wanting and reaching and chasing for more of a man.
This is why you hear many a woman talking about her experiences of feeling attraction toward men whom she finds ugly or as not filling the quota for what she considers to be her type. When you've mastered the mechanisms behind generating attraction, what a woman physically thinks of you will be the least of your concerns.
One of the most effective ways I've found for generating massive amounts of attraction in women, emotionally compelling them to want and reach and chase for more of you, is what I call "Tension Loops." The best part of using Tension Loops is that they generate heaps of attraction in women...regardless of your current looks,social status, or bank account.
A Tension Loop is when you do something to create unresolved emotional tension inside a woman, increase it, release it by bringing closure to it, and then spark it all over again. This will keep her feeling the emotion of wanting and reaching and chasing for more of you.
Soap opera writers use Tension Loops to keep women enraptured in their fictitious dramas for months - sometimes years! Thestructure is always the same. The soap starts off with some form of conflict or drama, sparking unresolved emotional tension. Emotional tension increases up until the point of the climax. The tension, then, is released by bringing some resolution to the conflict or drama. And, finally, the show ends by sparking the tension all over again, compelling women to tune in for next week's show.
Mastering the Tension Loop will give you the kind of power over women that, at first, might scare you. But if you're thinking that this is what I wanted to share with you, you're wrong.
So keep reading...
In a minute, you're going to learn a special type of Tension Loop I call "Push/Pull." If you aren't comfortable with the idea of having the power to generate attraction inside the women you desire, regardless of what they think of you, you might want to stop reading now!
What I'm about to reveal is Jedi mind *shit*. We're talking Yoda power! And you don't have to become Darth Vader to reap the benefits of Push/Pull. Every guy I've come into contact with, who is good with women, uses some form of Push/Pull.
Push/Pull is whenever you emotionally push a woman away from you...and, then, emotionally pull her back in. Each Push creates an emotional space for each Pull. To get a sense of what I'm getting at, think, for example, of your favorite junk food. What if you went on a strict diet for several weeks, depriving yourself of giving in to your urge to eat your favorite food? What would it be like to finally give in to your urge and indulge? I'm willing to bet it would be more intense than if you hadn't gone on your strict diet, yes?
Many women are natural Push/Pull artists. Over the years I've heard dozens of stories from hapless men about women using Push/Pull to pick them up by the scruff of their proverbial neck, slamming their bodies with back-and-forth and side-to-side motions into the ground. My all time favorite story is the one about the gorgeous girl sleeping with a guy and then, after sex, putting his ego on steroids by telling him, "You're the best lover I've ever had." Things, then, alas, take a self-esteem crushing turn for the worse when she undermines her praise with: "Actually, you're the fourth best lover I've ever had." The poor bastard is crushed and he is, as if he were a little worker bee, struggling to move up to thenumber three slot.
We can use these psychological mechanisms without being an A-hole or a Jerk. The key is to make it playful and funny. Your intention should never be to hurt a woman. Your goal is to only mess with her a bit. Do this and women will find you charming and attractive.
Here's an example of Push/Pull I've used probably over a thousand times...
At some point while interacting with a woman I might take her hand and praise, "You have the most amazing smile I've seen tonight...It makes me feel so happy inside!" She'll usually respond with, "Thank you!" Then I'll count the fingers on my other hand and say, "You know what: actually there were four other girls with really amazing smiles tonight as well. Out of them, you have the fourth best smile. I'm going to call you number four." And then I'll push away her hand. More often than not, women demand, "No!!! I want to be number one!" I'll usually retort with, "Alright, I'll promote you to number three for being feisty."
Do women find this derisive and mean? Not at all (Note: once in while you'll encounter a psychologically damaged woman who doesn't think this is cute. She is the exception and not the rule. My advice: run away from these types of women, quickly). Most women find this funny, charming, and playful. More importantly, it generates attraction: the emotion of wanting and reaching and chasing for more of you.
Push/Pull is the crème de la crème ofattraction tools. Master Push/Pull and you'll leave women no choice but to feel attraction toward you...even if they're repulsed by your physical appearance. Realize that this is a newsletter and I'm only scratching the surface of Push/Pull. In my book, you'll learn six types ofPush/Pull: Intentional Undermining, Guilty Conscience, Emotional Rollercoaster, Revealing & Concealing, and Good Cop/ Bad Cop. You'll discover body language techniques for using Push/Pull and read about a powerful Push/Pull secret for getting physical with a woman...even if she tells you, she's not attracted to you. My book isthe only place on the planet where you'll learn about Push/Pull. This, however, only scratches the surface of what you'll gain from my attraction guide. It's a complete education on attracting women,giving you the tools to transform yourself into the kind of man women feel attraction toward. Just think what it will be like tofinally have the skills and confidence to plop your butt in the driver's seat while interacting with women, giving you the power and choice to take your interactions with them in the direction you want. Start getting this area of your life taken care of right now by downloading my book.
Real World Seduction
Your Loyal Dating Coach,
Swinggcat
"Dr. of Attraction"
______________________________________________
Copyright 2005 Superior Living Inc. All rights reserved. "Swinggcat"
and "RealWorldSeduction" are trademarks of Superior Living Inc.
Important Note: Read this newsletter in its entirety because you're going to learn an attraction secret that less than one percent of the world's male population knows about!
The other day I was talking to a buddy of mine, a real rock star at attracting women, about, of all things, Bill Gates. We werediscussing how Gates's financial problems are vastly different from the average person. Bill spends his days fretting over ways to either make more money or sustain the money he has, while most people concern themselves with making money in the first place. The man lives in a completely different reality from most of us. As we were chatting about Mr. Microsoft, something dawned on us...
When it comes to succeeding with women, we realized, we live in a very different reality from most men. In our reality, generating attraction in women is as easy as taking a crap - little effort, yet feels great! The skills and tools for generating attraction are so ingrained in us that when interacting with gorgeous women, there's not even an iota of hemming and hawing over how to attract them. Our focus, instead, is on: using the attraction we already know we can generate in them to get our intended outcome. If there's a woman we're interested in, for example, we don't stand there stiff and stupefied, like a dear caught in headlights, wondering: "How in the world are we going to attract her?" We know, if we just chat with her for a few minutes, it's inevitable that she'll feel attraction toward us. That's why our focus is entirely on, even if we haven't yet said a word to her, using the attraction we already know we can generate in her to get our intended outcome.
But this isn't the reality of most men. "What to do in the wake of a woman feeling attraction toward you?" is a thought never crossing the minds of many a man - and rightfully so...because most can't evengenerate attraction inside women in the first place.
A few nights ago, for example, I was at a little bar down the street from my house. My friend and I watched a forty-somethingyear-old distinguished looking business man play the big passive bottom to the verbal gang bang of two twenty-one year old looking, sponge-brained rhymes-with-witches. The poor bastard attempted to attract these women the only ways he knew how: buying them drinks, giving them lots of compliments, and, worst of all, asking them if they thought his clothes are cool. Funny enough, the more he did these things, the crueler the girls acted toward him. This man was a walking, talking attraction death sentence.
Can you relate? Have you ever felt, every attempt to attract a woman was actually turning her off? Or have you experienced the frustration of trying to figure out why a woman was more attracted to your friend than you? Or maybe you've brooded: Attracting women is as difficult as a blind man trying to find a bobby pin on an open football field. I dunno?
Each scenario represents the reality of not knowing how to attract women. A reality I personally overstayed my welcome. I, however, have moved far away from this reality and now reside in a place where attracting women is cake.
I'm going to share something with you only known, for the most part, by people living in a reality where attracting women is aseasy as turning on a light switch. This is something I don't think I've ever talked about in a newsletter...and might never again. If you've read my book, you'll know what this is. If you've gone out and experimented with it, there's a good chance you understand the power behind it.
Before I get into this I'm going to review some attraction basics.
Realize this: Most women march through life to the rhythms of some drum most men will never hear. My job is to get you to hear those rhythms, so, you can start experiencing massive success with women.Attraction is neither how a woman judges you nor what she prefers. Women prefer men who are tall and dark and lumbered with boa constrictor sized wieners. Think of the guys featured in Calvin Klein, Guess, and Abercrombie catalogues. That's what women prefer! This probably isn't you, and certainly isn't me. But that's okay...because...the men women prefer and the men they feel attraction for are as similar as apples are to oranges. Attraction has very little to with preference. Attraction, instead, is the emotion of a woman wanting and reaching and chasing for more of a man.
This is why you hear many a woman talking about her experiences of feeling attraction toward men whom she finds ugly or as not filling the quota for what she considers to be her type. When you've mastered the mechanisms behind generating attraction, what a woman physically thinks of you will be the least of your concerns.
One of the most effective ways I've found for generating massive amounts of attraction in women, emotionally compelling them to want and reach and chase for more of you, is what I call "Tension Loops." The best part of using Tension Loops is that they generate heaps of attraction in women...regardless of your current looks,social status, or bank account.
A Tension Loop is when you do something to create unresolved emotional tension inside a woman, increase it, release it by bringing closure to it, and then spark it all over again. This will keep her feeling the emotion of wanting and reaching and chasing for more of you.
Soap opera writers use Tension Loops to keep women enraptured in their fictitious dramas for months - sometimes years! Thestructure is always the same. The soap starts off with some form of conflict or drama, sparking unresolved emotional tension. Emotional tension increases up until the point of the climax. The tension, then, is released by bringing some resolution to the conflict or drama. And, finally, the show ends by sparking the tension all over again, compelling women to tune in for next week's show.
Mastering the Tension Loop will give you the kind of power over women that, at first, might scare you. But if you're thinking that this is what I wanted to share with you, you're wrong.
So keep reading...
In a minute, you're going to learn a special type of Tension Loop I call "Push/Pull." If you aren't comfortable with the idea of having the power to generate attraction inside the women you desire, regardless of what they think of you, you might want to stop reading now!
What I'm about to reveal is Jedi mind *shit*. We're talking Yoda power! And you don't have to become Darth Vader to reap the benefits of Push/Pull. Every guy I've come into contact with, who is good with women, uses some form of Push/Pull.
Push/Pull is whenever you emotionally push a woman away from you...and, then, emotionally pull her back in. Each Push creates an emotional space for each Pull. To get a sense of what I'm getting at, think, for example, of your favorite junk food. What if you went on a strict diet for several weeks, depriving yourself of giving in to your urge to eat your favorite food? What would it be like to finally give in to your urge and indulge? I'm willing to bet it would be more intense than if you hadn't gone on your strict diet, yes?
Many women are natural Push/Pull artists. Over the years I've heard dozens of stories from hapless men about women using Push/Pull to pick them up by the scruff of their proverbial neck, slamming their bodies with back-and-forth and side-to-side motions into the ground. My all time favorite story is the one about the gorgeous girl sleeping with a guy and then, after sex, putting his ego on steroids by telling him, "You're the best lover I've ever had." Things, then, alas, take a self-esteem crushing turn for the worse when she undermines her praise with: "Actually, you're the fourth best lover I've ever had." The poor bastard is crushed and he is, as if he were a little worker bee, struggling to move up to thenumber three slot.
We can use these psychological mechanisms without being an A-hole or a Jerk. The key is to make it playful and funny. Your intention should never be to hurt a woman. Your goal is to only mess with her a bit. Do this and women will find you charming and attractive.
Here's an example of Push/Pull I've used probably over a thousand times...
At some point while interacting with a woman I might take her hand and praise, "You have the most amazing smile I've seen tonight...It makes me feel so happy inside!" She'll usually respond with, "Thank you!" Then I'll count the fingers on my other hand and say, "You know what: actually there were four other girls with really amazing smiles tonight as well. Out of them, you have the fourth best smile. I'm going to call you number four." And then I'll push away her hand. More often than not, women demand, "No!!! I want to be number one!" I'll usually retort with, "Alright, I'll promote you to number three for being feisty."
Do women find this derisive and mean? Not at all (Note: once in while you'll encounter a psychologically damaged woman who doesn't think this is cute. She is the exception and not the rule. My advice: run away from these types of women, quickly). Most women find this funny, charming, and playful. More importantly, it generates attraction: the emotion of wanting and reaching and chasing for more of you.
Push/Pull is the crème de la crème ofattraction tools. Master Push/Pull and you'll leave women no choice but to feel attraction toward you...even if they're repulsed by your physical appearance. Realize that this is a newsletter and I'm only scratching the surface of Push/Pull. In my book, you'll learn six types ofPush/Pull: Intentional Undermining, Guilty Conscience, Emotional Rollercoaster, Revealing & Concealing, and Good Cop/ Bad Cop. You'll discover body language techniques for using Push/Pull and read about a powerful Push/Pull secret for getting physical with a woman...even if she tells you, she's not attracted to you. My book isthe only place on the planet where you'll learn about Push/Pull. This, however, only scratches the surface of what you'll gain from my attraction guide. It's a complete education on attracting women,giving you the tools to transform yourself into the kind of man women feel attraction toward. Just think what it will be like tofinally have the skills and confidence to plop your butt in the driver's seat while interacting with women, giving you the power and choice to take your interactions with them in the direction you want. Start getting this area of your life taken care of right now by downloading my book.
Real World Seduction
Your Loyal Dating Coach,
Swinggcat
"Dr. of Attraction"
______________________________________________
Copyright 2005 Superior Living Inc. All rights reserved. "Swinggcat"
and "RealWorldSeduction" are trademarks of Superior Living Inc.
Tuesday, December 28, 2004
Appeal To Women's Self-Interest, Never Their Gratitude...
Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction
Comment:
Hey, my name is K. and I'm 19. I started reading your material bout a month ago. I was always a good looking guy but I was never successful with women because I never knew how to interact with them or how to create attraction...After reading your material I was a CHANGED MAN. THANK YOU....
Using your techniques I met this hot girl at a party (redhead, sexy bod, nice breasts, awesome personality, 6'0) a F-ing hotty at its best. I teased her the entire night. When talking to her I charmed her friend, INSTEAD of her and teased her right in front of her friend, which got her very interested....At the end of thenight I easily got her #.
Called her a few nights later and then we went out. On the first date
I used:
-massive prizability techniques-the "point system" telling her she lost and won points for certain things. This got a very good reaction-showed interest in her then completely ignored her at times These mixed messages also got her very intrigued-gave her compliments then quickly teased her about something. -lots of cold reading. Cold reading gets such a GOOD reaction with women...they become so interested in hearing what you have to say about them.
So the date ended, and I didn't call her after the date. In fact, SHE CALLED ME 4 days later after I didn't call her...she was clearly chasin me because she saw me as the prize. I told her that I didn't call her because she smokes which I didn't like (which was a lie) and I said to her that Id give her "another chance"....which she thought to herself "who the F is this guy" (which she told me) but got her VERY interested.
So we had a 2nd date, went over well, and i ended up at her house....we made out, got really intense on the foreplay then itold her I had to leave..............and left. This girl is soooo wild, I can't even write it out...
3rd date will be a charm.
Thanks for the material you've published....I'm a diff person cause of it, not just with women but with people in general. Once again,thank you. It's amazing how easy it is to win women now, and how easy it is to tell what they want.
K - Washington
Swinggcat responds:
Great job bro. You're well on your way to becoming...Darth Vader. Just play'n.
You've really put into use many of the attraction techniques and concepts in my book: Push-Pull, Prizability, Prizing, Open Loops, Tension Loops, Cold Reading, Point System...and so on. You get my highest rating: an A-.
"I was always a good looking guy but I was never successful with women because I never knew how to interact with them or how to create attraction."
There's no denying it, looks can help. But the most important element, by far, is mastering the necessary skills to generateATTRACTION in women.
I know many "conventionally" good looking guys who can't ATTRACT women...even if their life depended on it. Likewise, some of myfriends are butt ugly yet endowed with the opposite problem most men have: so many attractive women want to sleep with them thatthey are always struggling to squeeze in a few minutes of alone time. Imagine that: Having so many women in your life that you lookforward to and covet a Saturday night alone.
Some people - especially those who've not yet studied my book - might misconstrue the techniques you used as mean and manipulative.Trying to win a woman over by doing "conventionally" nice things for her (think, for example, of buying her dinners, listening to her problems...and so on) is, ironically, more manipulative and a heck of a lot less effective than the techniques you used.
A basic law of persuasion is to always appeal to people's self-interest, never their gratitude. Put simply, goading a womanto feel thankful or guilty or that she owes you for all of the things you've done for her will NEVER generate ANY ATTRACTION in her. Many a woman will, in fact, feel that you're trying to manipulate her.
You, however, used techniques appealing to this woman's self-interest. I'm willing to go out on a limb that this woman would have felt less comfort and trust with you if you had tried to win her over by appealing to her gratitude.
Also, a man trying to generate attraction in a woman by appealing to her gratitude will come across as needy and smothering.
When you, instead, appeal to their self-interest, like you did, it creates a space, allowing them to feel attraction toward you and chase you all on their own.
Let's look at some examples of how you did this:
"I teased her the entire night. When talking to her I charmed her friend, INSTEAD of her and teased her right in front of her friend, which got her very interested....At the end of the night I easily got her #."
This is great! I'm sure there are some guys reading this, thinking, "What the F! If you tease and make fun of her, you risk messing up your chances with her."
Although counterintuitive, this couldn't be further from the truth. The more you worry about messing up your chances with a girl, the more likely you are to mess up your chances with her.
Most of the time women think men are interested in them. When you intentionally act in ways that undermine your interest in a woman - such as, teasing her - it plants a seed of doubt in her mind, making her think: "maybe he isn't interested."
One of the quickest ways a man can generate attraction with a woman is by not showing any attachment, worry or care about his intendedoutcome with her while simultaneously letting her know that he believes she is massively attracted to him. I suspect you conveyedthis through teasing her. Not in a mean, insulting way, conveying that you have a penchant for freelance dentistry, making her feel like you're on the cusp of pulling her teeth out with a pair of rusty pliers.
You teased her, instead, playfully, letting her know that you know how much she likes you and conveying that you could care less ifanything ensues.
When you tease a woman in this way the subtext is that you are the Prize she is trying to win over. She is chasing you. There is moreto gain for her than for you. You are appealing to her self-interest, not her gratitude.
You charmed and flirted with her friend while she was present and it increased the attraction - good for you.
Some women claim to be turned off by this. In my experience, however, women are attracted to men that are desired by other women. I can think of heaps of situations where a woman'sattraction toward me grew exponentially as she watched other women, charmed by my presence, vie for my attention.
"So the date ended, and I didn't call her after the date. In fact, SHE CALLED ME 4 days later after I didn't call her...she wasclearly chasin me because she saw me as the prize. I told her that I didn't call her because she smokes which I didn't like (which was a lie) and I said to her that I'd give her "another chance"....which she thought to herself "who the F is this guy" (which she told me) but got her VERY interested."
Good stuff. Did you not call her because you earnestly didn't think of calling her, or were you playing hard to get? If I feel likecalling a girl I just met, I call her ASAP. Am I risking her knowing that I dig her? Yes...but who cares? Women aren't turned off by men liking them. They are turned off by men attached to the outcome of getting together with them. This is called "neediness."
Telling her that you didn't call her because she smokes was a lie. Some women will see through this, exposing your attachment to theoutcome.
If you want to take your attraction skills a step further, sit down, get out a piece of paper, and take a few moments to come upwith what your standards and expectations with women are. Don't just come up with deal breakers. Think of all the annoying things women do that you are willing to tolerate if they have other qualities you like. The next time a woman does something that is annoying but you're willing to make an exception, tell her. You'll get a lot ofmileage out of this gem. If you don't get why this is powerful you need to reread my book.
"So we had a 2nd date, went over well, and i ended up at her house....we made out, got really intense on the foreplay then i told her I had to leave..............and left. This girl is soooo wild, I can't even write it out..."
Very nice! I do this too. Give a woman tremendous pleasure...but incompletely, leaving her wanting more.
Women are hit on all the time - especially if they're attractive. Looks, money, and fame sometimes appeal to women's self-interest...but usually it's short lived.
Fact: Some poor, fat, old, bald and ugly men attract heaps of gorgeous women...and these women find it in their self-interest to be with these men. Why?Because these men have mastered the underlying mechanisms for generating massive attraction in women.
What would life be like if you really had the necessary attraction skills to make beautiful women feel it's in their self-interest tobe with you?
Do you think it's possible?
I know it's possible and within your reach. Because I've made it my reality and I've taught others of all shapes and forms, coming fromall walks of life, making it a reality for them. Join the fun and make this a part of your reality too by allowing me to step-by-step spoon-feed you the tools you need to become the guy women can't get enough of. Download my book today.
Comment:
Hey, my name is K. and I'm 19. I started reading your material bout a month ago. I was always a good looking guy but I was never successful with women because I never knew how to interact with them or how to create attraction...After reading your material I was a CHANGED MAN. THANK YOU....
Using your techniques I met this hot girl at a party (redhead, sexy bod, nice breasts, awesome personality, 6'0) a F-ing hotty at its best. I teased her the entire night. When talking to her I charmed her friend, INSTEAD of her and teased her right in front of her friend, which got her very interested....At the end of thenight I easily got her #.
Called her a few nights later and then we went out. On the first date
I used:
-massive prizability techniques-the "point system" telling her she lost and won points for certain things. This got a very good reaction-showed interest in her then completely ignored her at times These mixed messages also got her very intrigued-gave her compliments then quickly teased her about something. -lots of cold reading. Cold reading gets such a GOOD reaction with women...they become so interested in hearing what you have to say about them.
So the date ended, and I didn't call her after the date. In fact, SHE CALLED ME 4 days later after I didn't call her...she was clearly chasin me because she saw me as the prize. I told her that I didn't call her because she smokes which I didn't like (which was a lie) and I said to her that Id give her "another chance"....which she thought to herself "who the F is this guy" (which she told me) but got her VERY interested.
So we had a 2nd date, went over well, and i ended up at her house....we made out, got really intense on the foreplay then itold her I had to leave..............and left. This girl is soooo wild, I can't even write it out...
3rd date will be a charm.
Thanks for the material you've published....I'm a diff person cause of it, not just with women but with people in general. Once again,thank you. It's amazing how easy it is to win women now, and how easy it is to tell what they want.
K - Washington
Swinggcat responds:
Great job bro. You're well on your way to becoming...Darth Vader. Just play'n.
You've really put into use many of the attraction techniques and concepts in my book: Push-Pull, Prizability, Prizing, Open Loops, Tension Loops, Cold Reading, Point System...and so on. You get my highest rating: an A-.
"I was always a good looking guy but I was never successful with women because I never knew how to interact with them or how to create attraction."
There's no denying it, looks can help. But the most important element, by far, is mastering the necessary skills to generateATTRACTION in women.
I know many "conventionally" good looking guys who can't ATTRACT women...even if their life depended on it. Likewise, some of myfriends are butt ugly yet endowed with the opposite problem most men have: so many attractive women want to sleep with them thatthey are always struggling to squeeze in a few minutes of alone time. Imagine that: Having so many women in your life that you lookforward to and covet a Saturday night alone.
Some people - especially those who've not yet studied my book - might misconstrue the techniques you used as mean and manipulative.Trying to win a woman over by doing "conventionally" nice things for her (think, for example, of buying her dinners, listening to her problems...and so on) is, ironically, more manipulative and a heck of a lot less effective than the techniques you used.
A basic law of persuasion is to always appeal to people's self-interest, never their gratitude. Put simply, goading a womanto feel thankful or guilty or that she owes you for all of the things you've done for her will NEVER generate ANY ATTRACTION in her. Many a woman will, in fact, feel that you're trying to manipulate her.
You, however, used techniques appealing to this woman's self-interest. I'm willing to go out on a limb that this woman would have felt less comfort and trust with you if you had tried to win her over by appealing to her gratitude.
Also, a man trying to generate attraction in a woman by appealing to her gratitude will come across as needy and smothering.
When you, instead, appeal to their self-interest, like you did, it creates a space, allowing them to feel attraction toward you and chase you all on their own.
Let's look at some examples of how you did this:
"I teased her the entire night. When talking to her I charmed her friend, INSTEAD of her and teased her right in front of her friend, which got her very interested....At the end of the night I easily got her #."
This is great! I'm sure there are some guys reading this, thinking, "What the F! If you tease and make fun of her, you risk messing up your chances with her."
Although counterintuitive, this couldn't be further from the truth. The more you worry about messing up your chances with a girl, the more likely you are to mess up your chances with her.
Most of the time women think men are interested in them. When you intentionally act in ways that undermine your interest in a woman - such as, teasing her - it plants a seed of doubt in her mind, making her think: "maybe he isn't interested."
One of the quickest ways a man can generate attraction with a woman is by not showing any attachment, worry or care about his intendedoutcome with her while simultaneously letting her know that he believes she is massively attracted to him. I suspect you conveyedthis through teasing her. Not in a mean, insulting way, conveying that you have a penchant for freelance dentistry, making her feel like you're on the cusp of pulling her teeth out with a pair of rusty pliers.
You teased her, instead, playfully, letting her know that you know how much she likes you and conveying that you could care less ifanything ensues.
When you tease a woman in this way the subtext is that you are the Prize she is trying to win over. She is chasing you. There is moreto gain for her than for you. You are appealing to her self-interest, not her gratitude.
You charmed and flirted with her friend while she was present and it increased the attraction - good for you.
Some women claim to be turned off by this. In my experience, however, women are attracted to men that are desired by other women. I can think of heaps of situations where a woman'sattraction toward me grew exponentially as she watched other women, charmed by my presence, vie for my attention.
"So the date ended, and I didn't call her after the date. In fact, SHE CALLED ME 4 days later after I didn't call her...she wasclearly chasin me because she saw me as the prize. I told her that I didn't call her because she smokes which I didn't like (which was a lie) and I said to her that I'd give her "another chance"....which she thought to herself "who the F is this guy" (which she told me) but got her VERY interested."
Good stuff. Did you not call her because you earnestly didn't think of calling her, or were you playing hard to get? If I feel likecalling a girl I just met, I call her ASAP. Am I risking her knowing that I dig her? Yes...but who cares? Women aren't turned off by men liking them. They are turned off by men attached to the outcome of getting together with them. This is called "neediness."
Telling her that you didn't call her because she smokes was a lie. Some women will see through this, exposing your attachment to theoutcome.
If you want to take your attraction skills a step further, sit down, get out a piece of paper, and take a few moments to come upwith what your standards and expectations with women are. Don't just come up with deal breakers. Think of all the annoying things women do that you are willing to tolerate if they have other qualities you like. The next time a woman does something that is annoying but you're willing to make an exception, tell her. You'll get a lot ofmileage out of this gem. If you don't get why this is powerful you need to reread my book.
"So we had a 2nd date, went over well, and i ended up at her house....we made out, got really intense on the foreplay then i told her I had to leave..............and left. This girl is soooo wild, I can't even write it out..."
Very nice! I do this too. Give a woman tremendous pleasure...but incompletely, leaving her wanting more.
Women are hit on all the time - especially if they're attractive. Looks, money, and fame sometimes appeal to women's self-interest...but usually it's short lived.
Fact: Some poor, fat, old, bald and ugly men attract heaps of gorgeous women...and these women find it in their self-interest to be with these men. Why?Because these men have mastered the underlying mechanisms for generating massive attraction in women.
What would life be like if you really had the necessary attraction skills to make beautiful women feel it's in their self-interest tobe with you?
Do you think it's possible?
I know it's possible and within your reach. Because I've made it my reality and I've taught others of all shapes and forms, coming fromall walks of life, making it a reality for them. Join the fun and make this a part of your reality too by allowing me to step-by-step spoon-feed you the tools you need to become the guy women can't get enough of. Download my book today.
Your Loyal Dating Coach,
Swinggcat
"Dr. of Attraction"
P.S.-If you have a success story you would like to share, or a question you would like to ask, or a comment you would like to make, please email me at: swinggcat@realworldseduction.com
Include the fist initial of your first and last name. And include the country, state/province, and city you live in.
This whole "learning" thing goes both ways, you know! Oh, and be sure not to just hit "reply" to this email, because I won't get it! Thanks!
______________________________________________
Copyright 2004 Superior Living Inc. All rights reserved.
Swinggcat and RealWorldSeduction are trademarks of Superior Living Inc.
Monday, December 27, 2004
Great Dating, Seduction, & Attraction Learning Source
Here's a great Dating, Seduction and Attraction Learning Source to check out. There's some great links to resources on the subject of dating and seduction
http://www.realworldseduction.com/datingdirectory.htm
Enjoy!
LoveStyles
http://www.realworldseduction.com/datingdirectory.htm
Enjoy!
LoveStyles
Monday, November 22, 2004
How To Get More Power & Choice With Women Part 4
By Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction
Question:
Hey Swinggcat,
I got your book which I think is great. I especially liked the part where you said to a girl that since she wasn't bi-sexual, therelationship wouldn't work out because she'd bring ugly girls home. I laughed for 10 min about that one. I really like that you assign homework in your book which gives a goal that I feel that I have to meet, instead of just reading through a book and then saying 'ok, now what?'
Awhile ago I met this girl and ever since I've been teasing her, being funny and flirtatious. At one point she called me out and said that I had flirted with her since the day I met her which just proves how good girls are at picking up on that stuff (I was honestly just being myself and not trying to 'hit on her'). But she picked up on the flirting instantly.
There have been several times now where I could have hooked up with her but I choose not to because I can wait and because I can literally feel the sexual tension building, which I know is a good thing. Last night after she left my place she sent me an instant message which goes like this:
Her: why are you so shy?
ME: why do you want to know?
Her: you are more mysterious than i am...and it drives me insane
ME: good, my plan is working then
Her: haha, honestly, i'm curious
Her: i feel like u are afraid to talk to me
Her: BUT you intrigue the hell out of me...so i cant stop talking to you
ME: i'm not afraid to talk to you
Her: im going to break your shell
Her: and i did not mean that sexually
ME: well yeah, cause that shell's already broken
Her: lol
Her: fine, no pulling teeth tonight
ME: well good cause I need my teeth to eat
Her: im mad that i actually laughed out loud to that
Her: but i will find out your secret
she then tells me that she can't figure out why ihaven't made a move on her yet, but that she'sabsolutely intrigued and can't get enough of it. and that she hates talking online cause she wants a serious answer. which from reading your material and other stuff like it i know not to give her. so my question is, now that i've got this sexual tension built up, do i keep going with it? or do i 'make a move'?
i'm not so concerned about this situation inparticular. i just want to know in general is itbetter to keep building the tension until she is so frustrated/intrigued that she'll make the first move? or is it better to take the lead and make a move on my terms?
thanks
H from Philly
Swinggcat Responds:
First off: Great job for the work you did thus far.
I'd, though, get physical with her ASAP. I'm all for building tension, but if you let too much time elapse, things will fizzle out.
Sometimes I don't give women direct answers; other times I do. It really depends on the context. But, even if I tell a woman a lot about me, I'm always careful to leave something incomplete, making her come back for more.
Many times - not always - a woman accusing a man she's flirting with of being shy or gay is a sign that she is interested but feels he isn't giving her back any salient signs of interest.
Often times, responding to these accusation by acting nervous and insecure, or trying to prove to her that they aren't true, will kill any attraction that is there. There are exceptions, but, generally speaking, they will exterminate attraction faster than a can of Raid kills insects. When a woman accuses you of being shy, you need to turn it around on her.
I'm going to share something with you I wasn't going to put in a newsletter because it's that good. But what the heck - I'm feeling generous today.
Next time she accuses you of being shy, say, "You know what: I'm usually not shy around girl but, yes, I'm a little shy around you. To be honest, you scare me." She'll inevitably ask you why. Respond to her in a sarcastic tone with, "because you are already trying to domesticate me and we barely even know each other yet."
There is a lot of subtle and powerful communication in this. If you have read my book carefully you probably have an understanding of the power behind this. You should, nonetheless, reread the chapters on frames and reframing; and also, reread the newsletter, Turning Barriers Into Benefits. As your understanding of these concepts grow, you'll become lightening fast at coming up with on-the-fly, witty quips and comebacks to accusations women make toward you. Because my book breaks down the secret mechanisms behind successful comebacks, your need to have canned lines will be eliminated. In my upcoming audio course I go even deeper into the psychology of the comeback, giving you even more control over your interactions withwomen.
But if you have NOT yet downloaded a copy of my book, do so. It really lays the foundation for everything I'm going teach in my audio course.
Think back to all the times you might have gotten a girl but didn't because you didn't know what to say or how to respond. Stop letting these opportunities slip you by and let me spoon-feed you the necessary skills, giving you the power to always have the right words in every situation.
Do something about this part of your life today by downloading my book.
Real World Seduction
Your Loyal Dating Coach,
Swinggcat
Question:
Hey Swinggcat,
I got your book which I think is great. I especially liked the part where you said to a girl that since she wasn't bi-sexual, therelationship wouldn't work out because she'd bring ugly girls home. I laughed for 10 min about that one. I really like that you assign homework in your book which gives a goal that I feel that I have to meet, instead of just reading through a book and then saying 'ok, now what?'
Awhile ago I met this girl and ever since I've been teasing her, being funny and flirtatious. At one point she called me out and said that I had flirted with her since the day I met her which just proves how good girls are at picking up on that stuff (I was honestly just being myself and not trying to 'hit on her'). But she picked up on the flirting instantly.
There have been several times now where I could have hooked up with her but I choose not to because I can wait and because I can literally feel the sexual tension building, which I know is a good thing. Last night after she left my place she sent me an instant message which goes like this:
Her: why are you so shy?
ME: why do you want to know?
Her: you are more mysterious than i am...and it drives me insane
ME: good, my plan is working then
Her: haha, honestly, i'm curious
Her: i feel like u are afraid to talk to me
Her: BUT you intrigue the hell out of me...so i cant stop talking to you
ME: i'm not afraid to talk to you
Her: im going to break your shell
Her: and i did not mean that sexually
ME: well yeah, cause that shell's already broken
Her: lol
Her: fine, no pulling teeth tonight
ME: well good cause I need my teeth to eat
Her: im mad that i actually laughed out loud to that
Her: but i will find out your secret
she then tells me that she can't figure out why ihaven't made a move on her yet, but that she'sabsolutely intrigued and can't get enough of it. and that she hates talking online cause she wants a serious answer. which from reading your material and other stuff like it i know not to give her. so my question is, now that i've got this sexual tension built up, do i keep going with it? or do i 'make a move'?
i'm not so concerned about this situation inparticular. i just want to know in general is itbetter to keep building the tension until she is so frustrated/intrigued that she'll make the first move? or is it better to take the lead and make a move on my terms?
thanks
H from Philly
Swinggcat Responds:
First off: Great job for the work you did thus far.
I'd, though, get physical with her ASAP. I'm all for building tension, but if you let too much time elapse, things will fizzle out.
Sometimes I don't give women direct answers; other times I do. It really depends on the context. But, even if I tell a woman a lot about me, I'm always careful to leave something incomplete, making her come back for more.
Many times - not always - a woman accusing a man she's flirting with of being shy or gay is a sign that she is interested but feels he isn't giving her back any salient signs of interest.
Often times, responding to these accusation by acting nervous and insecure, or trying to prove to her that they aren't true, will kill any attraction that is there. There are exceptions, but, generally speaking, they will exterminate attraction faster than a can of Raid kills insects. When a woman accuses you of being shy, you need to turn it around on her.
I'm going to share something with you I wasn't going to put in a newsletter because it's that good. But what the heck - I'm feeling generous today.
Next time she accuses you of being shy, say, "You know what: I'm usually not shy around girl but, yes, I'm a little shy around you. To be honest, you scare me." She'll inevitably ask you why. Respond to her in a sarcastic tone with, "because you are already trying to domesticate me and we barely even know each other yet."
There is a lot of subtle and powerful communication in this. If you have read my book carefully you probably have an understanding of the power behind this. You should, nonetheless, reread the chapters on frames and reframing; and also, reread the newsletter, Turning Barriers Into Benefits. As your understanding of these concepts grow, you'll become lightening fast at coming up with on-the-fly, witty quips and comebacks to accusations women make toward you. Because my book breaks down the secret mechanisms behind successful comebacks, your need to have canned lines will be eliminated. In my upcoming audio course I go even deeper into the psychology of the comeback, giving you even more control over your interactions withwomen.
But if you have NOT yet downloaded a copy of my book, do so. It really lays the foundation for everything I'm going teach in my audio course.
Think back to all the times you might have gotten a girl but didn't because you didn't know what to say or how to respond. Stop letting these opportunities slip you by and let me spoon-feed you the necessary skills, giving you the power to always have the right words in every situation.
Do something about this part of your life today by downloading my book.
Real World Seduction
Your Loyal Dating Coach,
Swinggcat
How To Get More Power & Choice With Women Part 3
By Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction
Comment:
Awesome book dude...I`m a big fan....I had already read a friend's copy...would like to say that your stuff is well thought out & wasa big investment of your time to put to paper. Well worth the money. I've read almost every book out there...Yours is in the top 5% of actual hard core field useful stuff....good work...I'll be inline when you do a Part 2. This is actionable material...that a guy could read & do same day.
Thanks
F from California
Swinggcat Responds:
I'm glad you're getting a lot of use out of my book - that gives me a real thrill. If you liked the book you'll be blown away by thesoon-to-be-released audio course.
Comment:
Awesome book dude...I`m a big fan....I had already read a friend's copy...would like to say that your stuff is well thought out & wasa big investment of your time to put to paper. Well worth the money. I've read almost every book out there...Yours is in the top 5% of actual hard core field useful stuff....good work...I'll be inline when you do a Part 2. This is actionable material...that a guy could read & do same day.
Thanks
F from California
Swinggcat Responds:
I'm glad you're getting a lot of use out of my book - that gives me a real thrill. If you liked the book you'll be blown away by thesoon-to-be-released audio course.
How To Get More Power And Choice With Women Part 2
By Swinggcat – author of Real World Seduction
Question:
Dear SwingCat,
I'm in a messed up situation man. I broke up with my ex. Then did as you
advised (ignored her, went along with my life getting other chicks) and later
found myself making out with her at night in her room :). But I don't know, I
think I messed up again. She started asking me what to do with a guy she "really
likes" who she might visit in 2 weeks. I tried being making fun of him, said
"ha, he could serve us food while we are on vacation" but that got her more
annoyed and we ended up having a fight. She said she is not attracted to me unless
maybe she is very lonely. We fought, I yelled and left.
I don't know now...what do we men do when we sort of created attraction but
are being asked advise about other guys?
Thank you Swinggcat,
A from Detroit
Swinggcat responds:
Listen to me my man...move the F on!
You are putting way too much importance on this girl.
Making fun of her boyfriend only works within
the context of genuinely not giving an S what
she thinks. But she knows you still like her.
Stop trying to get her approval, man. Move
on...this girl seems twisted and sick in the
head. You are better than that.
Question:
Dear SwingCat,
I'm in a messed up situation man. I broke up with my ex. Then did as you
advised (ignored her, went along with my life getting other chicks) and later
found myself making out with her at night in her room :). But I don't know, I
think I messed up again. She started asking me what to do with a guy she "really
likes" who she might visit in 2 weeks. I tried being making fun of him, said
"ha, he could serve us food while we are on vacation" but that got her more
annoyed and we ended up having a fight. She said she is not attracted to me unless
maybe she is very lonely. We fought, I yelled and left.
I don't know now...what do we men do when we sort of created attraction but
are being asked advise about other guys?
Thank you Swinggcat,
A from Detroit
Swinggcat responds:
Listen to me my man...move the F on!
You are putting way too much importance on this girl.
Making fun of her boyfriend only works within
the context of genuinely not giving an S what
she thinks. But she knows you still like her.
Stop trying to get her approval, man. Move
on...this girl seems twisted and sick in the
head. You are better than that.
How To Get More Power & Choice With Women Part 1
by Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction
Question:
Swinggcat,
First of all a massive thanks for these emails - some really great advice and information I would say is worth the price of your book alone. I will definitely be purchasing the book soon. It's great to know you are someone who clearly has done a lot of hard work and knows his stuff inside out. Makes a pleasant change to the crock of shi*t out there.
Basically I was seeing this girl for a couple of months who I then began to really like, unfortunately I turned into a wuss and sent her cringe-worthy emails, saying how much I liked her, etc. She now has no attraction towards me at all obviously. The bad thing is she works in the same building as me so I can't avoid her. So I just want to know what kind of things I could say to her to show I aint no wuss, just really would like to know how to undo a lot of sorry mess I created. I don't really care if I end up back with her ornot (her mate is a lot nicer) but can't have her and her mates thinking I am weak. Would love to shock them!
Any comments appreciated,
M from UK
Swinggcat responds:
First off, I am glad you are getting a lot out of my newsletters. I do put a ton of work into creating the very best materials available for attracting and being successful with women. Many of my competitors are probably pissed, knowing that I am always raising the bar of what "excellent" material is.
As good as you feel my newsletters are you need to read my book. Inside my book you'll discover many understandings and techniques Idon't talk about in newsletters. Put simply, my book will give you a complete understanding of how to attract and succeed with women.
As for you killing the attraction lobotomy-style, eviscerating the part of her brain that felt attraction toward you, suck it up! I'm sure there is a collective "I've been there before too, bro" nod coming from just about every guy reading this.
You say you don't want her back, yet you want to shock her and her friends so they DON'T think you are weak. If you continue to think this way, however, game over, battle lost for you. You'll rise to the top of the Weak-O-Meter. You've got to change your thinking.
Any plan to shock her and her mates is an attempt to get their approval and validation - a tragic try at getting them to see and judge you as strong. Don't feel bad. Just about every guy on the planet has at some point in his life, similar to you, thought: "If I could only get her to see me as strong, witty, sexy...and so on,she'd be attracted to me." Here is the paradox though: The best crack you can take at getting her to see you as strong, is to STOP trying to get her to see you as strong. Seriously...STOP IT!! By caring how she sees and judges you you're, unknowingly, making her your puppet master, allowing her to control you by pulling your strings.
If you cease caring about how she judges you, however, there is a good chance she will perceive you as attractive. But, if she picks up on even a smidgen of you caring how she judges you, your chances of her seeing you as attractive are slim to none.
Question:
Swinggcat,
First of all a massive thanks for these emails - some really great advice and information I would say is worth the price of your book alone. I will definitely be purchasing the book soon. It's great to know you are someone who clearly has done a lot of hard work and knows his stuff inside out. Makes a pleasant change to the crock of shi*t out there.
Basically I was seeing this girl for a couple of months who I then began to really like, unfortunately I turned into a wuss and sent her cringe-worthy emails, saying how much I liked her, etc. She now has no attraction towards me at all obviously. The bad thing is she works in the same building as me so I can't avoid her. So I just want to know what kind of things I could say to her to show I aint no wuss, just really would like to know how to undo a lot of sorry mess I created. I don't really care if I end up back with her ornot (her mate is a lot nicer) but can't have her and her mates thinking I am weak. Would love to shock them!
Any comments appreciated,
M from UK
Swinggcat responds:
First off, I am glad you are getting a lot out of my newsletters. I do put a ton of work into creating the very best materials available for attracting and being successful with women. Many of my competitors are probably pissed, knowing that I am always raising the bar of what "excellent" material is.
As good as you feel my newsletters are you need to read my book. Inside my book you'll discover many understandings and techniques Idon't talk about in newsletters. Put simply, my book will give you a complete understanding of how to attract and succeed with women.
As for you killing the attraction lobotomy-style, eviscerating the part of her brain that felt attraction toward you, suck it up! I'm sure there is a collective "I've been there before too, bro" nod coming from just about every guy reading this.
You say you don't want her back, yet you want to shock her and her friends so they DON'T think you are weak. If you continue to think this way, however, game over, battle lost for you. You'll rise to the top of the Weak-O-Meter. You've got to change your thinking.
Any plan to shock her and her mates is an attempt to get their approval and validation - a tragic try at getting them to see and judge you as strong. Don't feel bad. Just about every guy on the planet has at some point in his life, similar to you, thought: "If I could only get her to see me as strong, witty, sexy...and so on,she'd be attracted to me." Here is the paradox though: The best crack you can take at getting her to see you as strong, is to STOP trying to get her to see you as strong. Seriously...STOP IT!! By caring how she sees and judges you you're, unknowingly, making her your puppet master, allowing her to control you by pulling your strings.
If you cease caring about how she judges you, however, there is a good chance she will perceive you as attractive. But, if she picks up on even a smidgen of you caring how she judges you, your chances of her seeing you as attractive are slim to none.
Thursday, November 18, 2004
Why Most Pick Up Lines Don't Work...And What To Do About It
By Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction
Hey guys, Many a man has been at a bar, spotted an attractive woman and thought to himself, "Wow! She really works those breasts, bouncy bouncy." Next, he went up to talk to her and within the first thirty seconds of conversation the poor bastard went belly up as she hammered him to jelly. He, then, walked away hunchbacked and long faced, wearing anexistential funk ten times the size of his deflated ego.
You can probably relate. I know I can. I've been there about a billion times. Heck! - I used to be so scared to approach an attractive woman that I'd imagine her steamrolling me, leaving me for road kill in her wake. How coolis that - I'd disqualify myself without even talking to her.
Meeting and approaching women is no easy business for those who haven't mastered the necessary skills. Let's take a look at whythis is so.
Realize this: We approach women in the wake of their cuteness - and they know it. Without them uttering a single word, they hook us in.Half the time, even if you find them less attractive than the stench of foot and *ass* combined, they'll still genuinely believe you're hitting on them.
This, of course, is about to change. So keep reading.
Watching most men approach an attractive woman is as depressing as a costume ball for demented children. The woman is like a pro fisherman with top notch bait and the guy is like a poor little fish, soon to be chopped up, fried, and eaten for dinner. Even if he's a fighter, it's too late - he's already on the hook (Albeit, if he happens to be her physical type, he's got a shot at success).
I'm also a fish - but an F-ed up, twisted, über alien barracuda. Just when they feel that they have me on their hook I start throwing bait at them. They start chomping away at the bait and, then, bam - they're on my hook and I'm reeling them in.
Let me give you an example. If I'm at a nightclub, I might stand in a crowed area - maybe near the bar or ladies restroom. As a woman walks by I'll stick out my elbow making it inevitable that she'll bump into it. And then in an overdramatic and offended tone I'll utter: "Ow...you hurt me." Ninety-seven percent of the time, women will stick their hand out to touch me and apologize with some variant of, "Oh my...I'm so sorry." I'll usually shoot back with, "You can touch me but...only if you tell me an interesting story or a funny joke."
Not only is this a bundle of fun but also a powerful means of emotionally hooking a woman. Once most guys find a woman attractive - usually within the first few seconds of meeting her - they start thinking of ways to get her approval, win her over, and prove themselves to her. Put simply, she has them emotionally hooked and she knows it. Just about anything they do to impress her, is a sign she is reeling them in even closer. With my example above, however, I'm doing the opposite. Instead of me proving myself to her, I'm making her prove herself to me. I'm the sought after Prize, not her.
A caveat: In many contexts it is useful to praise and acknowledge qualities about a woman you find worthy. This only works, however, if you communicate to her that your worth is - at the very least - slightly higher than hers.
In every male/female interaction only one person can be the Prize at a given time. Two people can't simultaneously chase each other. There are exceptions but, generally speaking, you want the woman chasing you as a Prize she is trying to win over.
The advantage of having looks, money, fame...or whatever is that sometimes you have a built in hook with women. In and of it self, though, this is not enough to hook most women.
That's why the only foolproof road to success with women is having the knowledge to emotionally hook them regardless of having these things.
I don't care if you have the best pickup lines in the world or the funniest stories or the coolest car or massive biceps...or whatever. If you can't emotionally hook awoman in the first few minutes of meeting her, your chances of success are very slim.
Having, however, the skills and understandings to emotionally hook women, compelling them to want and reach and chase for more of you, will give you so much power and choice with women that the possibilities are endless. I've taken the time and effort to put together a book on attracting women. And a big part of this book is dedicated toemotionally hooking women, making them compelled to want and reach and chase for more of you. You won't find the lion's share of this information in other books. Much of it I discovered through heaps of testing and experimenting with real women in the real world. Realize that knowing how to emotionally hook women will transform everything from meeting and approaching them, to interacting with them, to generating massive attraction in them, to getting physical and sleeping with them.
Just think how your current success with women will change if you take this opportunity to crack open my brain and get an insiders look into how I think by downloading my book today.
Real World Seduction
Your Loyal Dating Coach,
Swinggcat
P.S.-If you have a success story you would like to share, or a question you would like to ask, or a comment you would like to make, please email me at: swinggcat@realworldseduction.com
Include the fist initial of your first and last name. And include the country, state/province, and city you live in.
This whole "learning" thing goes both ways, you know! Oh, and be sure not to just hit "reply" to this email, because I won't get it! Thanks!
Copyright 2004 Superior Living Inc. All rights reserved. Swinggcat and RealWorldSeduction are trademarks of Superior Living Inc.
Hey guys, Many a man has been at a bar, spotted an attractive woman and thought to himself, "Wow! She really works those breasts, bouncy bouncy." Next, he went up to talk to her and within the first thirty seconds of conversation the poor bastard went belly up as she hammered him to jelly. He, then, walked away hunchbacked and long faced, wearing anexistential funk ten times the size of his deflated ego.
You can probably relate. I know I can. I've been there about a billion times. Heck! - I used to be so scared to approach an attractive woman that I'd imagine her steamrolling me, leaving me for road kill in her wake. How coolis that - I'd disqualify myself without even talking to her.
Meeting and approaching women is no easy business for those who haven't mastered the necessary skills. Let's take a look at whythis is so.
Realize this: We approach women in the wake of their cuteness - and they know it. Without them uttering a single word, they hook us in.Half the time, even if you find them less attractive than the stench of foot and *ass* combined, they'll still genuinely believe you're hitting on them.
This, of course, is about to change. So keep reading.
Watching most men approach an attractive woman is as depressing as a costume ball for demented children. The woman is like a pro fisherman with top notch bait and the guy is like a poor little fish, soon to be chopped up, fried, and eaten for dinner. Even if he's a fighter, it's too late - he's already on the hook (Albeit, if he happens to be her physical type, he's got a shot at success).
I'm also a fish - but an F-ed up, twisted, über alien barracuda. Just when they feel that they have me on their hook I start throwing bait at them. They start chomping away at the bait and, then, bam - they're on my hook and I'm reeling them in.
Let me give you an example. If I'm at a nightclub, I might stand in a crowed area - maybe near the bar or ladies restroom. As a woman walks by I'll stick out my elbow making it inevitable that she'll bump into it. And then in an overdramatic and offended tone I'll utter: "Ow...you hurt me." Ninety-seven percent of the time, women will stick their hand out to touch me and apologize with some variant of, "Oh my...I'm so sorry." I'll usually shoot back with, "You can touch me but...only if you tell me an interesting story or a funny joke."
Not only is this a bundle of fun but also a powerful means of emotionally hooking a woman. Once most guys find a woman attractive - usually within the first few seconds of meeting her - they start thinking of ways to get her approval, win her over, and prove themselves to her. Put simply, she has them emotionally hooked and she knows it. Just about anything they do to impress her, is a sign she is reeling them in even closer. With my example above, however, I'm doing the opposite. Instead of me proving myself to her, I'm making her prove herself to me. I'm the sought after Prize, not her.
A caveat: In many contexts it is useful to praise and acknowledge qualities about a woman you find worthy. This only works, however, if you communicate to her that your worth is - at the very least - slightly higher than hers.
In every male/female interaction only one person can be the Prize at a given time. Two people can't simultaneously chase each other. There are exceptions but, generally speaking, you want the woman chasing you as a Prize she is trying to win over.
The advantage of having looks, money, fame...or whatever is that sometimes you have a built in hook with women. In and of it self, though, this is not enough to hook most women.
That's why the only foolproof road to success with women is having the knowledge to emotionally hook them regardless of having these things.
I don't care if you have the best pickup lines in the world or the funniest stories or the coolest car or massive biceps...or whatever. If you can't emotionally hook awoman in the first few minutes of meeting her, your chances of success are very slim.
Having, however, the skills and understandings to emotionally hook women, compelling them to want and reach and chase for more of you, will give you so much power and choice with women that the possibilities are endless. I've taken the time and effort to put together a book on attracting women. And a big part of this book is dedicated toemotionally hooking women, making them compelled to want and reach and chase for more of you. You won't find the lion's share of this information in other books. Much of it I discovered through heaps of testing and experimenting with real women in the real world. Realize that knowing how to emotionally hook women will transform everything from meeting and approaching them, to interacting with them, to generating massive attraction in them, to getting physical and sleeping with them.
Just think how your current success with women will change if you take this opportunity to crack open my brain and get an insiders look into how I think by downloading my book today.
Real World Seduction
Your Loyal Dating Coach,
Swinggcat
P.S.-If you have a success story you would like to share, or a question you would like to ask, or a comment you would like to make, please email me at: swinggcat@realworldseduction.com
Include the fist initial of your first and last name. And include the country, state/province, and city you live in.
This whole "learning" thing goes both ways, you know! Oh, and be sure not to just hit "reply" to this email, because I won't get it! Thanks!
Copyright 2004 Superior Living Inc. All rights reserved. Swinggcat and RealWorldSeduction are trademarks of Superior Living Inc.
Friday, November 05, 2004
The Secret To Getting What You Want From Women...
Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction
A few weeks ago I saw Trey Parker's movie, "Team America: World Police." The whole movie is done with marionette puppets. You might be scratching your head, wondering: "What in the world do marionette puppets have anything to do with increasing my success with women?" As you read on their importance will probably hit you harder than the bottom of a scolding frying pan bi*tch-slapping you against the center of your forehead.
Before I go any further, I've got two questions for you:
1) What kind of success would you realistically like to have with women?
2) When no one is watching, listening, or judging you, what type of success do you fantasize about having with women?
If you earnestly answered both questions, I'm willing to bet you came up with two very different answers. The second question reflects what you truly want; while the first question reflects what you want minus many of your desires society has programmed you to (1)believe you are incapable of having, achieving or experiencing, and (2)feel shame for wanting.
Cultural programming starts around the time we pop out of the womb. Whether it comes from family or friends, T.V. or newspapers...all ofthe above or something entirely different, we are conditioned to believe certain desires are not obtainable. Almost every guy at some point in his life has believed that due to his, for example, looks, weight, height, age, level of education, social status, financial success...and so on, he was incapable of succeeding with certain types of women he desired. In his reality, it was NOT possible.
A lot of guys, furthermore, are culturally conditioned to feel shame for desiring, for example, one night stands, no-strings-attached sex, women ten years younger than them or more,threesomes...and so on, fearing they'll be stigmatized as a player, pimp, or sleazy lounge-lizard.
Some guys will even sabotage a situation where a beautiful woman is massively attracted to them, all because they feel they don't deserve her.
You're probably allowing some form of social programming to HINDER your current success with women. Like a puppet master pulling the strings of a marionette, controlling what it does, our cultural programming pulls our strings, determining our destinies.
I'm going to share with you something that has helped me sever these strings, allowing me to break away from negative cultural programming and, thus, skyrocketing my success with women. This something is what I call: "Finding Your Selfish Zen."
Buddhists strive to reach Zen, an enlightened state of complete detachment from worldly desires and sense of self. I had similar aspirations in college, yet there was one childhood wish I failed to purge myself of. As a teenager I remember looking at my father's back issues of Playboy magazine, thinking: "I want to sleep with heaps of centerfolds, not because they're Mother Teresa incarnate but because they're super hot and look like bundles of debauching mirth." As time went on, this desire didn't ebb; instead, it lingered in my loins. If I was at the supermarket, dog park, beach, club, bar...or wherever and spotted a desirable woman who put, to borrow an idiom from Austin Powers, "the jumbo in my mojo," I wanted to sleep with her, then and there. No strings attached. Norelationship. I wanted to live it up, roman emperor style. Superficial, glib, licentious, lecherous, lewd, lascivious aren't the right words but they're the first ones that come to the collective mind of our culture.
Living out this desire, on the one hand, excited me. On the other hand, it was the ember in me I was trying to extinguish.
The strife within me ended the day I found my selfish Zen. I realized it didn't matter that I yearned to live out a fantasy. Was it superficial? Yes. Was it a result of too much exposure to media, conditioning me from when I was a little ejaculate to lust only after long legged brunettes and busty blondes? I dunno, probably. Was it something biologically hard wired into me? Maybe. Was living out my silly little wish a one-way ticket to life long happiness? Probably not.
The point is: You can live out your desires without playing by societies rules. You can have your cake and eat it too.
Am I against traditional relationships with women? Not at all. There have actually been times in my life where I have sought out and enjoyed traditional relationships.
The issue, however, I am trying to drive home is: Go after what you want with no excuses.
This, in fact, is one of the BIG KEYS to having massive success with women.
One thing I talk a lot about is having a strong intent, which is congruently:
1) Having the desire and the will to do what needs to be done to achieve a particular outcome.
2) Having the unwavering belief that you not only will achieve your intended outcome but also are entitled to obtaining it.
Having even a smattering of doubt, guilt or shame about your goals and desires with women will significantly decrease your success.
In my book you will learn and master the necessary skills and understandings for purging yourself of any doubt, guilt or shame, allowing you to develop a powerful intent. When you couple this with the hundreds of Real-World, Field-Tested, Easy-To-Master secrets you will discover in my book it is inevitable that yoursuccess with women will exponentially balloon. Many other dating experts will tell you: "If you're not good looking, rich, famous or lumbered with an elephant sized trunk between your legs, you've got little chance succeeding with women you truly desire and, therefore, are better off going for someone in your league." This is crap. These people are so steeped in bad cultural programming it's not even funny. I believe you are capable of much much more. Imagine for a second just how much your success with women will soar once you have mastered the skills to purge yourself of everysmidgen of doubt, guilt, and shame. Start making the limits of your possibilities with women nothing short of your imagination, bypicking up a copy of Real World Seduction today.
http://www.realworldseduction.com
'Till next time,
Swinggcat
P.S.-If you have a success story you would like to share, or a question you would like to ask, or a comment you would like to make, please email me at:
swinggcat@realworldseduction.com
Include the fist initial of your first and last name. And include the country, state/province, and city you live in.
This whole "learning" thing goes both ways, you know! Oh, and be sure not to just hit "reply" to this email, because I won't get it!
Thanks!
_________________________________________________
Copyright 2004 Superior Living Inc. All rights reserved. Swinggcat and RealWorldSeduction are trademarks of Superior Living Inc.
A few weeks ago I saw Trey Parker's movie, "Team America: World Police." The whole movie is done with marionette puppets. You might be scratching your head, wondering: "What in the world do marionette puppets have anything to do with increasing my success with women?" As you read on their importance will probably hit you harder than the bottom of a scolding frying pan bi*tch-slapping you against the center of your forehead.
Before I go any further, I've got two questions for you:
1) What kind of success would you realistically like to have with women?
2) When no one is watching, listening, or judging you, what type of success do you fantasize about having with women?
If you earnestly answered both questions, I'm willing to bet you came up with two very different answers. The second question reflects what you truly want; while the first question reflects what you want minus many of your desires society has programmed you to (1)believe you are incapable of having, achieving or experiencing, and (2)feel shame for wanting.
Cultural programming starts around the time we pop out of the womb. Whether it comes from family or friends, T.V. or newspapers...all ofthe above or something entirely different, we are conditioned to believe certain desires are not obtainable. Almost every guy at some point in his life has believed that due to his, for example, looks, weight, height, age, level of education, social status, financial success...and so on, he was incapable of succeeding with certain types of women he desired. In his reality, it was NOT possible.
A lot of guys, furthermore, are culturally conditioned to feel shame for desiring, for example, one night stands, no-strings-attached sex, women ten years younger than them or more,threesomes...and so on, fearing they'll be stigmatized as a player, pimp, or sleazy lounge-lizard.
Some guys will even sabotage a situation where a beautiful woman is massively attracted to them, all because they feel they don't deserve her.
You're probably allowing some form of social programming to HINDER your current success with women. Like a puppet master pulling the strings of a marionette, controlling what it does, our cultural programming pulls our strings, determining our destinies.
I'm going to share with you something that has helped me sever these strings, allowing me to break away from negative cultural programming and, thus, skyrocketing my success with women. This something is what I call: "Finding Your Selfish Zen."
Buddhists strive to reach Zen, an enlightened state of complete detachment from worldly desires and sense of self. I had similar aspirations in college, yet there was one childhood wish I failed to purge myself of. As a teenager I remember looking at my father's back issues of Playboy magazine, thinking: "I want to sleep with heaps of centerfolds, not because they're Mother Teresa incarnate but because they're super hot and look like bundles of debauching mirth." As time went on, this desire didn't ebb; instead, it lingered in my loins. If I was at the supermarket, dog park, beach, club, bar...or wherever and spotted a desirable woman who put, to borrow an idiom from Austin Powers, "the jumbo in my mojo," I wanted to sleep with her, then and there. No strings attached. Norelationship. I wanted to live it up, roman emperor style. Superficial, glib, licentious, lecherous, lewd, lascivious aren't the right words but they're the first ones that come to the collective mind of our culture.
Living out this desire, on the one hand, excited me. On the other hand, it was the ember in me I was trying to extinguish.
The strife within me ended the day I found my selfish Zen. I realized it didn't matter that I yearned to live out a fantasy. Was it superficial? Yes. Was it a result of too much exposure to media, conditioning me from when I was a little ejaculate to lust only after long legged brunettes and busty blondes? I dunno, probably. Was it something biologically hard wired into me? Maybe. Was living out my silly little wish a one-way ticket to life long happiness? Probably not.
The point is: You can live out your desires without playing by societies rules. You can have your cake and eat it too.
Am I against traditional relationships with women? Not at all. There have actually been times in my life where I have sought out and enjoyed traditional relationships.
The issue, however, I am trying to drive home is: Go after what you want with no excuses.
This, in fact, is one of the BIG KEYS to having massive success with women.
One thing I talk a lot about is having a strong intent, which is congruently:
1) Having the desire and the will to do what needs to be done to achieve a particular outcome.
2) Having the unwavering belief that you not only will achieve your intended outcome but also are entitled to obtaining it.
Having even a smattering of doubt, guilt or shame about your goals and desires with women will significantly decrease your success.
In my book you will learn and master the necessary skills and understandings for purging yourself of any doubt, guilt or shame, allowing you to develop a powerful intent. When you couple this with the hundreds of Real-World, Field-Tested, Easy-To-Master secrets you will discover in my book it is inevitable that yoursuccess with women will exponentially balloon. Many other dating experts will tell you: "If you're not good looking, rich, famous or lumbered with an elephant sized trunk between your legs, you've got little chance succeeding with women you truly desire and, therefore, are better off going for someone in your league." This is crap. These people are so steeped in bad cultural programming it's not even funny. I believe you are capable of much much more. Imagine for a second just how much your success with women will soar once you have mastered the skills to purge yourself of everysmidgen of doubt, guilt, and shame. Start making the limits of your possibilities with women nothing short of your imagination, bypicking up a copy of Real World Seduction today.
http://www.realworldseduction.com
'Till next time,
Swinggcat
P.S.-If you have a success story you would like to share, or a question you would like to ask, or a comment you would like to make, please email me at:
swinggcat@realworldseduction.com
Include the fist initial of your first and last name. And include the country, state/province, and city you live in.
This whole "learning" thing goes both ways, you know! Oh, and be sure not to just hit "reply" to this email, because I won't get it!
Thanks!
_________________________________________________
Copyright 2004 Superior Living Inc. All rights reserved. Swinggcat and RealWorldSeduction are trademarks of Superior Living Inc.
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