Friday, May 14, 2010
A Key Attribute For Seducing Women
By Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction 2.0
Take a guess what kind of men women find attractive.
The hapless collective male thinks you need a litany of material characteristics in tow to attract women.
This "seems" about right.
Listen in on a gaggle of females chattering on about what they look for in a man. They'll yap on about how they want a man sporting Johnny Depp's face, Christian Bale's physique, Warren Buffett's money, and John Lennon's fame.
Yet many of these females will sleep with and marry men with none of these things.
How do we resolve the paradox?
Here's the answer: the attributes women think they want in a man and the attributes that unconsciously drive them to see a man as a Prize bear little resemblance.
I'm going to focus on one of these characteristics: assuming a female wants you from the get go.
In the Empire Strikes Back there's a scene where Han Solo is being frozen in carbonite.
Here's how George Lucas originally wrote the scene:
Princess Lea gushes, "I love you."
Han gushes back, "I love you too."
Lucas thought the writing was romantic. But it wasn't.
So the day they filmed the scene, Harrison Ford, the actor who played Han Solo, threw Lucas a monkey wrench by veering off script.
When Princess Leia gushed, "I love you," he knowingly said, "I know."
What a pimp.
This single line made Empire Strikes Back a cult classic.
Whenever females hear Harrison Ford deliver the words "I know," their heart thuds with excitement.
Don't women think this is a bit arrogant?
Probably.
Nonetheless, when a man sees himself as a Prize, women are hard-wired to sexually respond to him.
Will this work if a woman is not attracted to you?
Yes. Beliefs are contagious. If your belief is strong enough, she'll start believing it too.
I've got a few questions for ya...
Have you ever spotted a girl you'd like to meet but didn't approach her because you thought your social value wasn't high enough?
Have you ever wanted to get physical with a girl but didn't because you thought she was out of your league?
If you've experienced any of these things, it's because you didn't - or don't - have the belief that you're the Prize.
Once you have this belief attracting women becomes as easy as shooting fish in a barrel.
Just imagine approaching a woman most men think is out of their league. She isn't attracted to you at first. But within minutes of meeting her, she starts touching you. You guys start kissing. Before you know it, she invites you back to her place to make sweet passionate monkey love.
That's what life is like when you believe you're the Prize.
Big Warning: You cannot just tell yourself to start believing you're the Prize.
Changing your beliefs is a little more involved than that.
That's why I've dedicated a whole chapter in my book Real World Seduction 2.0 to changing your beliefs. Inside you'll get powerful techniques that quickly mutate your self-image into a Prize women want to win over.
Plus, in Real World Seduction 2.0 you'll receive a PhD education on generating attract, compelling women to see you as the Prize, and taking your female interactions in exactly the direction you choose.
Click here to get Real World Seduction and receive other seduction tips.
Take a guess what kind of men women find attractive.
The hapless collective male thinks you need a litany of material characteristics in tow to attract women.
This "seems" about right.
Listen in on a gaggle of females chattering on about what they look for in a man. They'll yap on about how they want a man sporting Johnny Depp's face, Christian Bale's physique, Warren Buffett's money, and John Lennon's fame.
Yet many of these females will sleep with and marry men with none of these things.
How do we resolve the paradox?
Here's the answer: the attributes women think they want in a man and the attributes that unconsciously drive them to see a man as a Prize bear little resemblance.
I'm going to focus on one of these characteristics: assuming a female wants you from the get go.
In the Empire Strikes Back there's a scene where Han Solo is being frozen in carbonite.
Here's how George Lucas originally wrote the scene:
Princess Lea gushes, "I love you."
Han gushes back, "I love you too."
Lucas thought the writing was romantic. But it wasn't.
So the day they filmed the scene, Harrison Ford, the actor who played Han Solo, threw Lucas a monkey wrench by veering off script.
When Princess Leia gushed, "I love you," he knowingly said, "I know."
What a pimp.
This single line made Empire Strikes Back a cult classic.
Whenever females hear Harrison Ford deliver the words "I know," their heart thuds with excitement.
Don't women think this is a bit arrogant?
Probably.
Nonetheless, when a man sees himself as a Prize, women are hard-wired to sexually respond to him.
Will this work if a woman is not attracted to you?
Yes. Beliefs are contagious. If your belief is strong enough, she'll start believing it too.
I've got a few questions for ya...
Have you ever spotted a girl you'd like to meet but didn't approach her because you thought your social value wasn't high enough?
Have you ever wanted to get physical with a girl but didn't because you thought she was out of your league?
If you've experienced any of these things, it's because you didn't - or don't - have the belief that you're the Prize.
Once you have this belief attracting women becomes as easy as shooting fish in a barrel.
Just imagine approaching a woman most men think is out of their league. She isn't attracted to you at first. But within minutes of meeting her, she starts touching you. You guys start kissing. Before you know it, she invites you back to her place to make sweet passionate monkey love.
That's what life is like when you believe you're the Prize.
Big Warning: You cannot just tell yourself to start believing you're the Prize.
Changing your beliefs is a little more involved than that.
That's why I've dedicated a whole chapter in my book Real World Seduction 2.0 to changing your beliefs. Inside you'll get powerful techniques that quickly mutate your self-image into a Prize women want to win over.
Plus, in Real World Seduction 2.0 you'll receive a PhD education on generating attract, compelling women to see you as the Prize, and taking your female interactions in exactly the direction you choose.
Click here to get Real World Seduction and receive other seduction tips.
The Raquette - The Most Powerful Archetype Of Seducer
Question From Reader:
Hey Swinggcat
This is Tomi. I've mailed you a couple times about how sweet your book is and I got a question about something that really confuses me BUT I'll tell you what has been working with me so far and how I'm doing. So I'll just lay it all out right now.
I'm at chapter 11: Push-Pull. In the past few months I can definitely say my comfort zone has increased, and I honestly thought it would never ever happen this way, I still got a ways to go but I can see the improvement, I'm making progress.
I'm building on my character and becoming who I want to become, who I've always been but couldn't show. This gives me confidence, leading to a stronger reality and I really am seeing what you meant in one of your quotes, "the correlation between a woman's looks and how she reacts to you is as strong as a 6 year old girl". This makes me laugh because in many cases it's too true :P.
I know I'm non-reactive, and it's just so much easier being this way because it allows you to think and builds prizability. I'm still working on my meta-intent, I'm really not sure what I want in a girl it's just that there's so many directions I could go.
Anyways as you read I'm on the push-pull part of the book, I started part 3 about a week ago and I like :) But one bit I couldn't understand was 'The Coquette' and 'The Rake'. You said the Coquette was the embodiment of the push, but instead of pushing women away, it pulls them in. It was right after the part talking about the push, so I'm assuming its meant to be a push, but it also pulls woman in. I'm confused, I'm really having trouble differentiating the push between the coquette.
- Tomi from Ontario
Swinggcat’s Response:
Tomi,
Congrats on increasing your comfort zone. You and I know this is a result of doing the exercises from Chapter 2.
Funny side story: When I was a kid, my mom coaxed me into going to a therapist to “cope” with my shyness.
He fed me some psychobabble about how your personality is cut in stone by the ripe age of seven. He told me, “If you’re shy, you’re always gonna be shy… and there’s nothing you can do about it… the key is to learn to accept it.”
Anyone who’s done the exercises from Chapter 2 knows that this is a bunch of B.S.
“I'm building on my character and becoming who I want to become, who I've always been but couldn't show.”
I’m gonna go out on a limb and guess that this is a result of reading Chapter 1: Developing The Attributes Of Men Women Respond To As The Prize.
As you know, developing these attributes transforms you into the man you’ve always wanted to be but couldn’t.
“I really am seeing what you meant in one of your quotes, "the correlation between a woman's looks and how she reacts to you is as strong as a 6 year old girl". This makes me laugh because in many cases it's too true :P.”
Yes. So many guys think their looks prevent them from getting the girl of their dreams. Before approaching a girl, they think, “How do my looks measure up to hers?”
“If my looks fall short of hers,” they believe, “I’ll get a bad reaction.”
But this isn’t true. I've met 200 lb. females with more facial hair than a teenage boy sport egos the size of a hot air balloon. On the other hand, I know models with the confidence of a battered dog.
More importantly, your looks play only a small factor in determining how a woman reacts to you.
Your confidence, social awareness, and skill at attracting women are much more important.
“One bit I couldn't understand was 'The Coquette' and 'The Rake'. You said the Coquette was the embodiment of the push, but instead of pushing women away, it pulls them in. It was right after the part talking about the push, so I'm assuming its meant to be a push, but it also pulls woman in. I'm confused, I'm really having trouble differentiating the push between the coquette.”
The coquette and the rake are classic seducer archetypes. Each one embodies half of Push-Pull.
The coquette intoxicates women by taking a step backward. His power lies in his ability to briefly withdraw his attention and interest from women, his lack of need to appease them, his self-reliance, and his willingness criticize their flaws.
While he proactively Pushes them away, he ends up Pulling them in. Put better, by Pushing them away, he sparks sexual tension and compels them to win him over. (I hope this answers your question.)
A big part of coquetting is being nonreactive.
Most men think acting nonreactive is keeping your emotions in check when women tease, test, challenge, or flake on you.
That’s part of it.
Here’s another part...
Have you ever laughed at a woman’s joke you didn’t get or find funny?
Why did you do it?
Maybe you didn’t wanna look like an idiot.
Maybe you felt bad for her.
Maybe you feared breaking rapport.
Maybe you wanted her to like you.
Believe it or not, the coquette wouldn’t laugh.
This may seem a bit harsh.
But when you laugh at a woman’s unfunny joke you’re attempting to get her validation.
Or, even worse, flattering her in a way that comes across with the sincerity of a used car salesman.
This reactive response might work for the moment but over the long haul, it nail files your Prizability down flat.
By the coquette acting nonreactive, the girl feels emotionally driven to make him laugh. In other words, she struggles to get his validation, transforming him into a prize she wants win over.
Should you refrain from laughing even when you find a joke funny?
Yuck. Sooner than later, women will be onto your mind game and then they’ll find you about as appealing as a dingle berry.
This only scratches the surface of acting nonreactive around women. If you want to master the ins-and-outs of acting nonreactive around women, get yourself a copy of Real World Seduction 2.0.
The rake is the embodiment of the Pull.
According to the Swiss psychiatrist Carl Young, everyone carries around a shadow. This is the side of them repressed by society. A big part of a woman’s shadow is sexual desire.
Alas, society looks down upon loose women and throttles them from fully expressing their sexual desire. This makes their shadow grow bigger and causes an internal strife to keep the shadow shackled up inside or to let it out.
The rake is a master at cajoling women into letting their shadow out. He does this through giving women validation and attention. His power lies in letting women know the sexual affect they have on him.
At first, women may resist, feign disgust, or accuse him of being a lecher. But secretly this makes them feel sexy. Sooner than later, they let their shadow out.
The most powerful seducers are what I call raquettes.
The raquette is a highbred: half rake, half coquette. He is an expert at Push-Pull: half the time he Pushes women away; the other, he Pulls them in.
This cocktail of Pushes and Pulls fills a woman head-to-toe with sexual tension, giving you the power to take the interaction in the direction you choose.
Go here to become a master raquette and receive other powerful seduction tips.
Hey Swinggcat
This is Tomi. I've mailed you a couple times about how sweet your book is and I got a question about something that really confuses me BUT I'll tell you what has been working with me so far and how I'm doing. So I'll just lay it all out right now.
I'm at chapter 11: Push-Pull. In the past few months I can definitely say my comfort zone has increased, and I honestly thought it would never ever happen this way, I still got a ways to go but I can see the improvement, I'm making progress.
I'm building on my character and becoming who I want to become, who I've always been but couldn't show. This gives me confidence, leading to a stronger reality and I really am seeing what you meant in one of your quotes, "the correlation between a woman's looks and how she reacts to you is as strong as a 6 year old girl". This makes me laugh because in many cases it's too true :P.
I know I'm non-reactive, and it's just so much easier being this way because it allows you to think and builds prizability. I'm still working on my meta-intent, I'm really not sure what I want in a girl it's just that there's so many directions I could go.
Anyways as you read I'm on the push-pull part of the book, I started part 3 about a week ago and I like :) But one bit I couldn't understand was 'The Coquette' and 'The Rake'. You said the Coquette was the embodiment of the push, but instead of pushing women away, it pulls them in. It was right after the part talking about the push, so I'm assuming its meant to be a push, but it also pulls woman in. I'm confused, I'm really having trouble differentiating the push between the coquette.
- Tomi from Ontario
Swinggcat’s Response:
Tomi,
Congrats on increasing your comfort zone. You and I know this is a result of doing the exercises from Chapter 2.
Funny side story: When I was a kid, my mom coaxed me into going to a therapist to “cope” with my shyness.
He fed me some psychobabble about how your personality is cut in stone by the ripe age of seven. He told me, “If you’re shy, you’re always gonna be shy… and there’s nothing you can do about it… the key is to learn to accept it.”
Anyone who’s done the exercises from Chapter 2 knows that this is a bunch of B.S.
“I'm building on my character and becoming who I want to become, who I've always been but couldn't show.”
I’m gonna go out on a limb and guess that this is a result of reading Chapter 1: Developing The Attributes Of Men Women Respond To As The Prize.
As you know, developing these attributes transforms you into the man you’ve always wanted to be but couldn’t.
“I really am seeing what you meant in one of your quotes, "the correlation between a woman's looks and how she reacts to you is as strong as a 6 year old girl". This makes me laugh because in many cases it's too true :P.”
Yes. So many guys think their looks prevent them from getting the girl of their dreams. Before approaching a girl, they think, “How do my looks measure up to hers?”
“If my looks fall short of hers,” they believe, “I’ll get a bad reaction.”
But this isn’t true. I've met 200 lb. females with more facial hair than a teenage boy sport egos the size of a hot air balloon. On the other hand, I know models with the confidence of a battered dog.
More importantly, your looks play only a small factor in determining how a woman reacts to you.
Your confidence, social awareness, and skill at attracting women are much more important.
“One bit I couldn't understand was 'The Coquette' and 'The Rake'. You said the Coquette was the embodiment of the push, but instead of pushing women away, it pulls them in. It was right after the part talking about the push, so I'm assuming its meant to be a push, but it also pulls woman in. I'm confused, I'm really having trouble differentiating the push between the coquette.”
The coquette and the rake are classic seducer archetypes. Each one embodies half of Push-Pull.
The coquette intoxicates women by taking a step backward. His power lies in his ability to briefly withdraw his attention and interest from women, his lack of need to appease them, his self-reliance, and his willingness criticize their flaws.
While he proactively Pushes them away, he ends up Pulling them in. Put better, by Pushing them away, he sparks sexual tension and compels them to win him over. (I hope this answers your question.)
A big part of coquetting is being nonreactive.
Most men think acting nonreactive is keeping your emotions in check when women tease, test, challenge, or flake on you.
That’s part of it.
Here’s another part...
Have you ever laughed at a woman’s joke you didn’t get or find funny?
Why did you do it?
Maybe you didn’t wanna look like an idiot.
Maybe you felt bad for her.
Maybe you feared breaking rapport.
Maybe you wanted her to like you.
Believe it or not, the coquette wouldn’t laugh.
This may seem a bit harsh.
But when you laugh at a woman’s unfunny joke you’re attempting to get her validation.
Or, even worse, flattering her in a way that comes across with the sincerity of a used car salesman.
This reactive response might work for the moment but over the long haul, it nail files your Prizability down flat.
By the coquette acting nonreactive, the girl feels emotionally driven to make him laugh. In other words, she struggles to get his validation, transforming him into a prize she wants win over.
Should you refrain from laughing even when you find a joke funny?
Yuck. Sooner than later, women will be onto your mind game and then they’ll find you about as appealing as a dingle berry.
This only scratches the surface of acting nonreactive around women. If you want to master the ins-and-outs of acting nonreactive around women, get yourself a copy of Real World Seduction 2.0.
The rake is the embodiment of the Pull.
According to the Swiss psychiatrist Carl Young, everyone carries around a shadow. This is the side of them repressed by society. A big part of a woman’s shadow is sexual desire.
Alas, society looks down upon loose women and throttles them from fully expressing their sexual desire. This makes their shadow grow bigger and causes an internal strife to keep the shadow shackled up inside or to let it out.
The rake is a master at cajoling women into letting their shadow out. He does this through giving women validation and attention. His power lies in letting women know the sexual affect they have on him.
At first, women may resist, feign disgust, or accuse him of being a lecher. But secretly this makes them feel sexy. Sooner than later, they let their shadow out.
The most powerful seducers are what I call raquettes.
The raquette is a highbred: half rake, half coquette. He is an expert at Push-Pull: half the time he Pushes women away; the other, he Pulls them in.
This cocktail of Pushes and Pulls fills a woman head-to-toe with sexual tension, giving you the power to take the interaction in the direction you choose.
Go here to become a master raquette and receive other powerful seduction tips.
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