Thursday, May 20, 2010

A Dirty Little Pleasure Most Women Never Admit To

By Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction

I've got a question for you: Do women enjoy being hit on - or do they loathe it?

If you know in your heart-of-hearts women enjoy it - maybe even love it - you're well on your way to experiencing massive success with women.

If you've got the belief, though, that women find men hitting on them more annoying than nails against a chalk board you're in big trouble.

But don’t worry, my friend, because you're in the same position as most men.

Many a man believes women hate to be hit on - and rightfully so.

If you, for example, frequent bars or nightclubs, you've probably overheard groups of women yapping away about how they fear and loathe men hitting on them.

But if this were so, women would wear shower curtains to bars and nightclubs.

But they don't.

They, instead, wear skimpy little outfits to maximize the amount of male attention they get.

I'm gonna return to this train of thought in a moment.

But first, I want to shed some serious light on why believing women don't like to be hit on is akin to sentencing your penis to life in prison with no chance of parole. No hope of him ever vacationing in that warm, cuddly place he enjoys dancing into the wee hours of the morning to that old Digital Underground song "Do The Humpty Hump." The only love he's gonna get is from Bubba's nether regions.
When this nefarious belief creeps its way into a man’s noggin, fear will prevent him from approaching women.

He'll, for example, think to himself: "If I approach a woman she'll see me as an insidious little vermin she wants shunted from her reality."

If he does get up the gall to approach a woman, he's gonna have scrawled across his forehead in indelible red ink: "I'm so scared you'll reject me, I'm about to poop my pants."

This will communicate to her, he's a consummate gimp. Women feel no attraction for gimps. They feel attraction toward men they perceive as a Prize.

Okay.

I think I've convinced you that this belief has the worth of a sewer rat.

But you might be having second thoughts.

Maybe you're not fully convinced.

So I'm gonna rewind and go back to my original train of thought: The belief that women don't like to be hit on is crap.

If this belief ever crossed paths with the Food & Drug Administration they'd stamp it with an official FDA seal reading: 100% Certified B.S.

Why do you think women spend so much time - sometimes hours - primping and preening themselves to go out to nightclubs and bars?

Because they want to be hit on.

There's a school of thought, though, that says: "Women don't dress up for men; they do it for other women."

I think there's a grain of truth here but what this means is that women dress up to compete with other women for male attention. For male validation.

In other words, one of the reasons women put time into primping and preening themselves is to compete for who gets hit on the most by men.

Many a woman will never explicitly admit she enjoys men hitting on her.

If she did, she'd risk other women perceiving her as being at the top of the Slut-O-Meter.

Wanting to be hit on is one of women's dirty little secrets.

Think of those stupid, gossip magazines - such as, Enquirer and Star magazine. Almost everyone talks about the stupidity of these publications and claims to have never picked one up.

This is B.S.

If most people didn't read them, their circulation wouldn't be so widespread.

The lurid reality is this: Most of us can't wait to get our dirty little paws all over these magazines while standing in line at the supermarket.

A lot of us have too much pride to admit it.

But almost all of us get picked up by our lapels and sucked into the contents of these papers.

Same holds true with women. Most women claim, they hate when guys hit on them.
But most women love it. They can't get enough of it.

But they'll never admit it. It's their dirty little pleasure they don’t admit.
When you make no apologies for hitting on a woman and convey the belief that by YOU hitting on her you're doing her a favor, it lets her know she's dealing with a real man who's a Prize she has to win over.

If you believe women want and love to be hit on, you're half way to massive success with women.

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Tuesday, May 18, 2010

A Jedi Mind Trick For Piquing Any Woman's Interest

By Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction 2.0

The collective male’s attempt at piquing a woman’s interest runs the gamut from demonstrating a lightning-quick wit and sharing interesting stories about himself to doing magic tricks like a clown out of Barnum & Bailey’s circus.

But more often than not, her eyes wander to her cell phone and then meander to the people behind him.
In fact, just about everything in her environment seems to enthrall her except for him, causing a billion and one insecurities to snake into his mind, such as…

1). She must think I am ugly as sin.

2). Does she find me as boring as Velveeta cheese?

3). Do I have the personality of a houseplant?

4). Did I forget to wear deodorant?

5). Is my ego going to be an obituary in tomorrow’s paper?

And if he’s bitter, he might think: She’s like a warm toilet seat – some guy was there before me, another will be there when I get up.

Like a hard working mule, he takes one last crack at making conversation.

But, alas, she stings him with, “It was nice meeting you but I have to go.”

In retrospect, he may think: Damn! That fall-asleep boring conversation piece took the pickup to a crippling halt. It was like the one unlucky drink that shoves a wavering alcoholic off the wagon. I should’ve never used it.

Most of us have experienced something along these lines.

Many of us have thought: If I only had more interesting things to say, do, or show women, my outcome with them would be completely different.

Although there may be a speck of truth here, most great orators, politicians, and salesmen will tell you, “The content of what you say is far less important than how you say it.”

I’ve seen comedians put an audience in stitches one night yet bomb the next. While the standup routine they used was exactly the same on both nights, their delivery was completely different.

For this reason…

You won’t learn any interesting conversation pieces, cute lines, or fall-on-the-floor-laughing jokes in this article.

Instead…

I’m going to teach you a communication secret that captivates women.

But before I go on, I want you to make me a promise (and, as you’ll see in a few minutes, this promise is for your own good)…
No matter how boring you think you are (even if you think you’re more boring than a 90 year old woman living in a nursing home), I want you to promise me that you won’t change the content of what you say to women for one week.

Here’s why…

I want you to see how adding just this simple secret to what you currently do and say when interacting with women can dramatically increase your success.

In school, you’re taught to finish a thought or idea before moving onto the next. Great advice if you want to plunge women into a narcoleptic stupor.

But if you want women to hang onto your every word, you need to break this crippling habit and start using nested loops.

A nested or open loop is when you start an idea, thought, or story, and instead of finishing it, you move onto something else. In other words, you keep the loop open.

Whenever the human mind is presented with an open loop – unfinished idea, thought, or story – it seeks closure.
Open loops are a form of what I call “tension loops” because they create unresolved emotional tension in a woman.

Even if a woman finds you as interesting and attractive as a sewer rat, the open loop unconsciously compel her to hang onto every word that pours out of your lips and emotionally drives her to see you as a valuable Prize.

Because she seeks resolution to the tension you’ve sparked in her mind and knows that you can release the tension, she perceives you as having value and heeds close attention to everything you say.

Imagine a slovenly bum and a high maintenance babe crossing paths. The bum makes a tragic try at conversation with her by saying, “Hello. My name is Jack and I am homeless. Let me tell you about how I became homeless.”

Chances are, she’d have no interest and scurry off because she finds him aesthetically repulsive, possibly scary, and of little value.
But if he fired an open loop at her, such as, “You know what they say about women with green eyes?” he would probably spark unresolved tension in her body. She’d feel a yen for emotional closure. Closure only he has the power to bring her.

And bada bing, bada boom…

This vagabond she normally would never give the time of day to piques her interest and has value (or Prizability) in her eyes.

Furthermore, open loops can build sexual arousal…

When you spark emotional tension within the context of flirting with a woman it becomes sexualized in her body.

But there’s a facet of open loops I haven’t mentioned yet…

It’s called the “Zeigarnik effect.”

One of the early contributors to Gestalt psychology Bluma Zeigarnik noticed that waiters remember orders up until they serve the food. Then they forget. This led to the discovery that the mind retains the most information when a loop is open.

How does this help you? A woman will probably remember everything you tell her between opening up a loop and closing it.

I want to share with you a powerful application of open loops I learned from watching politicians…

Oftentimes, when politicians are asked a question, they skirt around it for several minutes, talking about almost irrelevant topics, before directly addressing it. This keeps the listener in suspense.

How can we apply this to seduction and attraction?

Here’s an example…

When most men meet a woman they utter their name and then shake the woman’s hand. Usually that’s it. The interaction is over.

An hour – or even a few minutes – later she probably won’t remember his name or anything about him.
Instead, when a woman asks me my name I use an open loop.

I may say,

“When I was a kid my mom told me that she and my dad originally named me Arete, which means all the qualities that make up someone with good character.

And I said, ‘Wow, mom… that’s awesome! Why didn’t you keep the name?’

And she said, ‘Well honey, you’re lucky we didn’t name you Arete because it’s the name of a goddess from Greek mythology.

But we didn’t really give a crap about you having a female name.

The real reason we didn’t name you Arete was that our dog was named Arete – we really loved the name.

And on the day you were born our dog was hit by a car. When we looked at you, we didn’t want you to remind us of the dog. So we named you Josh instead.’”

In lieu of giving her the instant gratification of learning my name I’m using an open loop. This builds unresolved tension inside her body.

Her unconscious mind seeks to bring closure to this loop, inciting her to hang on to my every word.

Had I just told her my name from the get go, she might have judged, “This average looking guy probably lives a boring life,” and then moved onto another man.

But by using an open loop, I had an opportunity to demonstrate that I come from cultured people, have a sense of humor, tell great stories, and possess value (or Prizability).

Plus, due to the Zeigarnik effect, she will remember that I was the guy almost named Arete.

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Friday, May 14, 2010

Dating Tips For Men: A Key Attribute For Seducing Women

Dating Tips For Men: A Key Attribute For Seducing Women

Dating Tips For Men: A Key Attribute For Seducing Women

Dating Tips For Men: A Key Attribute For Seducing Women

A Key Attribute For Seducing Women

By Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction 2.0

Take a guess what kind of men women find attractive.

The hapless collective male thinks you need a litany of material characteristics in tow to attract women.

This "seems" about right.

Listen in on a gaggle of females chattering on about what they look for in a man. They'll yap on about how they want a man sporting Johnny Depp's face, Christian Bale's physique, Warren Buffett's money, and John Lennon's fame.

Yet many of these females will sleep with and marry men with none of these things.

How do we resolve the paradox?

Here's the answer: the attributes women think they want in a man and the attributes that unconsciously drive them to see a man as a Prize bear little resemblance.

I'm going to focus on one of these characteristics: assuming a female wants you from the get go.

In the Empire Strikes Back there's a scene where Han Solo is being frozen in carbonite.

Here's how George Lucas originally wrote the scene:

Princess Lea gushes, "I love you."

Han gushes back, "I love you too."

Lucas thought the writing was romantic. But it wasn't.

So the day they filmed the scene, Harrison Ford, the actor who played Han Solo, threw Lucas a monkey wrench by veering off script.

When Princess Leia gushed, "I love you," he knowingly said, "I know."

What a pimp.

This single line made Empire Strikes Back a cult classic.

Whenever females hear Harrison Ford deliver the words "I know," their heart thuds with excitement.

Don't women think this is a bit arrogant?

Probably.

Nonetheless, when a man sees himself as a Prize, women are hard-wired to sexually respond to him.

Will this work if a woman is not attracted to you?

Yes. Beliefs are contagious. If your belief is strong enough, she'll start believing it too.

I've got a few questions for ya...

Have you ever spotted a girl you'd like to meet but didn't approach her because you thought your social value wasn't high enough?

Have you ever wanted to get physical with a girl but didn't because you thought she was out of your league?

If you've experienced any of these things, it's because you didn't - or don't - have the belief that you're the Prize.

Once you have this belief attracting women becomes as easy as shooting fish in a barrel.

Just imagine approaching a woman most men think is out of their league. She isn't attracted to you at first. But within minutes of meeting her, she starts touching you. You guys start kissing. Before you know it, she invites you back to her place to make sweet passionate monkey love.

That's what life is like when you believe you're the Prize.

Big Warning: You cannot just tell yourself to start believing you're the Prize.

Changing your beliefs is a little more involved than that.

That's why I've dedicated a whole chapter in my book Real World Seduction 2.0 to changing your beliefs. Inside you'll get powerful techniques that quickly mutate your self-image into a Prize women want to win over.

Plus, in Real World Seduction 2.0 you'll receive a PhD education on generating attract, compelling women to see you as the Prize, and taking your female interactions in exactly the direction you choose.

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The Raquette - The Most Powerful Archetype Of Seducer

Question From Reader:

Hey Swinggcat


This is Tomi. I've mailed you a couple times about how sweet your book is and I got a question about something that really confuses me BUT I'll tell you what has been working with me so far and how I'm doing. So I'll just lay it all out right now.

I'm at chapter 11: Push-Pull. In the past few months I can definitely say my comfort zone has increased, and I honestly thought it would never ever happen this way, I still got a ways to go but I can see the improvement, I'm making progress.

I'm building on my character and becoming who I want to become, who I've always been but couldn't show. This gives me confidence, leading to a stronger reality and I really am seeing what you meant in one of your quotes, "the correlation between a woman's looks and how she reacts to you is as strong as a 6 year old girl". This makes me laugh because in many cases it's too true :P.

I know I'm non-reactive, and it's just so much easier being this way because it allows you to think and builds prizability. I'm still working on my meta-intent, I'm really not sure what I want in a girl it's just that there's so many directions I could go.

Anyways as you read I'm on the push-pull part of the book, I started part 3 about a week ago and I like :) But one bit I couldn't understand was 'The Coquette' and 'The Rake'. You said the Coquette was the embodiment of the push, but instead of pushing women away, it pulls them in. It was right after the part talking about the push, so I'm assuming its meant to be a push, but it also pulls woman in. I'm confused, I'm really having trouble differentiating the push between the coquette.


- Tomi from Ontario


Swinggcat’s Response:


Tomi,


Congrats on increasing your comfort zone. You and I know this is a result of doing the exercises from Chapter 2.

Funny side story: When I was a kid, my mom coaxed me into going to a therapist to “cope” with my shyness.

He fed me some psychobabble about how your personality is cut in stone by the ripe age of seven. He told me, “If you’re shy, you’re always gonna be shy… and there’s nothing you can do about it… the key is to learn to accept it.”


Anyone who’s done the exercises from Chapter 2 knows that this is a bunch of B.S.


“I'm building on my character and becoming who I want to become, who I've always been but couldn't show.”


I’m gonna go out on a limb and guess that this is a result of reading Chapter 1: Developing The Attributes Of Men Women Respond To As The Prize.

As you know, developing these attributes transforms you into the man you’ve always wanted to be but couldn’t.

“I really am seeing what you meant in one of your quotes, "the correlation between a woman's looks and how she reacts to you is as strong as a 6 year old girl". This makes me laugh because in many cases it's too true :P.”


Yes. So many guys think their looks prevent them from getting the girl of their dreams. Before approaching a girl, they think, “How do my looks measure up to hers?”


“If my looks fall short of hers,” they believe, “I’ll get a bad reaction.”


But this isn’t true. I've met 200 lb. females with more facial hair than a teenage boy sport egos the size of a hot air balloon. On the other hand, I know models with the confidence of a battered dog.


More importantly, your looks play only a small factor in determining how a woman reacts to you.


Your confidence, social awareness, and skill at attracting women are much more important.


“One bit I couldn't understand was 'The Coquette' and 'The Rake'. You said the Coquette was the embodiment of the push, but instead of pushing women away, it pulls them in. It was right after the part talking about the push, so I'm assuming its meant to be a push, but it also pulls woman in. I'm confused, I'm really having trouble differentiating the push between the coquette.”

The coquette and the rake are classic seducer archetypes. Each one embodies half of Push-Pull.


The coquette intoxicates women by taking a step backward. His power lies in his ability to briefly withdraw his attention and interest from women, his lack of need to appease them, his self-reliance, and his willingness criticize their flaws.


While he proactively Pushes them away, he ends up Pulling them in. Put better, by Pushing them away, he sparks sexual tension and compels them to win him over. (I hope this answers your question.)

A big part of coquetting is being nonreactive.

Most men think acting nonreactive is keeping your emotions in check when women tease, test, challenge, or flake on you.

That’s part of it.

Here’s another part...

Have you ever laughed at a woman’s joke you didn’t get or find funny?

Why did you do it?

Maybe you didn’t wanna look like an idiot.

Maybe you felt bad for her.

Maybe you feared breaking rapport.

Maybe you wanted her to like you.

Believe it or not, the coquette wouldn’t laugh.

This may seem a bit harsh.

But when you laugh at a woman’s unfunny joke you’re attempting to get her validation.

Or, even worse, flattering her in a way that comes across with the sincerity of a used car salesman.

This reactive response might work for the moment but over the long haul, it nail files your Prizability down flat.

By the coquette acting nonreactive, the girl feels emotionally driven to make him laugh. In other words, she struggles to get his validation, transforming him into a prize she wants win over.

Should you refrain from laughing even when you find a joke funny?

Yuck. Sooner than later, women will be onto your mind game and then they’ll find you about as appealing as a dingle berry.

This only scratches the surface of acting nonreactive around women. If you want to master the ins-and-outs of acting nonreactive around women, get yourself a copy of Real World Seduction 2.0.


The rake is the embodiment of the Pull.


According to the Swiss psychiatrist Carl Young, everyone carries around a shadow. This is the side of them repressed by society. A big part of a woman’s shadow is sexual desire.


Alas, society looks down upon loose women and throttles them from fully expressing their sexual desire. This makes their shadow grow bigger and causes an internal strife to keep the shadow shackled up inside or to let it out.

The rake is a master at cajoling women into letting their shadow out. He does this through giving women validation and attention. His power lies in letting women know the sexual affect they have on him.

At first, women may resist, feign disgust, or accuse him of being a lecher. But secretly this makes them feel sexy. Sooner than later, they let their shadow out.

The most powerful seducers are what I call raquettes.

The raquette is a highbred: half rake, half coquette. He is an expert at Push-Pull: half the time he Pushes women away; the other, he Pulls them in.

This cocktail of Pushes and Pulls fills a woman head-to-toe with sexual tension, giving you the power to take the interaction in the direction you choose.

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