5 Myths Preventing Men From Attracting Women...

By Swinggcat – author of Real World Seduction


Myth #1: Being an Attractive Man Is
Always About Appealing To What
Women Say They Want

If you are one of those vehement supporters of
this myth, you should get a noose and hang
yourself - you'll be better off. Trying to get
a woman to like you by attempting to live up to
her ideal preferences in a man is a one way
ticket to transforming your ego into a
proverbial punching bag. Women prefer tall,
dark, handsome, rich men, packing dogs with
garden hose length and telephone pole girth.
Oh, furthermore, if you don't want to fall
short of their expectations you better be
lumbered with chiseled abs and a copious
bubble butt. If your rump isn't up to par,
you could always get silicon butt cheek
implants. But forewarning: Your
black-and-blue rear will be so sore that
you won't be able to sit down for a month.

As those of you know who have been reading my
newsletters and have read my book: Attraction
is not what a woman says she wants. If
attraction was what women say they prefer, then
I wouldn't know short, bald, fat, and broke
guys experiencing massive success with women.
But I do.

Attraction, contrary to this, is about you
creating the emotion inside women of wanting,
chasing, and reaching for more of you. Although
my short, bald, fat and broke Casanova buddies
don't fill the quota of the “ideal man,” they
do manage to generate the emotion inside women
of wanting, chasing, and reaching for more of
them. And this, my friend, is why they are
massively successful with women. The art of
creating this emotion in women is what I
call PRIZING. My book is chockfull of
different techniques for PRIZING women, some
of which are Open Loops, Tension Loops,
Challenging & Qualifying, and Meta-Frames.

One of the best things you can do to set the
groundwork for PRIZING women is to make them
strive to fill the quota of your ideal female.
So, when you're out with a woman, don't behave
like a spineless little worm, asking her
questions such as: “How am I doing with you?”
Instead, when she behaves in ways that go
against your standards and expectations of
women, let her know that she is losing points
with you - and losing points quickly!

Myth #2: If A Woman Is Of Higher
Value Than You She Is Not Allowed
To Be Attracted To You.

This one actually rings some truth. Let me
explain. If you see a woman and immediately,
in your mind, consecrate her as a Goddess
amongst Goddesses you must bow down to, you
are figuratively butt ramming yourself,
because you are setting the frame that she is
the Prize, not you. As those of you who have
read my book know, women do not feel
attraction for men who are not the PRIZE.
Viewing a woman you have just met as a Goddess
amongst Goddesses is fine, as long as you
perceive yourself as a God amongst Gods and
abstain from bowing down to her.

What is the lesson to be learned? Objective
value doesn't exist, only perceived value
does. Although women are usually not
attracted to men of lesser value than
themselves, you can do a lot to increase your
value. Whenever interacting with a woman, a
Meta-Frame - or underlying meaning - is
established, determining your value in
relation to hers. When you allow a woman's
perceived value to intimidate you, or make
you feel of lesser value than her, you are
unknowingly establishing the Meta-Frame that
she is the PRIZE, not you. So the key is to
stop fretting about some aspect of her being
of higher value than some aspect of you,
plundering you of your self-esteem. When
interacting with a woman, if you ever feel
ugly to her beauty or pedestrian to her
sophistication or like a retarded little
spaz to her sense of cool...or whatever,
change your focus of attention. See the
bigger picture. Realize that when first
meeting a woman you paint a picture in
your mind of who you think she is, based
on a few aspects you observe about her.
This picture usually ends up being way off
base. Learn to take control of your
perceptions: If you feel intimidated by her
beauty, imagine what she looks like in the
morning without her makeup; if her
sophistication renders you tongue-tied,
consider that she might be putting on an
act to impress you; if you start worrying
about how much older you are than her,
imagine how much worse she's going to
look when she's your age...and so on.

Myth # 3: If You Want To Attract
Women You Have To Act Like You
Enjoy And Are Interested In The
Things That They Enjoy

This pathetic little myth is really a
product of the collective dating advice for
men self-help books for sale at a bookstore
near you, touting men to develop the
personality of an obedient lapdog.

This myth couldn't be further from the
truth. Women are attracted to men, not
little puppy dogs.

Hypothetically speaking, let's say you are
dating a girl who has a thing for musical
kitsch: think Britney Spears or Christina
Aguilera. You, however, despise this kind
of music and would prefer the sound of
nails on a chalkboard to this crap. What
should you do: Prentend Britney's great
or tell her what you really think?

Although counterintuitive, pretending to
like something you don't genuinely
like is unattractive to women.

Likewise, having a willingness to express
what you hate can redound in women finding
you very attractive.

Exceptions, of course, do exist. For
example, specific activities have been
deemed by our culture as having a high
social value. You might, for example,
prefer reading comic books over
participating in these activities. There
could be consequences, however, to not
participating in them. In one of my
upcoming products, I touch on these
activities. I will probably publish a
newsletter in the near future addressing
these activities.

Furthermore, I am not suggesting that you
jettison all of a woman's interests and
tastes that you do not share. Doing this
will turn you into a creepy control freak
and you will probably end up becoming a very
unhappy, boring person. Only being around
people with the same interests and tastes as
you, will stifle your growth as a human
being - diversity is good. I personally love
to be around people who introduce me to
things I don't know a lot about. This is how
I develop new interests and grow as a human
being.

My gripe is with men faking an interest in
something as a means to get someone to like
them. Doing this is really handing your balls
over on a platter to the other person. Don't
do this. Don't give away your power. It is
one of the most unattractive qualities you
can possess.

Myth # 4: Women Don't Like Sex
And Will Only Sleep With You
After You Go Through Great
Lengths Courting Them.

This one really makes my skin crawl. My life
experience keeps reaffirming that beyond the
shadow of a doubt this myth doesn't even
contain a smattering of truth. Women love sex
and can be as aggressive as men when it come to
obtaining it.

If you doubt this, make some female friends who
are not interested in you. That way they won't
be concerned with how you judge them,
allowing them to shed their ladylike pretenses
and talk candidly about their sexuality.
Warning: This lurid peek into the female sexual
psyche might frighten you - it isn't for the
faint of heart. What you will find is that
women are as sexual as men…if not more. Also,
I wouldn't be surprised if these women told you
about how much fun quickies, one-night-stands,
and meaningless sex can be.

Many women hold off on sleeping with men
because they lest being judged as sluts. It can
be quite powerful to tease women about acting
sexually forward or aggressive towards you.
Acting genuinely concerned, though, about a
woman's sexual promiscuity can transform a
sexually adventurous woman into a frigid prude.

Most men I know who are unbelievable at quickly
getting women into bed have a knack for making
women feel comfortable expressing their
sexual habits and promiscuity (Note: This is,
of course, in the context of women you've just
met. You probably wouldn't want to encourage
this kind of promiscuity in your wife or
girlfriend).

Myth # 5: If You Aren't Currently
Good With Women You Probably
Aren't Going To Get Any Better.

Simply not true. I don't believe this myth for a
second. Over the years I have known many hopeless
sad-sack losers who no one believed in, transform
themselves into some of the most skilled
ladies men I have ever seen. In many cases these
guys ended up more skilled with women than natural
ladies men. This is probably because they had a
burning desire to get a foothold on this area of
their life.

This self sabotaging myth is disseminated
primarily by shrinks, guys who've had little
success with women, and ladies men.

I know a few guys who were told by their
psychiatrists that if they weren't good with
women, they probably weren't going to get
any better. And that they'd be better off
compromising by settling for a less than
desirable woman. One of these guys stopped
seeing his therapist and is now doing fantastic
with women. He gets a gold star for firing the
bastard.

Some guys down on their success with women will
try to feed you all sorts of negative rhetoric,
such as: “if you are not already successful with
women, you are not going to get any better.”
These guys will infect your mind. Avoid them
like the plague.

Some ladies men will try to mystify their
abilities by making you think that they are
blessed with some unattainable God-given
talent. Often times this is an attempt to
exalt their abilities at the expense of
your self-esteem. Don't take that crap.
You're better than that.

All of the disseminators of this myth are
thought viruses that will infect your mind,
sabotaging your self-esteem and future
opportunities with women. If you currently
have any of these people in your life,
KICK 'EM TO THE CURB.

It is an understatement to say that I believe
in you; I am convinced that you can succeed with
women. I have met and taught men of all walks of
life who have successfully turned their lives
around with women. No matter what your current
level of success with women is, I know you
strive to get to a higher level. Otherwise,
you wouldn't be reading this. I know you are
capable of achieving your goals with women and
I am going to help you get there. And if you
haven't already picked up a copy of my book,
do so. It's not written for losers looking to
cope with their unfortunate situation. It's
written for winners: People who are ready to
take the bull by the horns and start achieving
and living the success they dream about. At the
end of the day, $39.95 is a small price to pay
to be fully equipped with the tools you need to
start experiencing massive success with women.
So if you haven't already picked up my book, do
so now.

RealWorldSeduction

'Till next time,

Swinggcat


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