Friday, November 05, 2004

The Secret To Getting What You Want From Women...

Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction

A few weeks ago I saw Trey Parker's movie, "Team America: World Police." The whole movie is done with marionette puppets. You might be scratching your head, wondering: "What in the world do marionette puppets have anything to do with increasing my success with women?" As you read on their importance will probably hit you harder than the bottom of a scolding frying pan bi*tch-slapping you against the center of your forehead.

Before I go any further, I've got two questions for you:

1) What kind of success would you realistically like to have with women?

2) When no one is watching, listening, or judging you, what type of success do you fantasize about having with women?

If you earnestly answered both questions, I'm willing to bet you came up with two very different answers. The second question reflects what you truly want; while the first question reflects what you want minus many of your desires society has programmed you to (1)believe you are incapable of having, achieving or experiencing, and (2)feel shame for wanting.
Cultural programming starts around the time we pop out of the womb. Whether it comes from family or friends, T.V. or newspapers...all ofthe above or something entirely different, we are conditioned to believe certain desires are not obtainable. Almost every guy at some point in his life has believed that due to his, for example, looks, weight, height, age, level of education, social status, financial success...and so on, he was incapable of succeeding with certain types of women he desired. In his reality, it was NOT possible.
A lot of guys, furthermore, are culturally conditioned to feel shame for desiring, for example, one night stands, no-strings-attached sex, women ten years younger than them or more,threesomes...and so on, fearing they'll be stigmatized as a player, pimp, or sleazy lounge-lizard.

Some guys will even sabotage a situation where a beautiful woman is massively attracted to them, all because they feel they don't deserve her.

You're probably allowing some form of social programming to HINDER your current success with women. Like a puppet master pulling the strings of a marionette, controlling what it does, our cultural programming pulls our strings, determining our destinies.
I'm going to share with you something that has helped me sever these strings, allowing me to break away from negative cultural programming and, thus, skyrocketing my success with women. This something is what I call: "Finding Your Selfish Zen."

Buddhists strive to reach Zen, an enlightened state of complete detachment from worldly desires and sense of self. I had similar aspirations in college, yet there was one childhood wish I failed to purge myself of. As a teenager I remember looking at my father's back issues of Playboy magazine, thinking: "I want to sleep with heaps of centerfolds, not because they're Mother Teresa incarnate but because they're super hot and look like bundles of debauching mirth." As time went on, this desire didn't ebb; instead, it lingered in my loins. If I was at the supermarket, dog park, beach, club, bar...or wherever and spotted a desirable woman who put, to borrow an idiom from Austin Powers, "the jumbo in my mojo," I wanted to sleep with her, then and there. No strings attached. Norelationship. I wanted to live it up, roman emperor style. Superficial, glib, licentious, lecherous, lewd, lascivious aren't the right words but they're the first ones that come to the collective mind of our culture.

Living out this desire, on the one hand, excited me. On the other hand, it was the ember in me I was trying to extinguish.

The strife within me ended the day I found my selfish Zen. I realized it didn't matter that I yearned to live out a fantasy. Was it superficial? Yes. Was it a result of too much exposure to media, conditioning me from when I was a little ejaculate to lust only after long legged brunettes and busty blondes? I dunno, probably. Was it something biologically hard wired into me? Maybe. Was living out my silly little wish a one-way ticket to life long happiness? Probably not.
The point is: You can live out your desires without playing by societies rules. You can have your cake and eat it too.

Am I against traditional relationships with women? Not at all. There have actually been times in my life where I have sought out and enjoyed traditional relationships.
The issue, however, I am trying to drive home is: Go after what you want with no excuses.
This, in fact, is one of the BIG KEYS to having massive success with women.

One thing I talk a lot about is having a strong intent, which is congruently:

1) Having the desire and the will to do what needs to be done to achieve a particular outcome.

2) Having the unwavering belief that you not only will achieve your intended outcome but also are entitled to obtaining it.

Having even a smattering of doubt, guilt or shame about your goals and desires with women will significantly decrease your success.

In my book you will learn and master the necessary skills and understandings for purging yourself of any doubt, guilt or shame, allowing you to develop a powerful intent. When you couple this with the hundreds of Real-World, Field-Tested, Easy-To-Master secrets you will discover in my book it is inevitable that yoursuccess with women will exponentially balloon. Many other dating experts will tell you: "If you're not good looking, rich, famous or lumbered with an elephant sized trunk between your legs, you've got little chance succeeding with women you truly desire and, therefore, are better off going for someone in your league." This is crap. These people are so steeped in bad cultural programming it's not even funny. I believe you are capable of much much more. Imagine for a second just how much your success with women will soar once you have mastered the skills to purge yourself of everysmidgen of doubt, guilt, and shame. Start making the limits of your possibilities with women nothing short of your imagination, bypicking up a copy of Real World Seduction today.

http://www.realworldseduction.com

'Till next time,

Swinggcat

P.S.-If you have a success story you would like to share, or a question you would like to ask, or a comment you would like to make, please email me at:

swinggcat@realworldseduction.com

Include the fist initial of your first and last name. And include the country, state/province, and city you live in.
This whole "learning" thing goes both ways, you know! Oh, and be sure not to just hit "reply" to this email, because I won't get it!
Thanks!
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