This is how the game is played, boys…

by Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction

This week I have a special treat for you. A few guys emailed me their wish lists of things they’d like me to write about. I swear, sometimes I feel like Santa! High on their lists was a request for a few real life examples of my techniques in action. My feeling is that the more examples you hear and read about, the deeper your understanding of my techniques will become. Put simply, Real World examples are awesome!

Those of you whom have had the Opportunity to read my book know that there is a Real World word-for-word example, taking you through the process, from meeting her to having sex with her a few hours later.

I have decided to include a report a guy sent in to me about him sleeping with a woman within a very short time span using my techniques. In this newsletter I am going to critique it by breaking down the techniques he used to get very sexual with this woman. I am really spoon feeding you some powerful knowledge for success with women. Putting something like this together, however, expends a lot of time and energy. If you benefit, though, my efforts are well worth it!

To really benefit from this, you need to have read my book. So, if you own my book but have not taken the opportunity to read it, Do!

If you haven’t gotten my book yet, you need to. By not having read my book you are depriving yourself of much of the benefits you could be getting from this newsletter. So, pick up a copy:

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Enjoy!!

“What's up man? I bought your book. I read it twice and have an excellent success story to tell you about...

My friend brought me to a bar in Scottsdale, AZ last weekend to meet up with this girl he's dating and her friend. Neither of us knew what to expect with "the friend" but when we got there, I had met her before. In fact, she was the girlfriend of a business partner of mine a few years back. She's 5'9", 120 pounds, brunette with the greenest eyes you could ever imagine. In short, a total hottie. I wanted her then, and you better believe I wanted her now. I made a "cool" attempt at reminding her of who I was and she managed to pretend like she couldn't remember. Nice - - a challenge! So we proceeded to sit down at a table and I ignored her completely at first. I paid particular attention to my friend and his girlfriend and angled my body language 45 degrees away from the other girl. After about 15 minutes she attempted to engage me by "recalling" things from the times we had previously met. I reframed her recollection as an attempt to pick me up, and that I don't associate myself with girls who aren't honest the first time. This got her REALLY interested, because I was increasing my prizability while basically calling her a liar for acting like she didn't remember me before. I waited until she starting leaning into me and then I angled myself toward her a little more. I then did a perfect cold-reading."

I know you come across as a cold-hearted bitch to most guys. But that's only because you haven't met your match yet. You haven't met a guy that could keep you in your place and make you realize that the world doesn't revolve around you. Well let me tell you something, that has all come to end right here and right now. You are about to experience something for the first time, and you're going to absolutely love it.". OMG dude. The look in her eyes was like nothing I've ever seen before. So I told her we were going for a walk. She followed me. I walked in front of her. Then I took her arm. Then I took her hand. Then I let go of her hand and walked in front of her again. Then I turned around, pulled her close to me and kissed her hard on the mouth. Then I pushed her away. She told me I was "evil" (I remember reading that in the final pages of your book -- so I KNEW I was doing all the right things). I stood there with my eyebrow cocked just looking at her like she had some kinda nerve calling me "evil". She came over to me and proceeded to kiss me like it was the last kiss she would ever have. I gave in for about 20 seconds, then gently pushed her away and told her that I am not a sex toy and I had no intention of sleeping with her (the sausage with feet line didn't feel right, so I went with another version). Then I said that our friends were waiting for us and proceeded to start to walk back to where they were sitting. She followed. We went to the new Devil's Martini which is a swanky dance club/bar in Scottsdale. I danced with her and just about every other woman in the club. I even tried to make her dance with other hot guys, but she wouldn't do it. She kept coming back to me and grinding on me. I started dancing on a raised platform where all the chicks could check me out and my friend's g/f came up to me and told me that I was so hot and she could tell that every woman in the place wanted me. Nice. But that is my belief anyway, so she was just affirming what I already knew. Finally I left the platform and walked away. My girl followed. I went to the bar. She followed. I went back to the dance floor. She followed. I went out on the patio and yes, she followed. So I figured by now I could have anything I wanted with her so I told her we were going back to her place. She made a weak attempt at saying that I had told her she wasn't having sex with me. I started turning away from her and said "Ok, you're totally right. Never mind.", but she spun me around, kissed me and dragged me out of the place, back to her Lexus and straight to her apartment where she proceeded to dance stripper style for me, give me some of the best oral sex ever and basically offer herself to me in any way that I chose.

Thanks for putting together such a great tutorial on how to be the prize. It really works great!” - J from LA

Wow! – this is some great stuff. Get out your note pad because we’re about to pull apart what J from LA did.

“She's 5'9", 120 pounds, brunette with the greenest eyes you could ever imagine. In short, a total hottie.”

J, don’t hesitate to email me her phone number. LOL

“I wanted her then, and you better believe I wanted her now. I made a "cool" attempt at reminding her of who I was and she managed to pretend like she couldn't remember. Nice - - a challenge!”

Notice J’s mindset: Even though he was probably lustier than a horny baboon, he didn’t place an absurd amount of value on her. When most men are interacting with a really beautiful woman, they put a huge amount of value on her. When she doesn’t respond in the way they hoped, they act like their life source has been cut off. When you treat a woman – especially when first getting to know her – as your source of life, you are putting yourself in a very compromising position.
It is next to impossible to establish yourself as the PRIZE when you put a huge value on a woman wanting, accepting, and validating you. It also conveys to her that your life is boring and that you are hoping she will fill the void of excitement in your life. Conveying this to women makes it unlikely that they will respond to you in a positive way. Train yourself not to act this way around women.

This is, of course, easier said than done. Simply put, even if we tell ourselves consciously to not do something, we often times find ourselves slipping back into the same old behavior. That’s why I extensively talk about frames and developing a strong belief system in my book. Learning about Frames and developing a strong Belief System are potent weapons to counteract this inertia.

If you haven’t read my book yet, something that might help is taking the mindset that if you don’t ATTRACT her, it is no big loss. If you do succeed at ATTRACTING her, then, if she’s lucky, she gets to be an addition to your already exciting life. This conveys to a woman that not getting her is of no big loss to you. Conveying this is a huge part of establishing Prizability: Defining yourself as having perceived value.

Furthermore, notice how in J’s reality the possibility of her rejecting him does not even exist. He, instead, interprets her ignoring him as a challenge.

“So we proceeded to sit down at a table and I ignored her completely at first. I paid particular attention to my friend and his girlfriend and angled my body language 45 degrees away from the other girl.”

J did the right thing. Why should he give a woman claiming not remember him attention? Think about it: If some four hundred pound woman, complete with wart on chin, a big hairy beard, and cheesy bread in hand, pretended to not remember you, you’d just ignore her, wouldn’t you?
Most men, however, would respond to a beautiful woman differently because they put a lot of value on her aesthetic appeal. But when you allow someone to disrespect you, it subtly conveys that you place more value on them than on yourself.

Start becoming conscious of your reactions to the way women treat you – especially women you’ve just met. Do your responses to being ill treated by women you’ve just met convey that you put a huge amount of value on them?

“After about 15 minutes she attempted to engage me by ‘recalling’ things from the times we had previously met. I reframed her recollection as an attempt to pick me up, and that I don't associate myself with girls who aren't honest the first time. This got her REALLY interested, because I was increasing my prizability while basically calling her a liar for acting like she didn't remember me before. ”

Interesting. Notice the shift. She went from not remembering him to recalling events from the previous time they’d met. When you refuse to tolerate mistreatment from a woman, conveying that you put more value on your standards, expectations of others, and yourself than on her beauty, oftentimes, she’ll end up perceiving you as a PRIZE she wants to win over.

“I then did a perfect cold-reading. ‘I know you come across as a cold-hearted bi*tch to most guys. But that's only because you haven't met your match yet. You haven't met a guy that could keep you in your place and make you realize that the world doesn't revolve around you. Well let me tell you something, that has all come to end right here and right now. You are about to experience something for the first time, and you're going to absolutely love it.’ OMG dude.

The look in her eyes was like nothing I've ever seen before.”

You might think this is a bit harsh but trust me – it’s actually quite powerful! This woman is probably used to men putting a lot of value on her, doing things on her terms, trying to live up to her expectations, giving her all of their power, causing them to get SUCKED INTO HER REALITY.

She is probably bored of guys getting easily sucked into her reality, and, possibly, bored of her own reality.

The underlying meaning of his cold reading to her was this: “I know you’re used to men getting sucked into your reality, but that ends RIGHT NOW, honey! Not only am I unwilling to get sucked into your reality, but your about to get sucked into my mine.”

Read what I just wrote again, because I gave away some really powerful info.

“So I told her we were going for a walk. She followed me.”

Of course she followed, she was sucked into his reality – and, I’m sure, loved every second of it!

“Then I turned around, pulled her close to me and kissed her hard on the mouth. Then I pushed her away. She told me I was "evil" (I remember reading that in the final pages of your book -- so I KNEW I was doing all the right things). I stood there with my eyebrow cocked just looking at her like she had some kinda nerve calling me "evil". She came over to me and proceeded to kiss me like it was the last kiss she would ever have.”

This is a nice execution of what in book I call “Physical Push-Pull.” This is a very powerful form of Prizing – making a woman want, and reach, and chase for more of you. There is a lot more to it than what I am going to discuss here. One important aspect is that by pushing a woman away from you while kissing her, you are creating a Tension Loop – creating unresolved emotional tension inside her, leaving her wondering: “How does he feel about me?…Does he like me?...Is ATTRACTED to me?...”…and so on.

This makes her want to bring resolution and closure to this emotional tension through trying to kiss you.

Another benefit to pushing a woman away – like J from LA did – is that it establishes the frame that she is in your REALITY doing things on your terms.
J was able to make this work because he had ALREADY SUCKED HER INTO HIS REALITY.

“I even tried to make her dance with other hot guys, but she wouldn't do it. She kept coming back to me and grinding on me.”

This is great. He is establishing himself as the Prize through conveying that it is no big deal if he loses her.

“Finally I left the platform and walked away. My girl followed. I went to the bar. She followed. I went back to the dance floor. She followed. I went out on the patio and yes, she followed.”
If you suck someone into your reality, it is very easy to do this.

“So I figured by now I could have anything I wanted with her so I told her we were going back to her place. She made a weak attempt at saying that I had told her she wasn't having sex with me. I started turning away from her and said "Ok, you're totally right. Never mind.", but she spun me around, kissed me and dragged me out of the place, back to her Lexus and straight to her apartment where she proceeded to dance stripper style for me, give me some of the best oral sex ever and basically offer herself to me in any way that I chose.”

Yes! – As soon as he conveyed that it was no loss to him if he didn’t sleep with her, she saw him as a Prize she wanted to sleep with.

J was able to accomplish all of this because he was able to establish that he was the Prize, get her emotionally wanting more of him, and successfully SUCK HER INTO HIS REALITY.

I don’t care if you are bald or short or fat or broke…or whatever it is you feel is preventing you from succeeding with women. ATTRACTION is not what a woman prefers or how she judges you. ATTRACTION is how she responds to you establishing yourself as the Prize combined with creating the emotion inside her of wanting and reaching for more of you. As long as you are able to establish yourself as the Prize, get them emotionally wanting more of you, and suck them into your reality, success with beautiful women is in your reach. If you are ready to master these skills and start ATTRACTING the women you desire, pick up a copy of my book today.

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'Till next time,


Swinggcat