How To Talk To Women Over The Phone…

Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction


I get a lot of questions about talking to women over the phone. Instead of answering each one individually I thought I’d do a whole newsletter on the topic. As I’m teaching you exactly how step-by-step to talk to women over the phone, I’ll be alluding to an essential *key ingredient* for ATTRACTING women in general. SO KEEP YOUR EYES PEELED AS YOU READ ON.

The lurid reality is this: The vast majority of phone numbers men get will never amount to anything, because most men DON’T know the right way to talk to women over the phone.

If you have not yet learned the *right way* to talk to women over the phone, REALIZE that mastering this skill will at the very least DOUBLE your current success with women – point blank!

When getting a woman’s phone number, the average collective male chooses one of three categories of action. In most cases, however, he is damned no matter which of the three categories he chooses. As you READ each category it will become apparent to you why this is the case.

Category # 1: Trying To Win Over A Woman’s Heart…

Some of you hopeless romantics might argue: there is a heap of sentimental value encapsulated in the journey of winning over a woman’s heart. Maybe so. But in the wake of your efforts your chances are slim to nil of generating ANY attraction with her.
Women are ATTRACTED to men who are the PRIZE. When you try to win over, impress, or get validation from a woman, you are making her the Prize in the interaction, not you. Doing this is the quickest rout to eradicating ANY ATTRACTION there. I should know; I’ve lost many women from doing this. Their attitude towards me turned from fun loving warmth into contemptuous ennui, imputing me as the source of their boredom. Scorning me, as if I was a suppository wrapped in gold foil that they mistakenly bit into, credulously thinking I was an Almond Roca.

Some men will try to win a woman over by attempting to act entertaining or funny. Acting entertaining and funny can generate MASSIVE ATTRACTION in women but only within the context of being the Prize.

In the context, however, of trying to win a woman over, acting entertaining and funny will destroy any ATTRACTION that was there. Even if a woman is laughing at everything you are doing and saying, she will probably be thinking: “Dance little monkey…dance!” Women somehow clairvoyantly know when you’re acting entertaining and funny as a means to impressing or getting validation from them.
If you’re adamant about acting entertaining and funny, that’s fine. But make sure you have the mindset that you’re doing it for your own amusement, not trying to win her approval. I know many guys who aren’t particularly funny, though, women find them hilarious and very attractive. This is largely because these men aren’t acting funny and entertaining in the context of trying to win a woman over. They, instead, are enjoying and amusing themselves. So, when talking to a woman on the phone DON’T worry about impressing her. Have fun. Enjoy the conversation. Amuse yourself.

Many guys will try to fill the quota of a woman’s “Ideal Man.” What usually happens is this: As a guy is talking over the phone with a woman she’ll bring up what she likes – or more often, what she disdains – in a man. Most guys, then, end up trying to qualify or prove to the woman that they are her ideal man. Don’t do this. It conveys to the woman that you view her as a Prize you are trying to win over. If a woman starts listing her “man” standards and requirements or begins yapping about a guy she really likes, interrupt her with, “this conversation’s really boring me” or, alternatively, start conspicuously yawning. Both tactics are very powerful because they transform the underlying meaning of your phone conversation from:

To win her over you have to possess or display such-and-such qualities.

Into:

You letting her know that her conversation topic is not winning her any points with you.
(If you DIDN’T get what I just wrote, read it a few more times – it is really important!).

A direr version of this is when guys probe women with questions about what they look for in a man. If you are guilty of this, stop it! Besides making you look insecure about how you measure up to what she’s normally ATTRACTED to, you’re defining the underlying meaning of the phone conversation as her being the Prize, not you. When talking to women on the phone, DON’T probe her with questions about what she’s normally attracted to. ASSUME, instead, that you are the Prize she is trying to win over. Make her fill the quota of your ideal woman. While talking to a brunette on the phone, I might, for example, haphazardly chuckle to which she’ll inevitably shoot back with, “What?” I’ll rebut with, “You’re a brunette, aren’t you?” and she’ll say, “Yes.” Then I’ll let her know she doesn’t fill my quota with, “I only like blondes! You aren’t my type…but we can be friends.” Doing this is more than light hearted banter: I’m defining the underlying meaning of our phone conversation as me being the Prize.
I know a few guys that try to win women over by giving lots of compliments. I think giving women compliments can be very powerful. But when you give a woman compliments within the context of trying to win her over, you become a courtier: a flatterer of someone more important than you. Put simply, you are unknowingly implying that she is the Prize, not you.

Category # 2: Treating Her Like Your Wife…

If a woman gives you her number – even if you feel like you have a special connection with her or end up sleeping with her the first night you meet – she is not yet your girlfriend or wife. Treating a woman like a wife when first getting to know her will hurl you to the top of the Creep-O-Meter. This means DON’T: ask her questions about other guys she’s seeing, suspiciously interrogate her about how she spends her time, and angrily reprimand her for flaking on you. How she spends her time is her business. Telling a confident, intelligent woman who you’ve just met what she can and cannot do will make her run so fast it will make your head spin.

At some point, most of us, guys, have been chagrined by a woman flaking on us, causing us to brood over it for hours and, then, angrily reprimand her to no avail – it sucks! But you know what: Whoop-de-do…go sail a f*ing boat! Suck it up! She doesn’t care. Put your rampant intellectual coping mechanism in check. The angrier you get, the less ATTRACTED to you she’ll be. Later on I’ll tell you the *right way* to handle women flaking. SO KEEP READING.

Category # 3: Acting Aloof And Disinterested And Letting Her Pursue You…

More than a few people have accused me of endorsing this category. There only half right. As you read on, you’ll get what I mean.

One of the morals in the movie Swingers is: You need to wait seven days before calling a girl’s number – you wouldn’t want to look needy or desperate. They give a pretty funny example illustrating the consequences of breaking this moral when the protagonist, a lovable-loser named “Mike” calls a woman he has only known for a few hours seven times in a row, redounding in her telling him to never call her again (If you haven’t seen the movie, do so. It’s a must). This moral has become intrinsic to the zeitgeist of the modern dating advice and self-help for men world.

The moral is right in theory but wrong in practice. With beautiful women in the Real World, NOT acting proactive will lead to many lonely nights. To smack you upside the head with this, waiting for women to call you is a hopeless strategy. Unless you’ve gotten a woman on the hook, waiting for her to call is not making her chase you, it is passively wishing for her to pursue you.
I am NOT touting you to chase, pursue, and try to win women over, either.

Proactive Prizing: Actively Creating A Space For Her To Chase You...

In my book I talk about Prizing – the art of making a woman chase you. You can only Prize women, however, within certain contexts. And MOST of the time, you need to proactively create these contexts. Passively waiting for these contexts is a losing battle.
This especially applies to Prizing women over the phone. If you DON’T call a woman or if you passively wait for her to call you, you aren’t proactively creating the context to Prize her. It isn’t her responsibility to chase you; it’s your responsibility to make her chase you. Don’t be passive. Take the initiative. Be Proactive.

Will some women think you are chasing them? Yes, but who cares! You can undermine this by, for example, telling her: “You aren’t my type and I want to let you know that I’d never go for you, though I do find you amusing to talk to.” This is a form of what in my book I call “Push-Pull.” If you’ve been studying my book, you probably have already realized why doing something like this will quickly and effectively get a woman chasing you.

I remember the days when I’d passively wait for a woman to call me. Looking back, I now realize the heaps of success I missed out on, all because I didn’t yet understand the concept of proactive Prizing.

The better you get at this the more you’ll find women asking you out on dates over the phone – it’s almost scary how much this happens to me. Don’t passively, however, wait for a woman to ask you out on a date. It is up to you to get her from the phone to a physical location (Maybe I’ll do a whole newsletter addressing this topic). Will some women perceive this as you chasing them? Yes but, as I said before, you can undermine this later. Let me give you an example. A few years ago, I was talking over the phone with a woman who mentioned an affinity for art. I invited her to an art exhibit. She responded with, “Are you trying to ask me out on a date?!” I chuckled and Prized back with, “No…my grandmother’s coming too. I know the elderly don’t leave the house much so I thought I’d do my good deed for the year by getting you two girls out for some fresh air. Oh, just to let you know, I don’t tolerate funny smells. So be sure to wear your adult diaper.” She laughed and, then, told me I was a wicked bastard. But she showed up at the museum, claiming to be wearing her adult diaper. Luckily, her diaper ended up being G-string underwear.

You don’t always have to undermine your intentions when asking a girl out but it usually can’t hurt, plus it takes the pressure off her thinking it is some big date.

Sometimes, no matter what you say, women end up flaking. I’ve met tons of guys who are amazing with women. Yet even they have experienced women flaking on them. Any guy who tells you he never has women flake on him is lying – point blank. The reasons for women flaking are too numerous to list in this newsletter. Many of these reasons are probably different from ones you’ve thought of. Some attractive women, for example, will flake on guys out insecurity, fearing that he’ll discover their flaws, making him less attracted to them. For your sake, however, it is not important to analyze and address the reasons why women flake. If they flake, brush it off, keep proactively Prizing them, and then ask them out again.
As long as you follow my guidelines – even if you’re still super nervous while talking to girls on the phone – you’ll be a hundred times better off. And if you haven’t already picked up a copy of my book, do so. I give you step-by-step instruction on how to establish yourself as the PRIZE and get any woman chasing you, allowing you to achieve the mastery and success with women you deserve. And this is only scratching the surface of what I’m going to teach you. Stop allowing opportunities to pass you by. Let me show you step-by-step how to generate massive attraction with women.


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Swinggcat responds to your emails:

Comment:

Dear Swinggcat,

I wanted to compliment you on your e-letters. I subscribe to a few of the dating e-letters that are out there, and I think you have some of the best "real-life" advice to give. I think many of the other sites are beneficial in meeting a girl and maybe getting laid. But yours is probably the best for developing a relationship.

Your comments on being friends with women is the perfect example of this. Some of the other sites seem to totally neglect this. Female friends are a major help in attracting women. When I've gone out with a mixed group of friends (women and men), the level of attraction from women is so much higher than when I'm just with my guy friends. My female friends have also given some good advice when it comes to attraction.

For most of us out there looking to improve ourselves in this aspect, finding and keeping a great women is our ultimate goal. For a 30-something year old, like myself, I don't just want to find some random girl to have sex. I want a relationship, and your advice definitely helps with that.

Keep up the good work!

MA, Middletown, NJ

My Comments:

Thank you for this! Most dating experts fall into one of two categories: Either they are relationship experts or pick up gurus. I don’t think I fit into either category. My approach is more holistic. I believe that many of the skills typically associated with picking up women are essential to having successful relationships. And, likewise, many of the skills usually associated with having healthy successful relationships are essential to meeting and picking up on women. Once again, thank you.

Question:

Hey Swinggcat,Your letters are very good stuff! Congratulations, man.I enjoy them enormously.I have a question for you though: how can I establishPRIZABILITY with a woman without saying a word? Onlyby looking at each other, without a word?G. from Sydney, Australia

My Comments:

Ah yes…A truly lazy man. Love it! For those who DON’T know, PRIZABILITY is establishing yourself as the PRIZE when interacting with women. Just like proactive Prizing is important, you need to PROACTIVELY establish yourself as the Prize. Using your eyes, however, will suffice. One thing that will help enormously is really developing your belief that you are the Prize (Also, reread my article, Demystifying Charisma. I break down step-by-step how to develop a strong intent. This should help).

As for what you should do with your eyes, you’ll have to wait for my audio course.

Comment:

I think actually what I said before about how you can always make her think you are the PRIZE is wrong, or rather it applies only to immature masochists. Or rather, the lower a woman's self-esteem and maturity, the more likely it is to work. There is nothing anyone could do to make a mature woman in excellent mental health "lose it" and put out because he is "the PRIZE". He can make them think he’s an attractive jerk, yes. But more attractive for a man than they are for a woman, so they "have to" put out regardless of whether he has given any indication that they might be special to him, no. But for better or worse, immature masochists are the pool that pros deal with, so practically speaking it does not matter much. The things you say (and what I said) will definitely work with that crowd. What that is worth, other than ego-gratification, is another question.

Best Wishes,
DLW

My Comments:

First off, there is still a gruesome stigma in our culture about loose women. This forces many girls to put on the goody two shoes façade. But it’s only pretense. It is actually quite astounding how many women partake in “no strings attached” sex. There probably are some women that stay true to, for example, no premarital sex…no if, ands, or buts. This number, however, is most likely a lot lower than what you’re thinking.

Furthermore, a woman partaking in “no strings attached” sex has nothing to do with her being either a mature woman or, as you call it, an immature masochist. All it reflects is her value and belief system. Put simply, there are different strokes for different folks.

I don’t teach men to try to convince women that they are the Prize. What I teach, instead, is how to establish yourself and genuinely be the Prize with women. There’s a huge difference.

Most successful, confident, go-getter women go after what they want – no strings attached sex included. If you establish yourself as the Prize, they will most likely go after you – it’s only nature.

Being the Prize does not mean being a jerk. Being a jerk can be one style of being the Prize. You can, however, be a genuinely nice, standup guy, while still being the Prize.

Comment:
Dude, you rock. I've read a lot of this stuff, and I think yours is by far the best. I especially like how you give lots of specific examples of things to do, but it all boils to the underlying principles of controlling the frame and pushing & pulling. I'll tell you how cool you are some more once I'm sleeping with super-hot women all the time, but first I have to get past this damnable fear of doing a cold approach. Feeling inhibition about approaching whoever I want to is not acceptable to me, and I've finally gotten to the point where I can't take it any more and I'm ready to do whatever it takes, and so now talking to women I don't know is a full-time job, even to the exclusion of other hobbies. But it’s a hell of a rush and it gets easier every time.
Peace,

L. from TX

My Comments:

Thanks for the praise. And keep approaching women. It will get easier. I’m going to be releasing a product where I really crack the code on getting rid of the fear of approaching women. It’s very powerful and to my knowledge, I’m the first one to think of it. This will help you immensely.

I’m glad you’re motivated. But don’t let picking up women consume your life – balance is important. I, in fact, have found that my own success is the highest when I have balance in my life.

Comment:

Hey man,I just wanted to say again...you're ebook kicks sooo much ass. I have a couple of friends who are very good at getting girls. Some times I will compete with them over a girl because I think I'm a big shot Pickup Artist that knows all of this stuff about girls. The last time I did this I lost and I talked to the guy about what happened. I analyzed it for a long time and asked him what he does and kind of wrote it down. I was just looking at your ebook again and guess what...they were just doing the stuff you talk about. Mostly the push/pull. We're all good looking guys and my buddy that I lost to will pull girls by giving eye contact and smiles and asking them about themselves and pushing by putting his attention on other things or teasing them. One thing I've noticed when doing push/pull to the extremes...that is, going to far in the directions...you can really make girls want to destroy you. I've had this happen a couple of times when I've gotten girls interested in me or had them believe I was very interested in them and then do something like subtly suggest that I would not be interested in having sex with them or telling them that I like one of their friends. They usually go to large extents to make me look bad to as many people as they can.

What new products are you coming out with?

J from Arizona

My Comments:

When I was trying to figure this stuff out, I, also, noticed guys who were naturally good with women using push-pull. When you are first learning push-pull, you can go overboard. Once, however, you have mastered the skill you will find that you can never go too far with it. The sky is the limit – really!

To answer your question about upcoming products: Yes, I am working on a product that really is a paradigm shift in thinking about the dating and attraction game.

Question:

hi

I am impressed by the way you think. You obviously have an awesome level of "natural charisma" and confidence in you. Now doc, I have a problem here. If you can just give me little bit of guidance, that will feel great. I'll explain everything in brief and I'll go in detail later. this girl we hooked up, went out for 2 months. The mistake I did then was I really started kissing up to her. but when it happened, it was like magic. she initially came to my room and @ that time i had no idea that I would ever end up with her.....but magically ..I did... I could not go out with her officially as I'm like one of the care takers in a hostel but I still did go out with herunofficially. People did suspect and heaps of boys (some of who like her), disliked me. They really had her on(they were not sure) about goin out with me but it was unofficial. Well she knows all the tricks in dabook... I broke up with her 1.5 months ago. I talked to her last time invited her over for drinks in my room but she turned me down as she had a plane to catch. We somehow discussed the past and she passed some rude comment that got me angry and I told her that I never cared about anything including her. She told me that she is with someone else, of what I'm not sure as I've never seen or heard of anyone with her. She got really angry and hung up on me and said do you know what you just said implies?!. we are hardly on talking terms. 'd like to be with her if possible but if not...it's fine. The problemis we talked 2 weeks ago and she'd gone out for holidays. she's just come back and I don't think I could start talking. anyhow, after a week I went to her room to return something of hers and she just showed that she doesn’t care ..I just told her that after having gone out with her, I don't think it's right for me to be just passing next to her and ignoring her. we've been a lot intimate before. I said it's silly and also apologized about the behavior. I explained to her that I was drunk but also told her that I thought that she owed me an apology. she should have the courtesy and respect to say good bye properly...not hang up on me.. Then she replied.."but I did hang up on you" anyway, I left her room but most of the conversation was almost without an eye contact as she was doing something or the other like "studying" or cleaning up her room*(pretending not to care).....now Ilike her. want her...but dunno how to go about it.. Any suggestions?

M

My Comments:

I’m going to give a really detailed in depth response, so get ready. Here it is: Move on!!!!! I’m guessing you don’t yet have my book. Get it – immediately!

When you are coming from a place of weakness you try to hold onto things that are over.

But when you have the skills to move through the world, turning wishes into opportunities you can quickly and easily grab a hold of, you can let go of the past. Let me ask you question: If every woman on the planet desired you, would you have written me this email? I have a hunch the answer’s “No!” Am I right? Look – I’ve been in situations where I didn’t want to let go of a girl, because I didn’t want to be alone, fearing I wouldn’t be able to find another girl. I was coming from a place of weakness.

I no longer have this fear – because I have mastery over the necessary skills to attract desirable women anywhere I go. I’m going to teach you step-by-step how to develop these skills, empowering you to attract any woman you desire, annihilating every last morsel of fear you have about being alone. Click here to start mastering these skills:


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'Till next time,

Swinggcat



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5 Myths Preventing Men From Attracting Women...

By Swinggcat – author of Real World Seduction


Myth #1: Being an Attractive Man Is
Always About Appealing To What
Women Say They Want

If you are one of those vehement supporters of
this myth, you should get a noose and hang
yourself - you'll be better off. Trying to get
a woman to like you by attempting to live up to
her ideal preferences in a man is a one way
ticket to transforming your ego into a
proverbial punching bag. Women prefer tall,
dark, handsome, rich men, packing dogs with
garden hose length and telephone pole girth.
Oh, furthermore, if you don't want to fall
short of their expectations you better be
lumbered with chiseled abs and a copious
bubble butt. If your rump isn't up to par,
you could always get silicon butt cheek
implants. But forewarning: Your
black-and-blue rear will be so sore that
you won't be able to sit down for a month.

As those of you know who have been reading my
newsletters and have read my book: Attraction
is not what a woman says she wants. If
attraction was what women say they prefer, then
I wouldn't know short, bald, fat, and broke
guys experiencing massive success with women.
But I do.

Attraction, contrary to this, is about you
creating the emotion inside women of wanting,
chasing, and reaching for more of you. Although
my short, bald, fat and broke Casanova buddies
don't fill the quota of the “ideal man,” they
do manage to generate the emotion inside women
of wanting, chasing, and reaching for more of
them. And this, my friend, is why they are
massively successful with women. The art of
creating this emotion in women is what I
call PRIZING. My book is chockfull of
different techniques for PRIZING women, some
of which are Open Loops, Tension Loops,
Challenging & Qualifying, and Meta-Frames.

One of the best things you can do to set the
groundwork for PRIZING women is to make them
strive to fill the quota of your ideal female.
So, when you're out with a woman, don't behave
like a spineless little worm, asking her
questions such as: “How am I doing with you?”
Instead, when she behaves in ways that go
against your standards and expectations of
women, let her know that she is losing points
with you - and losing points quickly!

Myth #2: If A Woman Is Of Higher
Value Than You She Is Not Allowed
To Be Attracted To You.

This one actually rings some truth. Let me
explain. If you see a woman and immediately,
in your mind, consecrate her as a Goddess
amongst Goddesses you must bow down to, you
are figuratively butt ramming yourself,
because you are setting the frame that she is
the Prize, not you. As those of you who have
read my book know, women do not feel
attraction for men who are not the PRIZE.
Viewing a woman you have just met as a Goddess
amongst Goddesses is fine, as long as you
perceive yourself as a God amongst Gods and
abstain from bowing down to her.

What is the lesson to be learned? Objective
value doesn't exist, only perceived value
does. Although women are usually not
attracted to men of lesser value than
themselves, you can do a lot to increase your
value. Whenever interacting with a woman, a
Meta-Frame - or underlying meaning - is
established, determining your value in
relation to hers. When you allow a woman's
perceived value to intimidate you, or make
you feel of lesser value than her, you are
unknowingly establishing the Meta-Frame that
she is the PRIZE, not you. So the key is to
stop fretting about some aspect of her being
of higher value than some aspect of you,
plundering you of your self-esteem. When
interacting with a woman, if you ever feel
ugly to her beauty or pedestrian to her
sophistication or like a retarded little
spaz to her sense of cool...or whatever,
change your focus of attention. See the
bigger picture. Realize that when first
meeting a woman you paint a picture in
your mind of who you think she is, based
on a few aspects you observe about her.
This picture usually ends up being way off
base. Learn to take control of your
perceptions: If you feel intimidated by her
beauty, imagine what she looks like in the
morning without her makeup; if her
sophistication renders you tongue-tied,
consider that she might be putting on an
act to impress you; if you start worrying
about how much older you are than her,
imagine how much worse she's going to
look when she's your age...and so on.

Myth # 3: If You Want To Attract
Women You Have To Act Like You
Enjoy And Are Interested In The
Things That They Enjoy

This pathetic little myth is really a
product of the collective dating advice for
men self-help books for sale at a bookstore
near you, touting men to develop the
personality of an obedient lapdog.

This myth couldn't be further from the
truth. Women are attracted to men, not
little puppy dogs.

Hypothetically speaking, let's say you are
dating a girl who has a thing for musical
kitsch: think Britney Spears or Christina
Aguilera. You, however, despise this kind
of music and would prefer the sound of
nails on a chalkboard to this crap. What
should you do: Prentend Britney's great
or tell her what you really think?

Although counterintuitive, pretending to
like something you don't genuinely
like is unattractive to women.

Likewise, having a willingness to express
what you hate can redound in women finding
you very attractive.

Exceptions, of course, do exist. For
example, specific activities have been
deemed by our culture as having a high
social value. You might, for example,
prefer reading comic books over
participating in these activities. There
could be consequences, however, to not
participating in them. In one of my
upcoming products, I touch on these
activities. I will probably publish a
newsletter in the near future addressing
these activities.

Furthermore, I am not suggesting that you
jettison all of a woman's interests and
tastes that you do not share. Doing this
will turn you into a creepy control freak
and you will probably end up becoming a very
unhappy, boring person. Only being around
people with the same interests and tastes as
you, will stifle your growth as a human
being - diversity is good. I personally love
to be around people who introduce me to
things I don't know a lot about. This is how
I develop new interests and grow as a human
being.

My gripe is with men faking an interest in
something as a means to get someone to like
them. Doing this is really handing your balls
over on a platter to the other person. Don't
do this. Don't give away your power. It is
one of the most unattractive qualities you
can possess.

Myth # 4: Women Don't Like Sex
And Will Only Sleep With You
After You Go Through Great
Lengths Courting Them.

This one really makes my skin crawl. My life
experience keeps reaffirming that beyond the
shadow of a doubt this myth doesn't even
contain a smattering of truth. Women love sex
and can be as aggressive as men when it come to
obtaining it.

If you doubt this, make some female friends who
are not interested in you. That way they won't
be concerned with how you judge them,
allowing them to shed their ladylike pretenses
and talk candidly about their sexuality.
Warning: This lurid peek into the female sexual
psyche might frighten you - it isn't for the
faint of heart. What you will find is that
women are as sexual as men…if not more. Also,
I wouldn't be surprised if these women told you
about how much fun quickies, one-night-stands,
and meaningless sex can be.

Many women hold off on sleeping with men
because they lest being judged as sluts. It can
be quite powerful to tease women about acting
sexually forward or aggressive towards you.
Acting genuinely concerned, though, about a
woman's sexual promiscuity can transform a
sexually adventurous woman into a frigid prude.

Most men I know who are unbelievable at quickly
getting women into bed have a knack for making
women feel comfortable expressing their
sexual habits and promiscuity (Note: This is,
of course, in the context of women you've just
met. You probably wouldn't want to encourage
this kind of promiscuity in your wife or
girlfriend).

Myth # 5: If You Aren't Currently
Good With Women You Probably
Aren't Going To Get Any Better.

Simply not true. I don't believe this myth for a
second. Over the years I have known many hopeless
sad-sack losers who no one believed in, transform
themselves into some of the most skilled
ladies men I have ever seen. In many cases these
guys ended up more skilled with women than natural
ladies men. This is probably because they had a
burning desire to get a foothold on this area of
their life.

This self sabotaging myth is disseminated
primarily by shrinks, guys who've had little
success with women, and ladies men.

I know a few guys who were told by their
psychiatrists that if they weren't good with
women, they probably weren't going to get
any better. And that they'd be better off
compromising by settling for a less than
desirable woman. One of these guys stopped
seeing his therapist and is now doing fantastic
with women. He gets a gold star for firing the
bastard.

Some guys down on their success with women will
try to feed you all sorts of negative rhetoric,
such as: “if you are not already successful with
women, you are not going to get any better.”
These guys will infect your mind. Avoid them
like the plague.

Some ladies men will try to mystify their
abilities by making you think that they are
blessed with some unattainable God-given
talent. Often times this is an attempt to
exalt their abilities at the expense of
your self-esteem. Don't take that crap.
You're better than that.

All of the disseminators of this myth are
thought viruses that will infect your mind,
sabotaging your self-esteem and future
opportunities with women. If you currently
have any of these people in your life,
KICK 'EM TO THE CURB.

It is an understatement to say that I believe
in you; I am convinced that you can succeed with
women. I have met and taught men of all walks of
life who have successfully turned their lives
around with women. No matter what your current
level of success with women is, I know you
strive to get to a higher level. Otherwise,
you wouldn't be reading this. I know you are
capable of achieving your goals with women and
I am going to help you get there. And if you
haven't already picked up a copy of my book,
do so. It's not written for losers looking to
cope with their unfortunate situation. It's
written for winners: People who are ready to
take the bull by the horns and start achieving
and living the success they dream about. At the
end of the day, $39.95 is a small price to pay
to be fully equipped with the tools you need to
start experiencing massive success with women.
So if you haven't already picked up my book, do
so now.

RealWorldSeduction

'Till next time,

Swinggcat


P.S.-If you have a success story you would like
to share, or a question you would like to ask,
or a comment you would like to make, please
email me at:

swinggcat@realworldseduction.com

Include the fist initial of your first and
last name. And include the country,
state/province, and city you live in.

This whole "learning" thing goes both ways,
you know! Oh, and be sure not to just hit
"reply" to this email, because I won't get
it!

Thanks!

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Having Women In Your Life…

By Swinggcat – author of Real World Seduction



Hey Guys,

Today I’m going to share with you something that I talk about in my book. If you aren’t currently doing what I am about to tell you, DOING IT could increase your success with women a hundred and fifty percent…if not more.

Whether you are looking for one-night-stands, threesomes, an awesome girlfriend…or whatever, implementing what you’re about to learn will redound in a giant step towards your goal.

Whether you consider yourself to be a slithering lounge lizard, a prodigious Casanova, a stand up guy, or a dilapidated ejaculate, if you are not yet doing what I am about to tell you, doing it will turbo charge your current success with women.

NOT DOING what I’m about to tell you is one of the biggest roadblocks preventing men from ATTRACTING women.

What you are about to learn is probably nothing you haven’t already heard. It, however, is one of the most neglected skills – especially by guys learning how to ATTRACT and be more successful with women.

Before I tell you what this secret is, I am going to share a little story with you. When I first became serious about mastering, what I used to perceive as, the ego bruising “social minefields,” in order to succeed with the women I desired, I befriended many guys trying, as well, to get this area of their life out of the way.

Some of these guys considered themselves to be spineless little worms. Others thought of themselves as full blown Casanovas. And a few felt like Average Joes. Some were amazing at quickly getting women into bed; while a few, alas, couldn’t, even if their life depended on it, talk to a woman.

All of us became really close and formed a taskforce with one goal in mind: To become more successful with women. I made a lot of good friends, and witnessed a few of them do some amazing things, ranging from making out with women in bars to occasionally having sex with a woman they had just met.

Despite what looked to be great success, there was a dark, depressing cloud brooding over us: None of us had any female friends. Some of the group had female friends, but got rid of them, thinking that they would take away time from attracting women. A few had never had a female friend. When we went out we never were just hanging out. Our only goal was to generate attraction in women. We did not have a single morsel of interest interacting with women we felt weren’t ATTRACTED to us. When entering a bar, women could feel our hunter energy, a pack wolves waiting to attack. Even if one of us made out with a woman, the night would usually end with just us guys.

Are you starting to get what’s wrong with this picture?

Good.

In my book, Real World Seduction, I talk about the importance of making five female friends that fit the archetype of the sort of woman you strive to ATTRACT.

Before breaking down the reasons for making at least five female friends, I’m going to get crystal clear about what I mean by “making friends with women.”

If you’re someone who sits around with their female friends, giving each other hot pink manicures and pedicures, listening to their problems with men, you’re in big trouble. Being friends with women is not about you playing the big passive bottom in their “bitter at men” gang bang. The only exception to this is if you are gay. My point: Being friends with women is about treating them exactly how you treat your guy friends. Women know you are not their girlfriends. When you act like you are their girlfriend, they interpret it as an unconvincing pretense used to get into their pants.

To reiterate: Being friends with women is about acting the way you would around your guy friends.

Let’s discuss the reasons for making friends with women.

Reason # 1: You Will Be More Comfortable Around Women In General:

Men who don’t have female friends are usually nervous and uncomfortable around women, causing women to feel uncomfortable around them. When a woman picks this sort of man up by the proverbial scruff of his neck, and mercilessly tears him apart, like a cheaply wrought rag doll, he becomes nervous and uncomfortable in his own skin. This results in her becoming nervous and uncomfortable. In her book, this will take you straight to the top of the Creep-O-Meter.

Trying to make women feel comfortable around you when you are uncomfortable in your own skin is usually a losing battle – and often times leads to them feeling even more uncomfortable.

The best way I know to make women feel comfortable is to become comfortable in your own skin and around women. The quickest road I know to becoming comfortable in your own skin and around women is to make female friends.

Reason # 2: You Will No Longer Need An Endless Supply Of Pick Up Lines And Memorized Material To Be Successful With Women:

I know some guys who are amazing at approaching women and initially getting women attracted to them but as soon as they run out of rehearsed material, things take a floundering turn for the awkward as they buckle completely. One common scenario is that a guy will meet a woman and succeed in generating the emotion inside her of wanting, chasing, and reaching for more of him through using memorized material. She willingly gives him her number. When he calls she has jamais vu (jamais vu is the opposite of déjà vu: it is the illusion that you are encountering something you have already experienced for the first time). It is like she is talking to a total stranger and the emotion of her feeling attraction towards him is long gone. Since he doesn’t know what to do outside the realm of using memorized material, she treats him like a random telemarketer trying to solicit her, cutting the phone call abnormally short and hanging up. The problem is that this guy neither understands women nor knows how to act around them. One of the best ways for developing these skills is by being friends with women – especially the type you strive to succeed with. Once you have taken the time to implement the skills you learned from my book in the real world and have made a few female friends, you’ll start to notice something cool happening in your interactions with women: After talking to a woman for a few minutes you’ll know exactly how to generate attraction with her, without having to use rehearsed material. I’m not against using memorized material – in fact, I’m a fan of it. But if you can only interact with women using memorized material, you are in big trouble.

Reason # 3: Women Know When A Man Is Not Frequently Around Other Women:

Women are clairvoyant when comes to knowing whether or not a man is frequently around women. Women assume that if other females hang around you, then you must be a cool guy. They assume, likewise, that if no females hang around you, something might be wrong with you – bad thing! This is pretty much herd mentality – go figure!

One of the big problems with a lot of the material on how to attract women is that it only focuses on making you feel more confident about yourself. As, alas, you might know, you can do all the affirmations in the world, but if you don’t have the social skills to attract women, your out of luck.

Another blunder guys make when learning how to attract women is only memorizing material to say to women. Only memorizing material without understanding why you are doing it is a makeshift solution to attracting and succeeding with women. By just memorizing a few pick up lines, you’re cheating yourself out of really learning how to attract women. My book has hundreds of powerful things to say to women. But these are only examples to help you learn the skills needed for attracting women. My belief is that people learn from a combination of explanation and examples. If you ever purchase a product on attracting women that only gives you explanations but no examples or examples – think pick up lines – but no explanations, you are being cheated – big time!

My book takes you through hundreds of real world examples and painstakingly breaks down the structure and purpose of these examples. If you put forth the effort studying my book, you will never have to memorize another person’s pick up lines or material again. Because you will understand the underlying structure behind generating attraction with women, allowing you to come up with your own material and lines. So if you haven’t picked up my book, do today!

RealWorldSeduction

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Swinggcat responds to your emails:

Comment:

Hi Swinggcat,
Just to say BIG "thank you" for the amazing stuff you write – your posts, your book, the ideas….I’m still using your challenging and qualifying stuff without any significant changes and it works like a CHARM.
I think that you invented the formula all we need. Your system is really something completely new – as you say it is “swinggcat”.
And now my request: If you supply us with MORE of this kind of REAL-LIFE examples/stories you will PUSH the things much, much further in the right direction. I think what the guys really need is more of REAL seduction examples and less theory. (Please don’t think that I’m an advocate of the Outer Game thus ignoring the Inner one).

If I try to explain the principles of the internal combustion engine by the laws of physics and chemistry it will take me a lot of time to
draw the picture…however if I show you a short movie how it works without much explanation …you will get the picture almost
instantly…

And this is how your stuff works with women - INSTANTLY. When I run your method on a woman she starts looking amazed and in disbelieve, looses control and composure…and after awhile has no choice but surrender…

It’s Very similar with the seduction process provided that you have some basic understanding…The guys need the connection between something real in their mind(your real-life stories) and the reality in which they operate and they want to shape.

I have collected almost everything. I'm very well acquainted with all the seduction theories, methods
systems...etc currently existing and have to admit that your system looks like mount Everest compared to the rest ..

I consider it like a new religion and keep in mind that thousands and thousands of guys out there are awaiting your new fantastic real-life stuff… so
please keep up the good work and God bless you, MAN…
- A From California


My Comments:

Wow! – I’m glad you are having success using the material from my book. I know what I teach works because it has worked for me amongst many others.

You were successful because you took the time to master the techniques in my book – and I applaud you for that. I think the success you are starting to taste is something that is attainable to many other guys, if they only took the time to master these techniques.

About Real World Seduction/Swinggcat Method being a Religion: Well, in no way do I consider what I teach a religion. I am just some guy who has a lot of experience with women. And, at least I feel, has figured some things out about them that others haven’t.

Then again – maybe if I turn it into a religion I can get a nice tax break!

Comment:

Maybe I'm being a bit premature here, since I have not had a chance to use your stuff yet (I just received it less than 24 hours ago and spent my nightshift at work reading the bulk of it), but your SH -T is SWEEET!!!
I was skeptical about ordering your eBook because I've ordered a few seduction manuals in the past (3 to 5 especially over the past 21/2 months) and I've gotten very minimal results.
Now don't get me wrong...some of the other manuals that I've ordered I think have some merit to them; They have their own terminology which is pretty much equivalent to your stages of Attraction. But, where I have failed in the past in getting these women over these past several months is, I think, at the attraction and close stage.
I have consistently had all the girls that I've set up a date – sorry, meeting with - flake on me (A few of them whom I’ve been acquainted with for a few months or so, and one which I thought was in the bag, as early as yesterday…Can you believe that mutherf – ckin’ SH -T!!!). A lot of the other manuals, in my opinion do not give great concrete examples or examples to work with.
My problem is with the Attraction stage. I can never get them to follow through on their commitment to meet up with me. If I could do that, then I think I could fumble my way through a successful close or non-successful close; but I need the experience of getting past that Attraction stage so I will eventually, no doubt in my mind, become successful at closing these women; My efforts are always frustrated coming out of the starting block.
Reading your examples of Prizing, with the Sub-Headings consisting of:
1. Open Loops
2. Pushing & Pulling
3. Revealing & Concealing
4. Undermining
And then following up with Qualifying & Challenging, is wicked to the point of Evil!!! I feel a sense of renewed hope in succeeding at the Attraction Stage (My personal weak point), and I can’t wait to try them out!
Whether It’s your system by itself, or using it in conjunction with other systems (which I aforementioned earlier, is meritorious in their own way), I am confident that I, and any other User will kick ASS!!!
Sorry for the long email. I felt inspired at this moment to write it, and anything less than what is presented would do you, the reader, and me any injustice if the full background story was presented.
Anyway, Thanks again, and I will keep you updated on my future successes.
- Ray from Canada

My Comments:

Thank you for the compliments. Now go out and start getting the success you deserve.

Question:

First off I just want to say I have been reading your book, and although I am not finished yet, the information in it so far has been awesome. Your book fills in the holes that others left out. Instead of giving vague references on what to do, you spell it all out in detail. I have come to a point where I am no longer taking things personally; but now that I can get a number fairly easily I have come to another stumbling block. I find that even though I may ask for an email the woman will say, "no, here take my number instead", so now I'm thinking cool. But, when I call these women they don't return phone calls or act cold and standoffish, the opposite of how they were in person. Am I missing something? I cannot see myself as being the PRIZE if the woman already has the power because I'm calling her, and she can act rude, ignore, or not even return calls (the woman has already established the frame/meta-frame). In a way she forces a man to chase her. I know I have read books that say persistence, but when is enough enough. Is there another way?
I think this is a very important question that most men have trouble with.
Thanks in advance for your help.
G in Texas

My Comments:

Your doing awesome. I really, though, need more info to answer your question.
How long are you waiting to call these women? As a general rule DON’T wait too long to call her. Calling too soon can make you look needy, but waiting too long is usually worse. If, for example, you met and generated attraction with a woman five days ago, she has probably already interacted with several guys who she also was attracted to since that day. My point: Five days is an eternity in her world in which you have probably been long forgotten, my man. Since I have been doing this stuff for awhile, and I can leave quite an impression on women, I call when I feel like it. Remember: agonizing over whether or not a woman sees you as the PRIZE, is a form you chasing her – of her being the PRIZE in the interaction. Not caring what a woman thinks of you can be very powerful!

Also, as I said earlier in this newsletter, women sometimes have jamais vu. Even if when first meeting them you manage to generate the emotion in them of wanting, chasing, and reaching for more of you, by the time you talk to them on the phone this emotion might be long gone and forgotten. So you have to reignite this emotion in them. I have ways of doing this. Maybe I’ll do a whole newsletter on countering jamais vu.

The other possibility is that there is plenty of attraction there, but that women don’t feel comfortable enough to take that call to action with you. There are a lot of guys who can generate attraction with women but fail to create the comfort, allowing her take action.
A caveat: Making a woman comfortable is less about using particular lines or strategies and more about feeling comfortable in your own skin and with women, believing that you deserve beautiful women, taking a strong lead, and assuming that she wants to do what you want her to – be it having sex with you, having a threesome with you, going on a date with you…or whatever. In fact, most of the available lines and strategies used to make women feel comfortable taking action either end up making women feel more uncomfortable or kill the attraction all together if you have not mastered the aforementioned things. So if you want to be more than the cheesy guy in the bar who has a couple good memorized lines and become the sort of man women not only feel attraction towards but want to be around, pick up my book today.

RealWorldSeduction

'Till next time,

Swinggcat

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P.S.S.-If you have a success story you would like to
share, or a question you would like to ask, or a
comment you would like to make, please email me at:

swinggcat@realworldseduction.com

Include the fist initial of your first and last
name. And include the country, state/province,
and city you live in.

This whole "learning" thing goes both ways, you
know! Oh, and be sure not to just hit "reply" to
this email, because I won't get it!

Thanks!

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Swinggcat and RealWorldSeduction are trademarks of
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Frames, Games, and Prizability…

By Swinggcat- author of Real World Seduction


Hey Guys,

A while back someone emailed me a great success story. I saved it on my computer and forgot about it. Last week I was going through my computer and found it. I thought, “Wow! - this is a really great story,” and was planning on using it in my last newsletter. But, then, as I was reading through it, I thought to myself, “there is so much good stuff going on here, I could do a whole newsletter on it.” And that’s exactly what I’m doing. Enjoy!

“Hey Swinggcat! There once was a time when I would walk into a bar, look at all the beautiful women having fun with guys who were NOT me, and get depressed. So I’d start drinking, and that would only make me more depressed. Eventually I’d go home alone, hating the world, hating women, and most of all, hating myself for not even TRYING to have fun.

Bars and clubs can be an intimidating environment. Until recently, it wasn’t in my reality to believe that I could actually make out with a girl in either location. Sure, I’d seen guys do it before, but to think that *I* could was just beyond any logical reasoning my mind could grasp.

But in reading through Swinggcat’s book, there was a chapter that really stuck out at me. That was the chapter on FRAMES. As Swinggcat defines it, a frame determines the underlying meaning of behaviors and actions.

I’ve found this is a *key* concept in understanding any interaction with women.

When you enter a situation you may feel uncomfortable with, the natural inclination is to be overwhelmed by the FRAME your environment presents. If you allow this to happen, you effectively give up any control over your behaviors and actions. This is the worst possible thing you can do if you are hoping to meet the girl of your dreams. Controlling your FRAME, and setting the right FRAME, as opposed to adopting the FRAMES presented to you, is the most powerful tool there is in getting a woman.

Allow me to demonstrate what I mean.

I was recently in a very trendy club in Los Angeles. It was the kind with some low level celebrities, some incredibly beautiful women, some incredibly rich men, sexy go-go dancers swinging around on poles, trendy techno music, and tastefully pornographic movies projected on the walls. In short: IT WAS THE MOST INTIMIDATING ENVIRONMENT KNOWN TO MAN!

So there I am, a guy who’s about 50 lbs. overweight, who’s bald, and who makes $30 Grand a year, hob-knobbing with models and porno stars. And wouldn’t you know it, the same feeling I got when I went to a bar in the past began to creep up on me. But because I was able to understand the concept of controlling my FRAME, I was able to do something amazing.

I set the frame that I’m having a good time, that all the girls in the club liked me, and that I was going to have fun with them. Before long, I found myself in a conversation with a beautiful girl who is a model. In fact, she told me she’s going to be on the next season of “America’s Next Top Model.” Because I approached her with a strong frame of having fun and that I was the PRIZE, she was very responsive to me. She eventually got dragged away by some friends (as is apt to happen in clubs). But later on, I saw her talking to a group of guys who were obviously trying to hit on her.

But because my frame was so strong, I walked up to the group, took her by the hand, and literally LEAD her onto the dance floor, away from all the moes she was talking to, who watched in stunned silence and a poor, bald, fat guy grinded away with this amazing girl in front of them. And not only that – SHE WAS INTO IT!

So there I am, body pressed up against this girl, having the best time in the world, and I think to myself “I should make out with her!”

So I did. I grabbed her and planted one right on her lips. And not only did she react well, but she reciprocated! Before long, our tongues were in a fencing match with each other, and I was the envy of about 78% of the club. It was a reality shattering experience for me, because until that point, the only place I’d ever made out with a girl was either in my car or in the bedroom after about 3 or 4 dates.

So what was different? The answer: My Frame! I set the frame where I was the PRIZE, where she was trying to win ME over, and where she wants me so bad that she WANTED to make-out with me. And because I set the strong frame, the model I was with WENT ALONG WITH IT! Now, I can now go into a club without that sinking feeling of depression dragging me down, because I know it is possible to not only have fun, but to meet any girl I want and make-out with her! You just gotta have the right frame.

Thanks Swinggcat!”
- M from Pasadena

My response:

Damn! – talk about a geek to sheik story. This guy went from “classified gimp” to “certified pimp.” What was is it that allowed him to do this? The sole enabling factor was this: He understood the power of ESTABLISHING himself as the PRIZE when interacting with women. In my book I call this PRIZABILITY.

As those of you who have been following my newsletters and have read my book know: ATTRACTION is not what a woman prefers. ATTRACTION is creating the emotion inside a woman of wanting, reaching for more of you. The art of creating this emotion inside women is what call PRIZING.

You cannot, however, create the emotion in a woman of her wanting and reaching for more of you if she does not perceive you as being the PRIZE. Put in other words, before you can ATTRACT her, you need to set the groundwork that you are the PRIZE. You can’t make a woman want more of you if she does not view you as having any perceived value.

Even having good looks and lots of money, in and of themselves, doesn’t necessarily suffice in establishing that you are the PRIZE with women.

A more efficient way of ESTABLISHING yourself as the PRIZE is through developing specific social skills. Learning to, for example, tell stories, cold read, be intriguing, develop your sense of humor…and so on. I do all of these things, and, in fact, I teach them in my book.

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The most powerful way, however, to establish PRIZABILITY is to ALWAYS define the underlying meaning of your interactions with women as you being the one who is the PRIZE. In my book I call this the META-FRAME.

In fact, all of the other methods for establishing PRIZABILITY- such as, telling stories, cold reading, being intriguing, saying something funny…and so on – only work in conjunction with you defining the META-FRAME as you being the PRIZE.

If you are doing a bunch of things to try to establish your PRIZABILITY with a woman – such as, story telling and acting funny – but you are not defining the underlying meaning of your interaction with her as you being the one who is the PRIZE, you will, unknowingly, establish negative PRIZABILITY.

Put in other words, doing or saying things to increase your PRIZABILTY within the context – or META-FRAME - of you not being the PRIZE will inevitably make you look needy, pathetic, and desperate.

Before learning anything else about dating or ATTRACTING women, you need to know how to ESTABLISH the META-FRAME that you are the PRIZE in the interaction. Even if you have all of the social skills in the world, without knowing how to set the META-FRAME your skills are worthless when comes to ATTRACTING women. If you do not yet have a handle on this, you need to read my book:

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When you are fat, bald, and broke, like M from Pasadena, a woman’s default assumption is probably going to be that you are not the PRIZE. To make matters worse, your default assumption about yourself might be that you aren’t the PRIZE.

As M from Pasadena tells us: “When you enter a situation you may feel uncomfortable with, the natural inclination is to be overwhelmed by the FRAME your environment presents. If you allow this to happen, you effectively give up any control over your behaviors and actions. This is the worst possible thing you can do if you are hoping to meet the girl of your dreams. Controlling your FRAME, and setting the right FRAME, as opposed to adopting the FRAMES presented to you, is the most powerful tool there is in getting a woman.”

M refuses to allow society, his environment, and the people he is around to dictate his FRAME and META-FRAME.

Just doing this can establish PRIZABILITY because it conveys to women that you are in control of your power, have a strong sense of self, and have an unswayable REALITY. These are all qualities women find PRIZABLE in men.

M continues: “I set the frame where I was the PRIZE, where she was trying to win ME over, and where she wants me so bad that she WANTED to make-out with me. And because I set the strong frame, the model I was with WENT ALONG WITH IT! Now, I can now go into a club without that sinking feeling of depression dragging me down, because I know it is possible to not only have fun, but to meet any girl I want and make-out with her! You just gotta have the right frame.”

Let’s remember, he didn’t play tonsil hockey with just any girl, he did it with a woman who is going to be on the next season of “America’s Next Top Model.” And he was able to do this in spite of being fat, bald, and broke – all because he established the META-FRAME that he is the PRIZE.


When you ASSUME that you have perceived value, and KNOW how to establish the META-FRAME that you are the PRIZE, women will see you as a PRIZE they want to win over – and it doesn’t matter if you’re fat, or bald or broke…or whatever. If, however, you are good looking and rich yet do not have the skill set for establishing the META-FRAME that you are the PRIZE, your success with women will be mediocre at best. That’s how important the META-FRAME is. With some guys, it almost seems like they were born with it. Not me. I had to learn how to establish the META-FRAME through a lot of experimenting and hard work. If you want to save yourself truck loads of time, come check out my book and learn how to establish the META-FRAME within a few hours:

RealWorldSeduction

'Till next time,

Swinggcat

P.S. – I recently started an affiliate program where I am giving high commissions on sales generated by my affiliates. So, if you have been enjoying my book and newsletters, and you run a website where you think your visitors would be interested in my book, sign up for my affiliate program.
http://realworldseduction.directtrack.com/


P.S.S.-If you have a success story you would like to
share, or a question you would like to ask, or a
comment you would like to make, please email me at:

swinggcat@realworldseduction.com

Include the fist initial of your first and last
name. And include the country, state/province,
and city you live in.

This whole "learning" thing goes both ways, you
know! Oh, and be sure not to just hit "reply" to
this email, because I won't get it!

Thanks!

______________________________________________
Copyright 2004 Superior Living Inc. All rights reserved.
Swinggcat and RealWorldSeduction are trademarks of
Superior Living Inc.

Demystifying Charisma…

By Swinggcat- author of Real World Seduction




Hey guys,

A few nights ago, I went barhopping with a friend of mine. We both talked to truck loads of women and used practically the same material on them. But by the end of the night my friend’s results were so bad he felt blessed with an unlikable self. My experience, however, was the total opposite. I felt like Satan with pitchfork in hand, inciting one girl after the next to engage in some naughty mirth. Is it because of my looks? Is it because I have some impalpable quality about me called “charisma,” which is not teachable? Is it because I am Satan? No – it is none of these things. It is a learned behavior no different than learning to tie your shoes. I know this because, similar to my friend, I spent years feeling like a boring sloth before transforming myself into a flittering butterfly charming one group of women to the next.

But before I reveal to you the skills that distinguish a charismatic Casanova from a floundering Waldo, I am going to give you a quick overview of my method, Naturalized Attraction

Naturalized Attraction is not about trying to apply therapeutic techniques used in psychology to dating, attracting, and seducing women. Nor is it based upon the unfounded claims propounded by the “let’s play pseudo-psychologist to the helpless, needy and pathetic” gurus of the world – think Dr. Phil!

The starting point of “Naturalized Attraction” is always the REAL WORLD. The method strives to observe, model, and improve upon both the natural social behaviors that generate attraction in women, and the glue that holds these behaviors together. Our culture has mystified this glue under the rubric “charisma” as an innate, intangible, non-teachable quality blessed individuals possess. “Charisma,” however, is actually the combination of a few learnable and repeatable skills.

So this begs the question: What skills constitute Charisma and how does a person go about acquiring these skills?

Two skills that play a mainstay in being charismatic are: owning your material, and having a strong intent. Let’s start with the first one, owning your material. There are a lot of men who cringe at the idea of having well rehearsed jokes and stories prepared for social interactions. You be might be one of these men. If so, think about this: Most socially adept people will unconsciously tell the same jokes and stories over and over again, honing them to perfection. Oftentimes, however, once a person is made conscious of, for example, using a rehearsed story, he begins to feel guilty for acting fake. This guilt is ludicrous. I have never met a single socially adept person who used completely new material in every social interaction. Purge your self of this guilt. Remember: Whether you are conscious of it or not, having at least some rehearsed material is part of having strong social skills.

Having well rehearsed material will allow you to simultaneously (1) display your own personality to the women increasing your PRIZABILITY in her eyes, and (2) to get your own head so you can observe both her and the situation. When you have well rehearsed material your brain power will not be expended on remembering, for example, a particular joke or story. Instead, you will have extra brain power to analyze what you need to do to further engage her.

One thing, though, I am bit fastidious about is using your own material. When it is your own material, even if it is rehearsed, it is authentic because you are displaying who you are. Even if you only have rehearsed a few minutes of memorized material, if it is about you, it won’t matter. But if you are using someone else’s material, you risk coming off as fake. I have seen guys who have an hour or so of memorized material, which is not their own. Once they are spent, so to speak, women usually loose interest in them. Probably the dramatic shift in personality makes women suspicious.

Having a strong intent also plays an important role in acting charismatic. A few years back, women would often times loose interest while talking to me or think that I that I was B.S.-ing them. The reason was that they were picking up on my weak intent. Even the girls lumbered with IQs barley into the double digits picked up on this weakness. My problem: I needed to develop a strong intent.

But what does it mean to have a strong intent? This is probability one of the most misunderstood terms out there. This is due to the follies of some psychological disciplines – such as, Neuro-Linguistic Programming – that fail to be precise when defining terminology. Having a strong intent is most commonly misunderstood as meaning: A congruency between a person’s external behaviors and his internal beliefs. This is, however, not the meaning but the symptom of having a strong intent.

Having a strong intent is congruently:

1) Having the desire and the will to do what needs to be done to achieve a particular outcome.
2) Having the unwavering belief that you will achieve the intended outcome.

If a person has the desire and the will to do what needs to be done to achieve a particular outcome but does not have the belief that he can achieve it, he will come across as needy. This used to be me. I had the desire and the will to do what needs to be done to achieve a particular outcome, but not believe or think that I deserve my desired outcome.

One thing that has helped me tremendously is rehearsing the outcome of everything I intend to get an effect from. So, for example, if I intend to tell a story to intrigue a woman, I will rehearse in my mind her being intrigued by my story. If, for example, intend have woman lean and try to kiss me after I have kissed her and pulled back, I will rehearse this over and over again in my mind.

When you are in an attraction flow – achieving one intended outcome to the next – the material qua tools for achieving these outcomes become transparent. When driving somewhere, for example, you barely even notice the car. All you are concerned with is getting to the desired place. It is only when, for example, you get a flat tire that you become conscious again of the car as a tool used to get you to your intended destination. Likewise, it only becomes obvious to you and the woman that you are trying to do something to get a particular outcome when something interrupts the attraction flow: stumbling over your words because you didn’t know your material, or not having the belief that you could get your intended outcome…or whatever.

But all of the intended outcomes we have been discussing – getting her intrigued, getting her to kiss you…and so on – are only tools to achieve the META-INTENT: Getting her to sleep with you.

When a person has mastered the attraction flow, everything becomes transparent except the fact that he and the woman are going to sleep together – they both know it is going to happen. When a woman encounters a man of this caliber, she will often speak about that quality she can’t quite put her finger on that drew her to him. In this culture we oftentimes classify this behavior as Charisma.

In reality it comes down to controlling the META-FRAME, and having both a stronger reality and META-INTENT than the woman you are attracting. All of this stuff is covered in my book or will be covered in some of my upcoming products. If you are ready to take your persuasion skills to the next level, come visit me:


http://www.realworldseduction.com/

'Till next time,

Swinggcat


P.S.-If you have a success story you would like to share, or a question you would like to ask, or a comment you would like to make, please email me at swinggcat@realworldseduction.com

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Getting Past Sexual Barriers…

By Swinggcat- author of Real World Seduction



Hey guys,

I want to share a secret with you that will blow your mind. Warning: When you first hear this secret you might feel a bit disconcerted. If you already have truck loads of experience with women you might think to yourself, “Wow…someone else knows about this too!” If you are a woman reading this, you might say to yourself, “No! – Now the male world is going to be privy to the truth.”

Most guys who have at least some experience in the “dating game” have encountered women who were ATTRACTED to them but would not kiss them. Almost a hundred percent of the time men respond to this barrier in the same way, as if they were one person with one brain. They think that if a woman won’t kiss them, she will not have sex with them.

They assume to get sexual with her they need to kiss her first, and to kiss her they need to build an emotional connection with her. Sometimes it’s important to build an emotional connection, making her feel comfortable with you, before getting sexual with her. Other times, however, it’s not.

There are situations where trying to kiss a woman or build an emotional connection with a woman will actually deter you from having sex with her. Most men, however, are incompetent with a dash of stupidity in these situations. This is because men’s minds are designed to process information in a logical and linear way. Women’s emotions, however, don’t work in a linear fashion.

Men intuitively think that in order to sleep with a woman they have to go through a linear sequence of steps. When women put up resistance, many men construe it as a barrier they must break down to progress to the next step. This usually ensues in more resistance.

So this begs the question: “What is the secret way, Swinggcat, for handling women who like you but will not kiss you?”

I discovered this secret many years ago while out one night with this woman who is lumbered with one of the most perfect bodies I have ever seen. She was wearing low cut jeans. As she walked her jeans began to slip down, down down they slipped, down around the cheeks of her rear, a perfect rim of thing, held up by the crotch of her pants. Not only was I aroused, but focused on my goal: To score with this luscious babe. I managed to get her into my bedroom. We sat and talked on my bed. I remember she was wearing this low cut top. “She’s really working those breasts in there, bouncy bouncy,” I thought to myself. We started to cuddle. I was aroused – indeed. I went in for the kill, smacking my lips against hers. I was, however, unpleasantly surprised as she pushed me away. I made a few tragic tries at connecting with her. Then made a few more frustrating attempts at kissing her but she kept pushing me away. This started to put my teeth on edge. To ease the frustration I started daydreaming about a hot bath, an all you can eat buffet …and something to keep me going – a picture of myself on a king size bed with two really hot girls, them kissing each other, me kissing them. Then I drifted back to reality, and started to agonize: “It’s going to be impossible to get this girl to kiss me.”

“To ease my mind,” I thought, “I will try something so impossible that I won’t even be able to agonize over it succeeding. I am going to attempt to have sex with her without even kissing her.” So, this is what I did: I spooned her from behind, started rubbing her thighs, lowered her pants, and started stimulating her with my fingers. This ensued in sex.

Here’s what’s weird: Afterwards I tried to kiss her, but she pushed me away. Since then I have realized that many women will have sex with a man, despite their disinclination to get intimate with him.

This, my friends, is the crux of the issue: Just because a woman resists being intimate with you, doesn’t mean she is not open to having sex with you. And sometimes trying to emotionally connect with a woman will only make her resist more.

Am I saying that all women don’t want an emotional connection? Not at all – many do. There are, however, a lot women who are not open to having an emotional connection with a stranger – maybe, for example, they are married, or have been hurt in a past relationship, or have a hard time trusting people they don’t know well – yet they are open to having sex with one.

There are, furthermore, a number of women in committed relationships who are open to having sex with strangers, yet will not kiss them. “This is because ‘kissing’ is meaningful, while sex is just sex,” to quote female friend of mine. Her words voice the sentiments of part of the female population. This is not something I endorse. It is important, however, to be aware that this is the reality of some women.

The moral of the lesson is this: Attracting women is not always a linear process. Although a lot of women need to feel comfortable and have an emotional connection with a man before sleeping with him, other females flee from these emotional connections. So, if you find yourself confronted with a barrier, back up and assess the sort of woman you are dealing with before proceeding further.

Being able to handle these barriers comes down to knowing how to set strong frames, and read women. Both of these subjects are covered in my book. I’m getting ready to release a ton of mind shattering material. To benefit the most from it, you need to have read my book. So, if you haven’t taken the chance to pick up a copy, do so today:

http://www.realworldseduction.com/


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Mailbag:

Comments:

Dude if we ever meet I owe you dinner. I used to be so shy talking to chicks at clubs. Your book has really changed that. I used your qualifying and challenging technique to make out with a hotty in a bar for the first time. Swinggcat, you da man!

A from Texas

My Comments:

Hearing this makes me feel that all of my effort is worth while. I would love to use this as a testimonial on my webpage – cool? Keep up the good work.


Question:

hi there…i have been having some good success with your meta intent exercise from your charisma newsletter. I have always had a hard time getting really good looking girl to keep talking to me. but since doing the exercise they don’t want to leave me. they just keep wanting stay longer. but I want to turn it physical. how do I do that?



My Comments:

Good job on doing the Meta-Intent exercise. I’m going to go out on a limb, though, and guess that you haven’t read my book – am I right?


In my book I describe in great detail how to go from talking to a woman to getting physical with her. This is a subject that is almost entirely neglected by other dating experts. One of the specific techniques I talk about in my book is “physical push-pull.” This is when you “physically” pull a woman into you, and then “physically” push her away from you. Doing this emotionally compels women to WANT to get physical with you. Mastering this one skill - no matter what your skill with women currently is - will increase your success with women by a minimum of 50%.

My book is probably the only place on the planet where you can learn physical push-pull. So, take your success with women to the next level by picking up a copy today.

http://www.realworldseduction.com/

'Till next time,

Swinggcat


P.S.-If you have a success story you would like to share, or a question you would like to ask, or a comment you would like to make, please email me at swinggcat@realworldseduction.com

Include the fist initial of your first and last name. And include the country, state/province, and city you live in.

This whole "learning" thing goes both ways, you know! Oh, and be sure not to just hit "reply" to this email, because I won't get it! Thanks!


Copyright 2004 Superior Living Inc. All rights reserved. Swinggcat and RealWorldSeduction are trademarks of Superior Living Inc.