By Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction
One of my maxims for ATRACTING women is to make them ABC…to make them ALWAYS BE CHASING me.
In my book I call this PRIZING.
PRIZING women is important because when you do things to make women chase you they will begin to see you as a PRIZE they want to win over.
One technique for PRIZING I talk about in my book is Open Loop. An Open Loop is an unfinished thought or story. So, within the context of ATTRACTING women, some examples of open loops are:
When a man tells a woman a really juicy story and just at the point that she really starts to get into the story, he intentionally withholds the conclusion from her.
Or…
When a man acts as if he knows something about a woman but when she asks him what it is he refuses to tell her.
Are you guys starting to get why open loops are so powerful?
They are powerful because they leave women wanting and reaching for more.
And when women are wanting and reaching for more, they are CHASING us.
I have noticed a few of the guys who have recently purchased my book have spawned quite a few online discussions on open loops.
This is great because it tells me that guys are really getting out there and using the ideas in my book.
Recently I have been thinking a lot about the psychological mechanism behind open loops: What is it about ‘open loops’ that cause women to want and reach for more?
And about a month ago it dawned on me while watching TV. I was watching a television show that I did not find terribly interesting, and out of nowhere the power went out. The weird thing was that inside I felt this emotional “want” to find out the conclusion to a TV show I did not even find interesting. But the more I thought about this the more I realized that I did not really want to find out what happened, but wanted closure and resolution.
Even though the show was not very good, it had created some unresolved emotional tension in me. The power going out made me aware of my need to release, resolve, and bring closure to this tension.
So, what I have discovered is that the psychological mechanism behind open loops is in creating unresolved emotional tension.
What I have realized is that besides using open loops, there are literally hundreds of ways of creating, and increasing unresolved emotional tension.
Doing this is what I call a “Tension Loop." The structure of a Tension Loop is to first do something that creates unresolved emotional tension.
For example, you could do this by using an open loop: an unfinished story or thought.
Or you could do this by creating a barrier between you and a woman. If you have chemistry with a woman you might want to hint that there is already a woman in your life, planting the seed in her mind that even though you and her like each other, it probably will not work out between the both of you because you are already taken.
Or you could feign being really offended by something a woman does or says. If she asks you, “What do you do for a living?” you could hasten back with, “I am not the guy who used to work with you at Mc. Donald’s, and if we ever hang out there is to be no talk about your career path at McDonalds…I wouldn’t want you to embarrass me in front of my friends”.
Or you could do something to invalidate a woman, such as, acting unimpressed with her or even hinting at not liking her.
Once you have created this tension loop inside a woman, you can keep going with it: you can build it larger and more intense.
For example, if you create a tension loop by acting offended by something a woman says or does, you can make that tension loop larger and more intense by continuing to act offended.
But at a certain point, you need to close the tension loop-bring some resolution, release, or closure to it.
I have found that people who are effective at using tension loops-for example, auspicious writers and marketers - all follow a similar structure:
1) They do or say something to create the tension loop.
2) They keep going with what they said or did, making the “tension loop” larger.
3) They do something to close the tension loop; bring some release or resolution to it.
4) They open it back up, but just a little bit.
Also, have you ever noticed that this is the structure of many great movies? Think about it: many great movies start off with a tension loop by introducing some kind of conflict or drama. Then, the tension loop increases up until the point of the climax. Then the tension loop is closed by bringing some resolution to the conflict or drama. And, finally, the movie ends by either the tension loop being opened back up or a new tension loop opening up. This makes the movie watcher want to see the sequel.
Let's now look at an example of sparking a tension loop, building it, closing it, and then opening up a new tension loop - but just a little bit.
A few days ago, after exchanging some light banter with a woman, I said to her, “You know…I don’t like you…”
She gave me a flabbergasted look and panted, “What!” (Being the attractive woman that she was, she had probably never had anyone say this to her before).
I had sparked a tension loop in her.
Next I made the tension loop bigger by saying, “I’m sorry, that probably came off wrong. Let me be more specific: I really don’t like you.”
Here I was making the tension loop larger: intensifying all of that unresolved emotional tension inside her. Now although this is very powerful, you do not want to create so much tension that she snaps -you do not want to PUSH her away completely. So the idea is to take her to the edge - or close to it. It is similar to kids blowing bubbles. They want to blow as much air into the bubble to ensure that it is as big as possible, but if they blow too much air into the bubble it will pop. This takes practice, and you really have to learn to observe how much emotional tension she is experiencing at any given moment.
Then I said to her, “And the reason I don’t like you is that you remind me of this girl Miranda whom I hated in the second grade. I hated her because she used to always beat me at hot hands (BTW, “hot hands” is a game that children play).
Then I challenged her to a game of hot hands, defeated her quickly, and gloated, “Yes…I am the winner, and, actually, I like you now…since you really stink at hot hands”.
Here I closed the tension loop by bringing resolution and release to her emotional tension. And then I opened a new loop - just a little bit - by telling her that she stinks at hot hands.
There is a lot of psychologically going on here. And in this newsletter I am only scratching the surface of what I am doing. I am going to do another newsletter soon, where I will go a lot deeper into the psychological mechanisms of tension loops.
But if you are really interested in mastering the techniques for triggering these underlying psychological mechanisms in women come visit me at:
http://www.realworldseduction.com
P.S.-If you have a question for me, please email me at:
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Tuesday, October 19, 2004
Thursday, October 14, 2004
How To Brag To Women…The Right Way
By Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction
Hey Guys,
I’ve got a question for you: Does bragging to women work? If your answer is “yes,” you’re right. If your answer is “no,” keep reading – my rational might surprise you.
Fact: You can utilize, for example, money, successes, accomplishments, education, places you’ve traveled…and so on as powerful tools for succeeding with women. Women feel attraction towards men they perceive as a PRIZE. The more virtues, therefore, you can use to fuel the attraction fire inside a woman, the larger it will grow. If you feel you don’t have any virtues, don’t worry – you can still ATTRACT and succeed with heaps of beautiful women.
If you have these resources, though, start harnessing their power. Maybe you’re thinking, “I might impress younger, pedestrian women but touting my successes and accomplishments to older, more sophisticated and jaded women will cause them to have a blasé attitude toward me.”
This thinking is wrong and as you keep reading you’ll begin to realize why. Conveying a virtue of yours to women can turbo charge your success with them – whether it is a financial success or a personal accomplishment, an exotic place you’ve traveled or an interesting location you’ve lived, a level of education you’ve achieved or a novel talent you have. The problem is that the way most men brag turns women off.
But don’t worry – I’m going to teach you the right way to transpire your virtues to women.
Before I tell you this secret, I am going to share a little story with you that spawned the idea to write this article.
A few weeks ago I was talking to a friend of mine. The conversation started off friendly yet ended up turning into a proverbial Quaalude. If conversations had a taste or smell, this one would have reeked of foot and ass.
He started overtly bragging to me about all of the people he knew, money he had…and so on. After about twenty minutes of him boasting galore, I started to get quite bored. I felt like he was trying to get a job from me, presenting his résumé the best he could. It came across as a compendium of glib possessions and accomplishments devoid of any human experience. I was not impressed. Why? Is it that I’m jaded? No – because no matter how prodigious his accomplishments were, he couldn’t have impressed me.
Nothing, however, about the content of what he said turned me off. What irked me was the way he said it. The manner in which he bragged made him look desperate for approval from me. His need for validation appeared to be on life support. To put it mildly, I was turned off. Just imagine how much he turns women off.
What is the lesson to be learned? Bragging in a way that conveys a need for approval and validation turns women off – especially those who are educated, intelligent, and experienced. You could have the most impressive résumé in the world, but if you transpire it in a way that conveys your need for validation and approval, you’ll attract about as many women as you’d get bitten by vampires if you were covered in garlic – none.
Overt bragging to a woman will usually have one of two outcomes: She’ll either think you’re outright trying to manipulate her into seeing you in a certain light or she’ll think you’re trying to get her validation and approval. Both are bad and huge turn offs. When a woman is onto your overt bragging, the Meta-Frame or the underlying meaning of your interaction with her gets recontextualized as her being the PRIZE, not you. This is bad. As those of you who’ve studied my book know, women feel ATTRACTION toward men they see as the PRIZE.
What is the right way to transpire your virtues to women without coming across as manipulative or seeking their approval? This is the crux of the issue.
I’m going to share with you a method for doing this that has skyrocketed my own success with women.
The method involves story telling – a must have social skill for interacting with people and attracting women. If you are not confident using story telling while interacting with women and you have not yet begun studying my book, do so.
http://www.realworldseduction.com
Okay, here is the method. What I’ll do is use story telling to disclose a virtue about myself to her without conveying a single morsel of neediness for her validation or approval. The stories I tell are never about the virtue I’m intending to transpire. The virtue I want women to notice usually is either the context of the story or an ancillary detail about the story.
One of the examples I give of this in my book is a story about discovering, while traveling in Prague, that women are perverts. Although the main point of the story is that women are perverts, the context it takes place in is Prague, causing many women to infer that I’m well traveled. With this technique you’re able to transpire a virtue about yourself without coming across as needy or desperate for a woman’s approval. Learning to imply things, as opposed to overtly saying them, is a KEY element for making women actively listen and participate in a story you are telling.
A friend once argued against me: “If they’ve been to Eastern Europe, aren’t they going to feel blasé toward your experience.” My answer to this is a resounding “no!”
True, if they have had a similar experience to you, they aren’t likely to put you up on an unattainable pedestal floating on a golden cloud. They are, however, likely to feel a special bond to you, thinking that you are one of an exclusive few who’s had similar experiences to them.
This, my friend, is only the tip of the iceberg – I’ve developed many powerful strategies for transpiring your virtues without conveying neediness for approval or validation. I’m currently finishing up a new audio course where I’m going to reveal all of them to you. In my book, Real World Seduction, you’ll discover truckloads of powerful secrets and strategies, allowing you to transpire your virtues without looking needy. This is a key ingredient for making women see you as a PRIZE they yearn to be with. My book is currently the only body work available on the subject, giving you the foundation to start using these strategies immediately. Listen…if you know there is something simple you can do to immediately improve an area of your life, leading to more happiness and success, are you going to do it? I hope on the inside you’re thinking a resounding “yes.” As far as we know, we only live once. Don’t cheat yourself. Start right now learning and mastering the necessary skills to live your life to its full potential by grabbing a copy of my book today.
RealWorldSeduction
'Till next time,
Swinggcat
DatingTipsForMen publishes top dating, attraction, and seduction articles.
Hey Guys,
I’ve got a question for you: Does bragging to women work? If your answer is “yes,” you’re right. If your answer is “no,” keep reading – my rational might surprise you.
Fact: You can utilize, for example, money, successes, accomplishments, education, places you’ve traveled…and so on as powerful tools for succeeding with women. Women feel attraction towards men they perceive as a PRIZE. The more virtues, therefore, you can use to fuel the attraction fire inside a woman, the larger it will grow. If you feel you don’t have any virtues, don’t worry – you can still ATTRACT and succeed with heaps of beautiful women.
If you have these resources, though, start harnessing their power. Maybe you’re thinking, “I might impress younger, pedestrian women but touting my successes and accomplishments to older, more sophisticated and jaded women will cause them to have a blasé attitude toward me.”
This thinking is wrong and as you keep reading you’ll begin to realize why. Conveying a virtue of yours to women can turbo charge your success with them – whether it is a financial success or a personal accomplishment, an exotic place you’ve traveled or an interesting location you’ve lived, a level of education you’ve achieved or a novel talent you have. The problem is that the way most men brag turns women off.
But don’t worry – I’m going to teach you the right way to transpire your virtues to women.
Before I tell you this secret, I am going to share a little story with you that spawned the idea to write this article.
A few weeks ago I was talking to a friend of mine. The conversation started off friendly yet ended up turning into a proverbial Quaalude. If conversations had a taste or smell, this one would have reeked of foot and ass.
He started overtly bragging to me about all of the people he knew, money he had…and so on. After about twenty minutes of him boasting galore, I started to get quite bored. I felt like he was trying to get a job from me, presenting his résumé the best he could. It came across as a compendium of glib possessions and accomplishments devoid of any human experience. I was not impressed. Why? Is it that I’m jaded? No – because no matter how prodigious his accomplishments were, he couldn’t have impressed me.
Nothing, however, about the content of what he said turned me off. What irked me was the way he said it. The manner in which he bragged made him look desperate for approval from me. His need for validation appeared to be on life support. To put it mildly, I was turned off. Just imagine how much he turns women off.
What is the lesson to be learned? Bragging in a way that conveys a need for approval and validation turns women off – especially those who are educated, intelligent, and experienced. You could have the most impressive résumé in the world, but if you transpire it in a way that conveys your need for validation and approval, you’ll attract about as many women as you’d get bitten by vampires if you were covered in garlic – none.
Overt bragging to a woman will usually have one of two outcomes: She’ll either think you’re outright trying to manipulate her into seeing you in a certain light or she’ll think you’re trying to get her validation and approval. Both are bad and huge turn offs. When a woman is onto your overt bragging, the Meta-Frame or the underlying meaning of your interaction with her gets recontextualized as her being the PRIZE, not you. This is bad. As those of you who’ve studied my book know, women feel ATTRACTION toward men they see as the PRIZE.
What is the right way to transpire your virtues to women without coming across as manipulative or seeking their approval? This is the crux of the issue.
I’m going to share with you a method for doing this that has skyrocketed my own success with women.
The method involves story telling – a must have social skill for interacting with people and attracting women. If you are not confident using story telling while interacting with women and you have not yet begun studying my book, do so.
http://www.realworldseduction.com
Okay, here is the method. What I’ll do is use story telling to disclose a virtue about myself to her without conveying a single morsel of neediness for her validation or approval. The stories I tell are never about the virtue I’m intending to transpire. The virtue I want women to notice usually is either the context of the story or an ancillary detail about the story.
One of the examples I give of this in my book is a story about discovering, while traveling in Prague, that women are perverts. Although the main point of the story is that women are perverts, the context it takes place in is Prague, causing many women to infer that I’m well traveled. With this technique you’re able to transpire a virtue about yourself without coming across as needy or desperate for a woman’s approval. Learning to imply things, as opposed to overtly saying them, is a KEY element for making women actively listen and participate in a story you are telling.
A friend once argued against me: “If they’ve been to Eastern Europe, aren’t they going to feel blasé toward your experience.” My answer to this is a resounding “no!”
True, if they have had a similar experience to you, they aren’t likely to put you up on an unattainable pedestal floating on a golden cloud. They are, however, likely to feel a special bond to you, thinking that you are one of an exclusive few who’s had similar experiences to them.
This, my friend, is only the tip of the iceberg – I’ve developed many powerful strategies for transpiring your virtues without conveying neediness for approval or validation. I’m currently finishing up a new audio course where I’m going to reveal all of them to you. In my book, Real World Seduction, you’ll discover truckloads of powerful secrets and strategies, allowing you to transpire your virtues without looking needy. This is a key ingredient for making women see you as a PRIZE they yearn to be with. My book is currently the only body work available on the subject, giving you the foundation to start using these strategies immediately. Listen…if you know there is something simple you can do to immediately improve an area of your life, leading to more happiness and success, are you going to do it? I hope on the inside you’re thinking a resounding “yes.” As far as we know, we only live once. Don’t cheat yourself. Start right now learning and mastering the necessary skills to live your life to its full potential by grabbing a copy of my book today.
RealWorldSeduction
'Till next time,
Swinggcat
DatingTipsForMen publishes top dating, attraction, and seduction articles.
Sunday, October 10, 2004
This is how the game is played, boys…
by Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction
This week I have a special treat for you. A few guys emailed me their wish lists of things they’d like me to write about. I swear, sometimes I feel like Santa! High on their lists was a request for a few real life examples of my techniques in action. My feeling is that the more examples you hear and read about, the deeper your understanding of my techniques will become. Put simply, Real World examples are awesome!
Those of you whom have had the Opportunity to read my book know that there is a Real World word-for-word example, taking you through the process, from meeting her to having sex with her a few hours later.
I have decided to include a report a guy sent in to me about him sleeping with a woman within a very short time span using my techniques. In this newsletter I am going to critique it by breaking down the techniques he used to get very sexual with this woman. I am really spoon feeding you some powerful knowledge for success with women. Putting something like this together, however, expends a lot of time and energy. If you benefit, though, my efforts are well worth it!
To really benefit from this, you need to have read my book. So, if you own my book but have not taken the opportunity to read it, Do!
If you haven’t gotten my book yet, you need to. By not having read my book you are depriving yourself of much of the benefits you could be getting from this newsletter. So, pick up a copy:
http://www.realworldseduction.com
Enjoy!!
“What's up man? I bought your book. I read it twice and have an excellent success story to tell you about...
My friend brought me to a bar in Scottsdale, AZ last weekend to meet up with this girl he's dating and her friend. Neither of us knew what to expect with "the friend" but when we got there, I had met her before. In fact, she was the girlfriend of a business partner of mine a few years back. She's 5'9", 120 pounds, brunette with the greenest eyes you could ever imagine. In short, a total hottie. I wanted her then, and you better believe I wanted her now. I made a "cool" attempt at reminding her of who I was and she managed to pretend like she couldn't remember. Nice - - a challenge! So we proceeded to sit down at a table and I ignored her completely at first. I paid particular attention to my friend and his girlfriend and angled my body language 45 degrees away from the other girl. After about 15 minutes she attempted to engage me by "recalling" things from the times we had previously met. I reframed her recollection as an attempt to pick me up, and that I don't associate myself with girls who aren't honest the first time. This got her REALLY interested, because I was increasing my prizability while basically calling her a liar for acting like she didn't remember me before. I waited until she starting leaning into me and then I angled myself toward her a little more. I then did a perfect cold-reading."
I know you come across as a cold-hearted bitch to most guys. But that's only because you haven't met your match yet. You haven't met a guy that could keep you in your place and make you realize that the world doesn't revolve around you. Well let me tell you something, that has all come to end right here and right now. You are about to experience something for the first time, and you're going to absolutely love it.". OMG dude. The look in her eyes was like nothing I've ever seen before. So I told her we were going for a walk. She followed me. I walked in front of her. Then I took her arm. Then I took her hand. Then I let go of her hand and walked in front of her again. Then I turned around, pulled her close to me and kissed her hard on the mouth. Then I pushed her away. She told me I was "evil" (I remember reading that in the final pages of your book -- so I KNEW I was doing all the right things). I stood there with my eyebrow cocked just looking at her like she had some kinda nerve calling me "evil". She came over to me and proceeded to kiss me like it was the last kiss she would ever have. I gave in for about 20 seconds, then gently pushed her away and told her that I am not a sex toy and I had no intention of sleeping with her (the sausage with feet line didn't feel right, so I went with another version). Then I said that our friends were waiting for us and proceeded to start to walk back to where they were sitting. She followed. We went to the new Devil's Martini which is a swanky dance club/bar in Scottsdale. I danced with her and just about every other woman in the club. I even tried to make her dance with other hot guys, but she wouldn't do it. She kept coming back to me and grinding on me. I started dancing on a raised platform where all the chicks could check me out and my friend's g/f came up to me and told me that I was so hot and she could tell that every woman in the place wanted me. Nice. But that is my belief anyway, so she was just affirming what I already knew. Finally I left the platform and walked away. My girl followed. I went to the bar. She followed. I went back to the dance floor. She followed. I went out on the patio and yes, she followed. So I figured by now I could have anything I wanted with her so I told her we were going back to her place. She made a weak attempt at saying that I had told her she wasn't having sex with me. I started turning away from her and said "Ok, you're totally right. Never mind.", but she spun me around, kissed me and dragged me out of the place, back to her Lexus and straight to her apartment where she proceeded to dance stripper style for me, give me some of the best oral sex ever and basically offer herself to me in any way that I chose.
Thanks for putting together such a great tutorial on how to be the prize. It really works great!” - J from LA
Wow! – this is some great stuff. Get out your note pad because we’re about to pull apart what J from LA did.
“She's 5'9", 120 pounds, brunette with the greenest eyes you could ever imagine. In short, a total hottie.”
J, don’t hesitate to email me her phone number. LOL
“I wanted her then, and you better believe I wanted her now. I made a "cool" attempt at reminding her of who I was and she managed to pretend like she couldn't remember. Nice - - a challenge!”
Notice J’s mindset: Even though he was probably lustier than a horny baboon, he didn’t place an absurd amount of value on her. When most men are interacting with a really beautiful woman, they put a huge amount of value on her. When she doesn’t respond in the way they hoped, they act like their life source has been cut off. When you treat a woman – especially when first getting to know her – as your source of life, you are putting yourself in a very compromising position.
It is next to impossible to establish yourself as the PRIZE when you put a huge value on a woman wanting, accepting, and validating you. It also conveys to her that your life is boring and that you are hoping she will fill the void of excitement in your life. Conveying this to women makes it unlikely that they will respond to you in a positive way. Train yourself not to act this way around women.
This is, of course, easier said than done. Simply put, even if we tell ourselves consciously to not do something, we often times find ourselves slipping back into the same old behavior. That’s why I extensively talk about frames and developing a strong belief system in my book. Learning about Frames and developing a strong Belief System are potent weapons to counteract this inertia.
If you haven’t read my book yet, something that might help is taking the mindset that if you don’t ATTRACT her, it is no big loss. If you do succeed at ATTRACTING her, then, if she’s lucky, she gets to be an addition to your already exciting life. This conveys to a woman that not getting her is of no big loss to you. Conveying this is a huge part of establishing Prizability: Defining yourself as having perceived value.
Furthermore, notice how in J’s reality the possibility of her rejecting him does not even exist. He, instead, interprets her ignoring him as a challenge.
“So we proceeded to sit down at a table and I ignored her completely at first. I paid particular attention to my friend and his girlfriend and angled my body language 45 degrees away from the other girl.”
J did the right thing. Why should he give a woman claiming not remember him attention? Think about it: If some four hundred pound woman, complete with wart on chin, a big hairy beard, and cheesy bread in hand, pretended to not remember you, you’d just ignore her, wouldn’t you?
Most men, however, would respond to a beautiful woman differently because they put a lot of value on her aesthetic appeal. But when you allow someone to disrespect you, it subtly conveys that you place more value on them than on yourself.
Start becoming conscious of your reactions to the way women treat you – especially women you’ve just met. Do your responses to being ill treated by women you’ve just met convey that you put a huge amount of value on them?
“After about 15 minutes she attempted to engage me by ‘recalling’ things from the times we had previously met. I reframed her recollection as an attempt to pick me up, and that I don't associate myself with girls who aren't honest the first time. This got her REALLY interested, because I was increasing my prizability while basically calling her a liar for acting like she didn't remember me before. ”
Interesting. Notice the shift. She went from not remembering him to recalling events from the previous time they’d met. When you refuse to tolerate mistreatment from a woman, conveying that you put more value on your standards, expectations of others, and yourself than on her beauty, oftentimes, she’ll end up perceiving you as a PRIZE she wants to win over.
“I then did a perfect cold-reading. ‘I know you come across as a cold-hearted bi*tch to most guys. But that's only because you haven't met your match yet. You haven't met a guy that could keep you in your place and make you realize that the world doesn't revolve around you. Well let me tell you something, that has all come to end right here and right now. You are about to experience something for the first time, and you're going to absolutely love it.’ OMG dude.
The look in her eyes was like nothing I've ever seen before.”
You might think this is a bit harsh but trust me – it’s actually quite powerful! This woman is probably used to men putting a lot of value on her, doing things on her terms, trying to live up to her expectations, giving her all of their power, causing them to get SUCKED INTO HER REALITY.
She is probably bored of guys getting easily sucked into her reality, and, possibly, bored of her own reality.
The underlying meaning of his cold reading to her was this: “I know you’re used to men getting sucked into your reality, but that ends RIGHT NOW, honey! Not only am I unwilling to get sucked into your reality, but your about to get sucked into my mine.”
Read what I just wrote again, because I gave away some really powerful info.
“So I told her we were going for a walk. She followed me.”
Of course she followed, she was sucked into his reality – and, I’m sure, loved every second of it!
“Then I turned around, pulled her close to me and kissed her hard on the mouth. Then I pushed her away. She told me I was "evil" (I remember reading that in the final pages of your book -- so I KNEW I was doing all the right things). I stood there with my eyebrow cocked just looking at her like she had some kinda nerve calling me "evil". She came over to me and proceeded to kiss me like it was the last kiss she would ever have.”
This is a nice execution of what in book I call “Physical Push-Pull.” This is a very powerful form of Prizing – making a woman want, and reach, and chase for more of you. There is a lot more to it than what I am going to discuss here. One important aspect is that by pushing a woman away from you while kissing her, you are creating a Tension Loop – creating unresolved emotional tension inside her, leaving her wondering: “How does he feel about me?…Does he like me?...Is ATTRACTED to me?...”…and so on.
This makes her want to bring resolution and closure to this emotional tension through trying to kiss you.
Another benefit to pushing a woman away – like J from LA did – is that it establishes the frame that she is in your REALITY doing things on your terms.
J was able to make this work because he had ALREADY SUCKED HER INTO HIS REALITY.
“I even tried to make her dance with other hot guys, but she wouldn't do it. She kept coming back to me and grinding on me.”
This is great. He is establishing himself as the Prize through conveying that it is no big deal if he loses her.
“Finally I left the platform and walked away. My girl followed. I went to the bar. She followed. I went back to the dance floor. She followed. I went out on the patio and yes, she followed.”
If you suck someone into your reality, it is very easy to do this.
“So I figured by now I could have anything I wanted with her so I told her we were going back to her place. She made a weak attempt at saying that I had told her she wasn't having sex with me. I started turning away from her and said "Ok, you're totally right. Never mind.", but she spun me around, kissed me and dragged me out of the place, back to her Lexus and straight to her apartment where she proceeded to dance stripper style for me, give me some of the best oral sex ever and basically offer herself to me in any way that I chose.”
Yes! – As soon as he conveyed that it was no loss to him if he didn’t sleep with her, she saw him as a Prize she wanted to sleep with.
J was able to accomplish all of this because he was able to establish that he was the Prize, get her emotionally wanting more of him, and successfully SUCK HER INTO HIS REALITY.
I don’t care if you are bald or short or fat or broke…or whatever it is you feel is preventing you from succeeding with women. ATTRACTION is not what a woman prefers or how she judges you. ATTRACTION is how she responds to you establishing yourself as the Prize combined with creating the emotion inside her of wanting and reaching for more of you. As long as you are able to establish yourself as the Prize, get them emotionally wanting more of you, and suck them into your reality, success with beautiful women is in your reach. If you are ready to master these skills and start ATTRACTING the women you desire, pick up a copy of my book today.
RealWorldSeduction
DatingTipsForMen publishes top dating, attraction, and seduction articles.
'Till next time,
Swinggcat
This week I have a special treat for you. A few guys emailed me their wish lists of things they’d like me to write about. I swear, sometimes I feel like Santa! High on their lists was a request for a few real life examples of my techniques in action. My feeling is that the more examples you hear and read about, the deeper your understanding of my techniques will become. Put simply, Real World examples are awesome!
Those of you whom have had the Opportunity to read my book know that there is a Real World word-for-word example, taking you through the process, from meeting her to having sex with her a few hours later.
I have decided to include a report a guy sent in to me about him sleeping with a woman within a very short time span using my techniques. In this newsletter I am going to critique it by breaking down the techniques he used to get very sexual with this woman. I am really spoon feeding you some powerful knowledge for success with women. Putting something like this together, however, expends a lot of time and energy. If you benefit, though, my efforts are well worth it!
To really benefit from this, you need to have read my book. So, if you own my book but have not taken the opportunity to read it, Do!
If you haven’t gotten my book yet, you need to. By not having read my book you are depriving yourself of much of the benefits you could be getting from this newsletter. So, pick up a copy:
http://www.realworldseduction.com
Enjoy!!
“What's up man? I bought your book. I read it twice and have an excellent success story to tell you about...
My friend brought me to a bar in Scottsdale, AZ last weekend to meet up with this girl he's dating and her friend. Neither of us knew what to expect with "the friend" but when we got there, I had met her before. In fact, she was the girlfriend of a business partner of mine a few years back. She's 5'9", 120 pounds, brunette with the greenest eyes you could ever imagine. In short, a total hottie. I wanted her then, and you better believe I wanted her now. I made a "cool" attempt at reminding her of who I was and she managed to pretend like she couldn't remember. Nice - - a challenge! So we proceeded to sit down at a table and I ignored her completely at first. I paid particular attention to my friend and his girlfriend and angled my body language 45 degrees away from the other girl. After about 15 minutes she attempted to engage me by "recalling" things from the times we had previously met. I reframed her recollection as an attempt to pick me up, and that I don't associate myself with girls who aren't honest the first time. This got her REALLY interested, because I was increasing my prizability while basically calling her a liar for acting like she didn't remember me before. I waited until she starting leaning into me and then I angled myself toward her a little more. I then did a perfect cold-reading."
I know you come across as a cold-hearted bitch to most guys. But that's only because you haven't met your match yet. You haven't met a guy that could keep you in your place and make you realize that the world doesn't revolve around you. Well let me tell you something, that has all come to end right here and right now. You are about to experience something for the first time, and you're going to absolutely love it.". OMG dude. The look in her eyes was like nothing I've ever seen before. So I told her we were going for a walk. She followed me. I walked in front of her. Then I took her arm. Then I took her hand. Then I let go of her hand and walked in front of her again. Then I turned around, pulled her close to me and kissed her hard on the mouth. Then I pushed her away. She told me I was "evil" (I remember reading that in the final pages of your book -- so I KNEW I was doing all the right things). I stood there with my eyebrow cocked just looking at her like she had some kinda nerve calling me "evil". She came over to me and proceeded to kiss me like it was the last kiss she would ever have. I gave in for about 20 seconds, then gently pushed her away and told her that I am not a sex toy and I had no intention of sleeping with her (the sausage with feet line didn't feel right, so I went with another version). Then I said that our friends were waiting for us and proceeded to start to walk back to where they were sitting. She followed. We went to the new Devil's Martini which is a swanky dance club/bar in Scottsdale. I danced with her and just about every other woman in the club. I even tried to make her dance with other hot guys, but she wouldn't do it. She kept coming back to me and grinding on me. I started dancing on a raised platform where all the chicks could check me out and my friend's g/f came up to me and told me that I was so hot and she could tell that every woman in the place wanted me. Nice. But that is my belief anyway, so she was just affirming what I already knew. Finally I left the platform and walked away. My girl followed. I went to the bar. She followed. I went back to the dance floor. She followed. I went out on the patio and yes, she followed. So I figured by now I could have anything I wanted with her so I told her we were going back to her place. She made a weak attempt at saying that I had told her she wasn't having sex with me. I started turning away from her and said "Ok, you're totally right. Never mind.", but she spun me around, kissed me and dragged me out of the place, back to her Lexus and straight to her apartment where she proceeded to dance stripper style for me, give me some of the best oral sex ever and basically offer herself to me in any way that I chose.
Thanks for putting together such a great tutorial on how to be the prize. It really works great!” - J from LA
Wow! – this is some great stuff. Get out your note pad because we’re about to pull apart what J from LA did.
“She's 5'9", 120 pounds, brunette with the greenest eyes you could ever imagine. In short, a total hottie.”
J, don’t hesitate to email me her phone number. LOL
“I wanted her then, and you better believe I wanted her now. I made a "cool" attempt at reminding her of who I was and she managed to pretend like she couldn't remember. Nice - - a challenge!”
Notice J’s mindset: Even though he was probably lustier than a horny baboon, he didn’t place an absurd amount of value on her. When most men are interacting with a really beautiful woman, they put a huge amount of value on her. When she doesn’t respond in the way they hoped, they act like their life source has been cut off. When you treat a woman – especially when first getting to know her – as your source of life, you are putting yourself in a very compromising position.
It is next to impossible to establish yourself as the PRIZE when you put a huge value on a woman wanting, accepting, and validating you. It also conveys to her that your life is boring and that you are hoping she will fill the void of excitement in your life. Conveying this to women makes it unlikely that they will respond to you in a positive way. Train yourself not to act this way around women.
This is, of course, easier said than done. Simply put, even if we tell ourselves consciously to not do something, we often times find ourselves slipping back into the same old behavior. That’s why I extensively talk about frames and developing a strong belief system in my book. Learning about Frames and developing a strong Belief System are potent weapons to counteract this inertia.
If you haven’t read my book yet, something that might help is taking the mindset that if you don’t ATTRACT her, it is no big loss. If you do succeed at ATTRACTING her, then, if she’s lucky, she gets to be an addition to your already exciting life. This conveys to a woman that not getting her is of no big loss to you. Conveying this is a huge part of establishing Prizability: Defining yourself as having perceived value.
Furthermore, notice how in J’s reality the possibility of her rejecting him does not even exist. He, instead, interprets her ignoring him as a challenge.
“So we proceeded to sit down at a table and I ignored her completely at first. I paid particular attention to my friend and his girlfriend and angled my body language 45 degrees away from the other girl.”
J did the right thing. Why should he give a woman claiming not remember him attention? Think about it: If some four hundred pound woman, complete with wart on chin, a big hairy beard, and cheesy bread in hand, pretended to not remember you, you’d just ignore her, wouldn’t you?
Most men, however, would respond to a beautiful woman differently because they put a lot of value on her aesthetic appeal. But when you allow someone to disrespect you, it subtly conveys that you place more value on them than on yourself.
Start becoming conscious of your reactions to the way women treat you – especially women you’ve just met. Do your responses to being ill treated by women you’ve just met convey that you put a huge amount of value on them?
“After about 15 minutes she attempted to engage me by ‘recalling’ things from the times we had previously met. I reframed her recollection as an attempt to pick me up, and that I don't associate myself with girls who aren't honest the first time. This got her REALLY interested, because I was increasing my prizability while basically calling her a liar for acting like she didn't remember me before. ”
Interesting. Notice the shift. She went from not remembering him to recalling events from the previous time they’d met. When you refuse to tolerate mistreatment from a woman, conveying that you put more value on your standards, expectations of others, and yourself than on her beauty, oftentimes, she’ll end up perceiving you as a PRIZE she wants to win over.
“I then did a perfect cold-reading. ‘I know you come across as a cold-hearted bi*tch to most guys. But that's only because you haven't met your match yet. You haven't met a guy that could keep you in your place and make you realize that the world doesn't revolve around you. Well let me tell you something, that has all come to end right here and right now. You are about to experience something for the first time, and you're going to absolutely love it.’ OMG dude.
The look in her eyes was like nothing I've ever seen before.”
You might think this is a bit harsh but trust me – it’s actually quite powerful! This woman is probably used to men putting a lot of value on her, doing things on her terms, trying to live up to her expectations, giving her all of their power, causing them to get SUCKED INTO HER REALITY.
She is probably bored of guys getting easily sucked into her reality, and, possibly, bored of her own reality.
The underlying meaning of his cold reading to her was this: “I know you’re used to men getting sucked into your reality, but that ends RIGHT NOW, honey! Not only am I unwilling to get sucked into your reality, but your about to get sucked into my mine.”
Read what I just wrote again, because I gave away some really powerful info.
“So I told her we were going for a walk. She followed me.”
Of course she followed, she was sucked into his reality – and, I’m sure, loved every second of it!
“Then I turned around, pulled her close to me and kissed her hard on the mouth. Then I pushed her away. She told me I was "evil" (I remember reading that in the final pages of your book -- so I KNEW I was doing all the right things). I stood there with my eyebrow cocked just looking at her like she had some kinda nerve calling me "evil". She came over to me and proceeded to kiss me like it was the last kiss she would ever have.”
This is a nice execution of what in book I call “Physical Push-Pull.” This is a very powerful form of Prizing – making a woman want, and reach, and chase for more of you. There is a lot more to it than what I am going to discuss here. One important aspect is that by pushing a woman away from you while kissing her, you are creating a Tension Loop – creating unresolved emotional tension inside her, leaving her wondering: “How does he feel about me?…Does he like me?...Is ATTRACTED to me?...”…and so on.
This makes her want to bring resolution and closure to this emotional tension through trying to kiss you.
Another benefit to pushing a woman away – like J from LA did – is that it establishes the frame that she is in your REALITY doing things on your terms.
J was able to make this work because he had ALREADY SUCKED HER INTO HIS REALITY.
“I even tried to make her dance with other hot guys, but she wouldn't do it. She kept coming back to me and grinding on me.”
This is great. He is establishing himself as the Prize through conveying that it is no big deal if he loses her.
“Finally I left the platform and walked away. My girl followed. I went to the bar. She followed. I went back to the dance floor. She followed. I went out on the patio and yes, she followed.”
If you suck someone into your reality, it is very easy to do this.
“So I figured by now I could have anything I wanted with her so I told her we were going back to her place. She made a weak attempt at saying that I had told her she wasn't having sex with me. I started turning away from her and said "Ok, you're totally right. Never mind.", but she spun me around, kissed me and dragged me out of the place, back to her Lexus and straight to her apartment where she proceeded to dance stripper style for me, give me some of the best oral sex ever and basically offer herself to me in any way that I chose.”
Yes! – As soon as he conveyed that it was no loss to him if he didn’t sleep with her, she saw him as a Prize she wanted to sleep with.
J was able to accomplish all of this because he was able to establish that he was the Prize, get her emotionally wanting more of him, and successfully SUCK HER INTO HIS REALITY.
I don’t care if you are bald or short or fat or broke…or whatever it is you feel is preventing you from succeeding with women. ATTRACTION is not what a woman prefers or how she judges you. ATTRACTION is how she responds to you establishing yourself as the Prize combined with creating the emotion inside her of wanting and reaching for more of you. As long as you are able to establish yourself as the Prize, get them emotionally wanting more of you, and suck them into your reality, success with beautiful women is in your reach. If you are ready to master these skills and start ATTRACTING the women you desire, pick up a copy of my book today.
RealWorldSeduction
DatingTipsForMen publishes top dating, attraction, and seduction articles.
'Till next time,
Swinggcat
Monday, September 27, 2004
How To Talk To Women Over The Phone…
Swinggcat - author of Real World Seduction
I get a lot of questions about talking to women over the phone. Instead of answering each one individually I thought I’d do a whole newsletter on the topic. As I’m teaching you exactly how step-by-step to talk to women over the phone, I’ll be alluding to an essential *key ingredient* for ATTRACTING women in general. SO KEEP YOUR EYES PEELED AS YOU READ ON.
The lurid reality is this: The vast majority of phone numbers men get will never amount to anything, because most men DON’T know the right way to talk to women over the phone.
If you have not yet learned the *right way* to talk to women over the phone, REALIZE that mastering this skill will at the very least DOUBLE your current success with women – point blank!
When getting a woman’s phone number, the average collective male chooses one of three categories of action. In most cases, however, he is damned no matter which of the three categories he chooses. As you READ each category it will become apparent to you why this is the case.
Category # 1: Trying To Win Over A Woman’s Heart…
Some of you hopeless romantics might argue: there is a heap of sentimental value encapsulated in the journey of winning over a woman’s heart. Maybe so. But in the wake of your efforts your chances are slim to nil of generating ANY attraction with her.
Women are ATTRACTED to men who are the PRIZE. When you try to win over, impress, or get validation from a woman, you are making her the Prize in the interaction, not you. Doing this is the quickest rout to eradicating ANY ATTRACTION there. I should know; I’ve lost many women from doing this. Their attitude towards me turned from fun loving warmth into contemptuous ennui, imputing me as the source of their boredom. Scorning me, as if I was a suppository wrapped in gold foil that they mistakenly bit into, credulously thinking I was an Almond Roca.
Some men will try to win a woman over by attempting to act entertaining or funny. Acting entertaining and funny can generate MASSIVE ATTRACTION in women but only within the context of being the Prize.
In the context, however, of trying to win a woman over, acting entertaining and funny will destroy any ATTRACTION that was there. Even if a woman is laughing at everything you are doing and saying, she will probably be thinking: “Dance little monkey…dance!” Women somehow clairvoyantly know when you’re acting entertaining and funny as a means to impressing or getting validation from them.
If you’re adamant about acting entertaining and funny, that’s fine. But make sure you have the mindset that you’re doing it for your own amusement, not trying to win her approval. I know many guys who aren’t particularly funny, though, women find them hilarious and very attractive. This is largely because these men aren’t acting funny and entertaining in the context of trying to win a woman over. They, instead, are enjoying and amusing themselves. So, when talking to a woman on the phone DON’T worry about impressing her. Have fun. Enjoy the conversation. Amuse yourself.
Many guys will try to fill the quota of a woman’s “Ideal Man.” What usually happens is this: As a guy is talking over the phone with a woman she’ll bring up what she likes – or more often, what she disdains – in a man. Most guys, then, end up trying to qualify or prove to the woman that they are her ideal man. Don’t do this. It conveys to the woman that you view her as a Prize you are trying to win over. If a woman starts listing her “man” standards and requirements or begins yapping about a guy she really likes, interrupt her with, “this conversation’s really boring me” or, alternatively, start conspicuously yawning. Both tactics are very powerful because they transform the underlying meaning of your phone conversation from:
To win her over you have to possess or display such-and-such qualities.
Into:
You letting her know that her conversation topic is not winning her any points with you.
(If you DIDN’T get what I just wrote, read it a few more times – it is really important!).
A direr version of this is when guys probe women with questions about what they look for in a man. If you are guilty of this, stop it! Besides making you look insecure about how you measure up to what she’s normally ATTRACTED to, you’re defining the underlying meaning of the phone conversation as her being the Prize, not you. When talking to women on the phone, DON’T probe her with questions about what she’s normally attracted to. ASSUME, instead, that you are the Prize she is trying to win over. Make her fill the quota of your ideal woman. While talking to a brunette on the phone, I might, for example, haphazardly chuckle to which she’ll inevitably shoot back with, “What?” I’ll rebut with, “You’re a brunette, aren’t you?” and she’ll say, “Yes.” Then I’ll let her know she doesn’t fill my quota with, “I only like blondes! You aren’t my type…but we can be friends.” Doing this is more than light hearted banter: I’m defining the underlying meaning of our phone conversation as me being the Prize.
I know a few guys that try to win women over by giving lots of compliments. I think giving women compliments can be very powerful. But when you give a woman compliments within the context of trying to win her over, you become a courtier: a flatterer of someone more important than you. Put simply, you are unknowingly implying that she is the Prize, not you.
Category # 2: Treating Her Like Your Wife…
If a woman gives you her number – even if you feel like you have a special connection with her or end up sleeping with her the first night you meet – she is not yet your girlfriend or wife. Treating a woman like a wife when first getting to know her will hurl you to the top of the Creep-O-Meter. This means DON’T: ask her questions about other guys she’s seeing, suspiciously interrogate her about how she spends her time, and angrily reprimand her for flaking on you. How she spends her time is her business. Telling a confident, intelligent woman who you’ve just met what she can and cannot do will make her run so fast it will make your head spin.
At some point, most of us, guys, have been chagrined by a woman flaking on us, causing us to brood over it for hours and, then, angrily reprimand her to no avail – it sucks! But you know what: Whoop-de-do…go sail a f*ing boat! Suck it up! She doesn’t care. Put your rampant intellectual coping mechanism in check. The angrier you get, the less ATTRACTED to you she’ll be. Later on I’ll tell you the *right way* to handle women flaking. SO KEEP READING.
Category # 3: Acting Aloof And Disinterested And Letting Her Pursue You…
More than a few people have accused me of endorsing this category. There only half right. As you read on, you’ll get what I mean.
One of the morals in the movie Swingers is: You need to wait seven days before calling a girl’s number – you wouldn’t want to look needy or desperate. They give a pretty funny example illustrating the consequences of breaking this moral when the protagonist, a lovable-loser named “Mike” calls a woman he has only known for a few hours seven times in a row, redounding in her telling him to never call her again (If you haven’t seen the movie, do so. It’s a must). This moral has become intrinsic to the zeitgeist of the modern dating advice and self-help for men world.
The moral is right in theory but wrong in practice. With beautiful women in the Real World, NOT acting proactive will lead to many lonely nights. To smack you upside the head with this, waiting for women to call you is a hopeless strategy. Unless you’ve gotten a woman on the hook, waiting for her to call is not making her chase you, it is passively wishing for her to pursue you.
I am NOT touting you to chase, pursue, and try to win women over, either.
Proactive Prizing: Actively Creating A Space For Her To Chase You...
In my book I talk about Prizing – the art of making a woman chase you. You can only Prize women, however, within certain contexts. And MOST of the time, you need to proactively create these contexts. Passively waiting for these contexts is a losing battle.
This especially applies to Prizing women over the phone. If you DON’T call a woman or if you passively wait for her to call you, you aren’t proactively creating the context to Prize her. It isn’t her responsibility to chase you; it’s your responsibility to make her chase you. Don’t be passive. Take the initiative. Be Proactive.
Will some women think you are chasing them? Yes, but who cares! You can undermine this by, for example, telling her: “You aren’t my type and I want to let you know that I’d never go for you, though I do find you amusing to talk to.” This is a form of what in my book I call “Push-Pull.” If you’ve been studying my book, you probably have already realized why doing something like this will quickly and effectively get a woman chasing you.
I remember the days when I’d passively wait for a woman to call me. Looking back, I now realize the heaps of success I missed out on, all because I didn’t yet understand the concept of proactive Prizing.
The better you get at this the more you’ll find women asking you out on dates over the phone – it’s almost scary how much this happens to me. Don’t passively, however, wait for a woman to ask you out on a date. It is up to you to get her from the phone to a physical location (Maybe I’ll do a whole newsletter addressing this topic). Will some women perceive this as you chasing them? Yes but, as I said before, you can undermine this later. Let me give you an example. A few years ago, I was talking over the phone with a woman who mentioned an affinity for art. I invited her to an art exhibit. She responded with, “Are you trying to ask me out on a date?!” I chuckled and Prized back with, “No…my grandmother’s coming too. I know the elderly don’t leave the house much so I thought I’d do my good deed for the year by getting you two girls out for some fresh air. Oh, just to let you know, I don’t tolerate funny smells. So be sure to wear your adult diaper.” She laughed and, then, told me I was a wicked bastard. But she showed up at the museum, claiming to be wearing her adult diaper. Luckily, her diaper ended up being G-string underwear.
You don’t always have to undermine your intentions when asking a girl out but it usually can’t hurt, plus it takes the pressure off her thinking it is some big date.
Sometimes, no matter what you say, women end up flaking. I’ve met tons of guys who are amazing with women. Yet even they have experienced women flaking on them. Any guy who tells you he never has women flake on him is lying – point blank. The reasons for women flaking are too numerous to list in this newsletter. Many of these reasons are probably different from ones you’ve thought of. Some attractive women, for example, will flake on guys out insecurity, fearing that he’ll discover their flaws, making him less attracted to them. For your sake, however, it is not important to analyze and address the reasons why women flake. If they flake, brush it off, keep proactively Prizing them, and then ask them out again.
As long as you follow my guidelines – even if you’re still super nervous while talking to girls on the phone – you’ll be a hundred times better off. And if you haven’t already picked up a copy of my book, do so. I give you step-by-step instruction on how to establish yourself as the PRIZE and get any woman chasing you, allowing you to achieve the mastery and success with women you deserve. And this is only scratching the surface of what I’m going to teach you. Stop allowing opportunities to pass you by. Let me show you step-by-step how to generate massive attraction with women.
RealWorldSeduction
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Swinggcat responds to your emails:
Comment:
Dear Swinggcat,
I wanted to compliment you on your e-letters. I subscribe to a few of the dating e-letters that are out there, and I think you have some of the best "real-life" advice to give. I think many of the other sites are beneficial in meeting a girl and maybe getting laid. But yours is probably the best for developing a relationship.
Your comments on being friends with women is the perfect example of this. Some of the other sites seem to totally neglect this. Female friends are a major help in attracting women. When I've gone out with a mixed group of friends (women and men), the level of attraction from women is so much higher than when I'm just with my guy friends. My female friends have also given some good advice when it comes to attraction.
For most of us out there looking to improve ourselves in this aspect, finding and keeping a great women is our ultimate goal. For a 30-something year old, like myself, I don't just want to find some random girl to have sex. I want a relationship, and your advice definitely helps with that.
Keep up the good work!
MA, Middletown, NJ
My Comments:
Thank you for this! Most dating experts fall into one of two categories: Either they are relationship experts or pick up gurus. I don’t think I fit into either category. My approach is more holistic. I believe that many of the skills typically associated with picking up women are essential to having successful relationships. And, likewise, many of the skills usually associated with having healthy successful relationships are essential to meeting and picking up on women. Once again, thank you.
Question:
Hey Swinggcat,Your letters are very good stuff! Congratulations, man.I enjoy them enormously.I have a question for you though: how can I establishPRIZABILITY with a woman without saying a word? Onlyby looking at each other, without a word?G. from Sydney, Australia
My Comments:
Ah yes…A truly lazy man. Love it! For those who DON’T know, PRIZABILITY is establishing yourself as the PRIZE when interacting with women. Just like proactive Prizing is important, you need to PROACTIVELY establish yourself as the Prize. Using your eyes, however, will suffice. One thing that will help enormously is really developing your belief that you are the Prize (Also, reread my article, Demystifying Charisma. I break down step-by-step how to develop a strong intent. This should help).
As for what you should do with your eyes, you’ll have to wait for my audio course.
Comment:
I think actually what I said before about how you can always make her think you are the PRIZE is wrong, or rather it applies only to immature masochists. Or rather, the lower a woman's self-esteem and maturity, the more likely it is to work. There is nothing anyone could do to make a mature woman in excellent mental health "lose it" and put out because he is "the PRIZE". He can make them think he’s an attractive jerk, yes. But more attractive for a man than they are for a woman, so they "have to" put out regardless of whether he has given any indication that they might be special to him, no. But for better or worse, immature masochists are the pool that pros deal with, so practically speaking it does not matter much. The things you say (and what I said) will definitely work with that crowd. What that is worth, other than ego-gratification, is another question.
Best Wishes,
DLW
My Comments:
First off, there is still a gruesome stigma in our culture about loose women. This forces many girls to put on the goody two shoes façade. But it’s only pretense. It is actually quite astounding how many women partake in “no strings attached” sex. There probably are some women that stay true to, for example, no premarital sex…no if, ands, or buts. This number, however, is most likely a lot lower than what you’re thinking.
Furthermore, a woman partaking in “no strings attached” sex has nothing to do with her being either a mature woman or, as you call it, an immature masochist. All it reflects is her value and belief system. Put simply, there are different strokes for different folks.
I don’t teach men to try to convince women that they are the Prize. What I teach, instead, is how to establish yourself and genuinely be the Prize with women. There’s a huge difference.
Most successful, confident, go-getter women go after what they want – no strings attached sex included. If you establish yourself as the Prize, they will most likely go after you – it’s only nature.
Being the Prize does not mean being a jerk. Being a jerk can be one style of being the Prize. You can, however, be a genuinely nice, standup guy, while still being the Prize.
Comment:
Dude, you rock. I've read a lot of this stuff, and I think yours is by far the best. I especially like how you give lots of specific examples of things to do, but it all boils to the underlying principles of controlling the frame and pushing & pulling. I'll tell you how cool you are some more once I'm sleeping with super-hot women all the time, but first I have to get past this damnable fear of doing a cold approach. Feeling inhibition about approaching whoever I want to is not acceptable to me, and I've finally gotten to the point where I can't take it any more and I'm ready to do whatever it takes, and so now talking to women I don't know is a full-time job, even to the exclusion of other hobbies. But it’s a hell of a rush and it gets easier every time.
Peace,
L. from TX
My Comments:
Thanks for the praise. And keep approaching women. It will get easier. I’m going to be releasing a product where I really crack the code on getting rid of the fear of approaching women. It’s very powerful and to my knowledge, I’m the first one to think of it. This will help you immensely.
I’m glad you’re motivated. But don’t let picking up women consume your life – balance is important. I, in fact, have found that my own success is the highest when I have balance in my life.
Comment:
Hey man,I just wanted to say again...you're ebook kicks sooo much ass. I have a couple of friends who are very good at getting girls. Some times I will compete with them over a girl because I think I'm a big shot Pickup Artist that knows all of this stuff about girls. The last time I did this I lost and I talked to the guy about what happened. I analyzed it for a long time and asked him what he does and kind of wrote it down. I was just looking at your ebook again and guess what...they were just doing the stuff you talk about. Mostly the push/pull. We're all good looking guys and my buddy that I lost to will pull girls by giving eye contact and smiles and asking them about themselves and pushing by putting his attention on other things or teasing them. One thing I've noticed when doing push/pull to the extremes...that is, going to far in the directions...you can really make girls want to destroy you. I've had this happen a couple of times when I've gotten girls interested in me or had them believe I was very interested in them and then do something like subtly suggest that I would not be interested in having sex with them or telling them that I like one of their friends. They usually go to large extents to make me look bad to as many people as they can.
What new products are you coming out with?
J from Arizona
My Comments:
When I was trying to figure this stuff out, I, also, noticed guys who were naturally good with women using push-pull. When you are first learning push-pull, you can go overboard. Once, however, you have mastered the skill you will find that you can never go too far with it. The sky is the limit – really!
To answer your question about upcoming products: Yes, I am working on a product that really is a paradigm shift in thinking about the dating and attraction game.
Question:
hi
I am impressed by the way you think. You obviously have an awesome level of "natural charisma" and confidence in you. Now doc, I have a problem here. If you can just give me little bit of guidance, that will feel great. I'll explain everything in brief and I'll go in detail later. this girl we hooked up, went out for 2 months. The mistake I did then was I really started kissing up to her. but when it happened, it was like magic. she initially came to my room and @ that time i had no idea that I would ever end up with her.....but magically ..I did... I could not go out with her officially as I'm like one of the care takers in a hostel but I still did go out with herunofficially. People did suspect and heaps of boys (some of who like her), disliked me. They really had her on(they were not sure) about goin out with me but it was unofficial. Well she knows all the tricks in dabook... I broke up with her 1.5 months ago. I talked to her last time invited her over for drinks in my room but she turned me down as she had a plane to catch. We somehow discussed the past and she passed some rude comment that got me angry and I told her that I never cared about anything including her. She told me that she is with someone else, of what I'm not sure as I've never seen or heard of anyone with her. She got really angry and hung up on me and said do you know what you just said implies?!. we are hardly on talking terms. 'd like to be with her if possible but if not...it's fine. The problemis we talked 2 weeks ago and she'd gone out for holidays. she's just come back and I don't think I could start talking. anyhow, after a week I went to her room to return something of hers and she just showed that she doesn’t care ..I just told her that after having gone out with her, I don't think it's right for me to be just passing next to her and ignoring her. we've been a lot intimate before. I said it's silly and also apologized about the behavior. I explained to her that I was drunk but also told her that I thought that she owed me an apology. she should have the courtesy and respect to say good bye properly...not hang up on me.. Then she replied.."but I did hang up on you" anyway, I left her room but most of the conversation was almost without an eye contact as she was doing something or the other like "studying" or cleaning up her room*(pretending not to care).....now Ilike her. want her...but dunno how to go about it.. Any suggestions?
M
My Comments:
I’m going to give a really detailed in depth response, so get ready. Here it is: Move on!!!!! I’m guessing you don’t yet have my book. Get it – immediately!
When you are coming from a place of weakness you try to hold onto things that are over.
But when you have the skills to move through the world, turning wishes into opportunities you can quickly and easily grab a hold of, you can let go of the past. Let me ask you question: If every woman on the planet desired you, would you have written me this email? I have a hunch the answer’s “No!” Am I right? Look – I’ve been in situations where I didn’t want to let go of a girl, because I didn’t want to be alone, fearing I wouldn’t be able to find another girl. I was coming from a place of weakness.
I no longer have this fear – because I have mastery over the necessary skills to attract desirable women anywhere I go. I’m going to teach you step-by-step how to develop these skills, empowering you to attract any woman you desire, annihilating every last morsel of fear you have about being alone. Click here to start mastering these skills:
RealWorldSeduction
'Till next time,
Swinggcat
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I get a lot of questions about talking to women over the phone. Instead of answering each one individually I thought I’d do a whole newsletter on the topic. As I’m teaching you exactly how step-by-step to talk to women over the phone, I’ll be alluding to an essential *key ingredient* for ATTRACTING women in general. SO KEEP YOUR EYES PEELED AS YOU READ ON.
The lurid reality is this: The vast majority of phone numbers men get will never amount to anything, because most men DON’T know the right way to talk to women over the phone.
If you have not yet learned the *right way* to talk to women over the phone, REALIZE that mastering this skill will at the very least DOUBLE your current success with women – point blank!
When getting a woman’s phone number, the average collective male chooses one of three categories of action. In most cases, however, he is damned no matter which of the three categories he chooses. As you READ each category it will become apparent to you why this is the case.
Category # 1: Trying To Win Over A Woman’s Heart…
Some of you hopeless romantics might argue: there is a heap of sentimental value encapsulated in the journey of winning over a woman’s heart. Maybe so. But in the wake of your efforts your chances are slim to nil of generating ANY attraction with her.
Women are ATTRACTED to men who are the PRIZE. When you try to win over, impress, or get validation from a woman, you are making her the Prize in the interaction, not you. Doing this is the quickest rout to eradicating ANY ATTRACTION there. I should know; I’ve lost many women from doing this. Their attitude towards me turned from fun loving warmth into contemptuous ennui, imputing me as the source of their boredom. Scorning me, as if I was a suppository wrapped in gold foil that they mistakenly bit into, credulously thinking I was an Almond Roca.
Some men will try to win a woman over by attempting to act entertaining or funny. Acting entertaining and funny can generate MASSIVE ATTRACTION in women but only within the context of being the Prize.
In the context, however, of trying to win a woman over, acting entertaining and funny will destroy any ATTRACTION that was there. Even if a woman is laughing at everything you are doing and saying, she will probably be thinking: “Dance little monkey…dance!” Women somehow clairvoyantly know when you’re acting entertaining and funny as a means to impressing or getting validation from them.
If you’re adamant about acting entertaining and funny, that’s fine. But make sure you have the mindset that you’re doing it for your own amusement, not trying to win her approval. I know many guys who aren’t particularly funny, though, women find them hilarious and very attractive. This is largely because these men aren’t acting funny and entertaining in the context of trying to win a woman over. They, instead, are enjoying and amusing themselves. So, when talking to a woman on the phone DON’T worry about impressing her. Have fun. Enjoy the conversation. Amuse yourself.
Many guys will try to fill the quota of a woman’s “Ideal Man.” What usually happens is this: As a guy is talking over the phone with a woman she’ll bring up what she likes – or more often, what she disdains – in a man. Most guys, then, end up trying to qualify or prove to the woman that they are her ideal man. Don’t do this. It conveys to the woman that you view her as a Prize you are trying to win over. If a woman starts listing her “man” standards and requirements or begins yapping about a guy she really likes, interrupt her with, “this conversation’s really boring me” or, alternatively, start conspicuously yawning. Both tactics are very powerful because they transform the underlying meaning of your phone conversation from:
To win her over you have to possess or display such-and-such qualities.
Into:
You letting her know that her conversation topic is not winning her any points with you.
(If you DIDN’T get what I just wrote, read it a few more times – it is really important!).
A direr version of this is when guys probe women with questions about what they look for in a man. If you are guilty of this, stop it! Besides making you look insecure about how you measure up to what she’s normally ATTRACTED to, you’re defining the underlying meaning of the phone conversation as her being the Prize, not you. When talking to women on the phone, DON’T probe her with questions about what she’s normally attracted to. ASSUME, instead, that you are the Prize she is trying to win over. Make her fill the quota of your ideal woman. While talking to a brunette on the phone, I might, for example, haphazardly chuckle to which she’ll inevitably shoot back with, “What?” I’ll rebut with, “You’re a brunette, aren’t you?” and she’ll say, “Yes.” Then I’ll let her know she doesn’t fill my quota with, “I only like blondes! You aren’t my type…but we can be friends.” Doing this is more than light hearted banter: I’m defining the underlying meaning of our phone conversation as me being the Prize.
I know a few guys that try to win women over by giving lots of compliments. I think giving women compliments can be very powerful. But when you give a woman compliments within the context of trying to win her over, you become a courtier: a flatterer of someone more important than you. Put simply, you are unknowingly implying that she is the Prize, not you.
Category # 2: Treating Her Like Your Wife…
If a woman gives you her number – even if you feel like you have a special connection with her or end up sleeping with her the first night you meet – she is not yet your girlfriend or wife. Treating a woman like a wife when first getting to know her will hurl you to the top of the Creep-O-Meter. This means DON’T: ask her questions about other guys she’s seeing, suspiciously interrogate her about how she spends her time, and angrily reprimand her for flaking on you. How she spends her time is her business. Telling a confident, intelligent woman who you’ve just met what she can and cannot do will make her run so fast it will make your head spin.
At some point, most of us, guys, have been chagrined by a woman flaking on us, causing us to brood over it for hours and, then, angrily reprimand her to no avail – it sucks! But you know what: Whoop-de-do…go sail a f*ing boat! Suck it up! She doesn’t care. Put your rampant intellectual coping mechanism in check. The angrier you get, the less ATTRACTED to you she’ll be. Later on I’ll tell you the *right way* to handle women flaking. SO KEEP READING.
Category # 3: Acting Aloof And Disinterested And Letting Her Pursue You…
More than a few people have accused me of endorsing this category. There only half right. As you read on, you’ll get what I mean.
One of the morals in the movie Swingers is: You need to wait seven days before calling a girl’s number – you wouldn’t want to look needy or desperate. They give a pretty funny example illustrating the consequences of breaking this moral when the protagonist, a lovable-loser named “Mike” calls a woman he has only known for a few hours seven times in a row, redounding in her telling him to never call her again (If you haven’t seen the movie, do so. It’s a must). This moral has become intrinsic to the zeitgeist of the modern dating advice and self-help for men world.
The moral is right in theory but wrong in practice. With beautiful women in the Real World, NOT acting proactive will lead to many lonely nights. To smack you upside the head with this, waiting for women to call you is a hopeless strategy. Unless you’ve gotten a woman on the hook, waiting for her to call is not making her chase you, it is passively wishing for her to pursue you.
I am NOT touting you to chase, pursue, and try to win women over, either.
Proactive Prizing: Actively Creating A Space For Her To Chase You...
In my book I talk about Prizing – the art of making a woman chase you. You can only Prize women, however, within certain contexts. And MOST of the time, you need to proactively create these contexts. Passively waiting for these contexts is a losing battle.
This especially applies to Prizing women over the phone. If you DON’T call a woman or if you passively wait for her to call you, you aren’t proactively creating the context to Prize her. It isn’t her responsibility to chase you; it’s your responsibility to make her chase you. Don’t be passive. Take the initiative. Be Proactive.
Will some women think you are chasing them? Yes, but who cares! You can undermine this by, for example, telling her: “You aren’t my type and I want to let you know that I’d never go for you, though I do find you amusing to talk to.” This is a form of what in my book I call “Push-Pull.” If you’ve been studying my book, you probably have already realized why doing something like this will quickly and effectively get a woman chasing you.
I remember the days when I’d passively wait for a woman to call me. Looking back, I now realize the heaps of success I missed out on, all because I didn’t yet understand the concept of proactive Prizing.
The better you get at this the more you’ll find women asking you out on dates over the phone – it’s almost scary how much this happens to me. Don’t passively, however, wait for a woman to ask you out on a date. It is up to you to get her from the phone to a physical location (Maybe I’ll do a whole newsletter addressing this topic). Will some women perceive this as you chasing them? Yes but, as I said before, you can undermine this later. Let me give you an example. A few years ago, I was talking over the phone with a woman who mentioned an affinity for art. I invited her to an art exhibit. She responded with, “Are you trying to ask me out on a date?!” I chuckled and Prized back with, “No…my grandmother’s coming too. I know the elderly don’t leave the house much so I thought I’d do my good deed for the year by getting you two girls out for some fresh air. Oh, just to let you know, I don’t tolerate funny smells. So be sure to wear your adult diaper.” She laughed and, then, told me I was a wicked bastard. But she showed up at the museum, claiming to be wearing her adult diaper. Luckily, her diaper ended up being G-string underwear.
You don’t always have to undermine your intentions when asking a girl out but it usually can’t hurt, plus it takes the pressure off her thinking it is some big date.
Sometimes, no matter what you say, women end up flaking. I’ve met tons of guys who are amazing with women. Yet even they have experienced women flaking on them. Any guy who tells you he never has women flake on him is lying – point blank. The reasons for women flaking are too numerous to list in this newsletter. Many of these reasons are probably different from ones you’ve thought of. Some attractive women, for example, will flake on guys out insecurity, fearing that he’ll discover their flaws, making him less attracted to them. For your sake, however, it is not important to analyze and address the reasons why women flake. If they flake, brush it off, keep proactively Prizing them, and then ask them out again.
As long as you follow my guidelines – even if you’re still super nervous while talking to girls on the phone – you’ll be a hundred times better off. And if you haven’t already picked up a copy of my book, do so. I give you step-by-step instruction on how to establish yourself as the PRIZE and get any woman chasing you, allowing you to achieve the mastery and success with women you deserve. And this is only scratching the surface of what I’m going to teach you. Stop allowing opportunities to pass you by. Let me show you step-by-step how to generate massive attraction with women.
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Swinggcat responds to your emails:
Comment:
Dear Swinggcat,
I wanted to compliment you on your e-letters. I subscribe to a few of the dating e-letters that are out there, and I think you have some of the best "real-life" advice to give. I think many of the other sites are beneficial in meeting a girl and maybe getting laid. But yours is probably the best for developing a relationship.
Your comments on being friends with women is the perfect example of this. Some of the other sites seem to totally neglect this. Female friends are a major help in attracting women. When I've gone out with a mixed group of friends (women and men), the level of attraction from women is so much higher than when I'm just with my guy friends. My female friends have also given some good advice when it comes to attraction.
For most of us out there looking to improve ourselves in this aspect, finding and keeping a great women is our ultimate goal. For a 30-something year old, like myself, I don't just want to find some random girl to have sex. I want a relationship, and your advice definitely helps with that.
Keep up the good work!
MA, Middletown, NJ
My Comments:
Thank you for this! Most dating experts fall into one of two categories: Either they are relationship experts or pick up gurus. I don’t think I fit into either category. My approach is more holistic. I believe that many of the skills typically associated with picking up women are essential to having successful relationships. And, likewise, many of the skills usually associated with having healthy successful relationships are essential to meeting and picking up on women. Once again, thank you.
Question:
Hey Swinggcat,Your letters are very good stuff! Congratulations, man.I enjoy them enormously.I have a question for you though: how can I establishPRIZABILITY with a woman without saying a word? Onlyby looking at each other, without a word?G. from Sydney, Australia
My Comments:
Ah yes…A truly lazy man. Love it! For those who DON’T know, PRIZABILITY is establishing yourself as the PRIZE when interacting with women. Just like proactive Prizing is important, you need to PROACTIVELY establish yourself as the Prize. Using your eyes, however, will suffice. One thing that will help enormously is really developing your belief that you are the Prize (Also, reread my article, Demystifying Charisma. I break down step-by-step how to develop a strong intent. This should help).
As for what you should do with your eyes, you’ll have to wait for my audio course.
Comment:
I think actually what I said before about how you can always make her think you are the PRIZE is wrong, or rather it applies only to immature masochists. Or rather, the lower a woman's self-esteem and maturity, the more likely it is to work. There is nothing anyone could do to make a mature woman in excellent mental health "lose it" and put out because he is "the PRIZE". He can make them think he’s an attractive jerk, yes. But more attractive for a man than they are for a woman, so they "have to" put out regardless of whether he has given any indication that they might be special to him, no. But for better or worse, immature masochists are the pool that pros deal with, so practically speaking it does not matter much. The things you say (and what I said) will definitely work with that crowd. What that is worth, other than ego-gratification, is another question.
Best Wishes,
DLW
My Comments:
First off, there is still a gruesome stigma in our culture about loose women. This forces many girls to put on the goody two shoes façade. But it’s only pretense. It is actually quite astounding how many women partake in “no strings attached” sex. There probably are some women that stay true to, for example, no premarital sex…no if, ands, or buts. This number, however, is most likely a lot lower than what you’re thinking.
Furthermore, a woman partaking in “no strings attached” sex has nothing to do with her being either a mature woman or, as you call it, an immature masochist. All it reflects is her value and belief system. Put simply, there are different strokes for different folks.
I don’t teach men to try to convince women that they are the Prize. What I teach, instead, is how to establish yourself and genuinely be the Prize with women. There’s a huge difference.
Most successful, confident, go-getter women go after what they want – no strings attached sex included. If you establish yourself as the Prize, they will most likely go after you – it’s only nature.
Being the Prize does not mean being a jerk. Being a jerk can be one style of being the Prize. You can, however, be a genuinely nice, standup guy, while still being the Prize.
Comment:
Dude, you rock. I've read a lot of this stuff, and I think yours is by far the best. I especially like how you give lots of specific examples of things to do, but it all boils to the underlying principles of controlling the frame and pushing & pulling. I'll tell you how cool you are some more once I'm sleeping with super-hot women all the time, but first I have to get past this damnable fear of doing a cold approach. Feeling inhibition about approaching whoever I want to is not acceptable to me, and I've finally gotten to the point where I can't take it any more and I'm ready to do whatever it takes, and so now talking to women I don't know is a full-time job, even to the exclusion of other hobbies. But it’s a hell of a rush and it gets easier every time.
Peace,
L. from TX
My Comments:
Thanks for the praise. And keep approaching women. It will get easier. I’m going to be releasing a product where I really crack the code on getting rid of the fear of approaching women. It’s very powerful and to my knowledge, I’m the first one to think of it. This will help you immensely.
I’m glad you’re motivated. But don’t let picking up women consume your life – balance is important. I, in fact, have found that my own success is the highest when I have balance in my life.
Comment:
Hey man,I just wanted to say again...you're ebook kicks sooo much ass. I have a couple of friends who are very good at getting girls. Some times I will compete with them over a girl because I think I'm a big shot Pickup Artist that knows all of this stuff about girls. The last time I did this I lost and I talked to the guy about what happened. I analyzed it for a long time and asked him what he does and kind of wrote it down. I was just looking at your ebook again and guess what...they were just doing the stuff you talk about. Mostly the push/pull. We're all good looking guys and my buddy that I lost to will pull girls by giving eye contact and smiles and asking them about themselves and pushing by putting his attention on other things or teasing them. One thing I've noticed when doing push/pull to the extremes...that is, going to far in the directions...you can really make girls want to destroy you. I've had this happen a couple of times when I've gotten girls interested in me or had them believe I was very interested in them and then do something like subtly suggest that I would not be interested in having sex with them or telling them that I like one of their friends. They usually go to large extents to make me look bad to as many people as they can.
What new products are you coming out with?
J from Arizona
My Comments:
When I was trying to figure this stuff out, I, also, noticed guys who were naturally good with women using push-pull. When you are first learning push-pull, you can go overboard. Once, however, you have mastered the skill you will find that you can never go too far with it. The sky is the limit – really!
To answer your question about upcoming products: Yes, I am working on a product that really is a paradigm shift in thinking about the dating and attraction game.
Question:
hi
I am impressed by the way you think. You obviously have an awesome level of "natural charisma" and confidence in you. Now doc, I have a problem here. If you can just give me little bit of guidance, that will feel great. I'll explain everything in brief and I'll go in detail later. this girl we hooked up, went out for 2 months. The mistake I did then was I really started kissing up to her. but when it happened, it was like magic. she initially came to my room and @ that time i had no idea that I would ever end up with her.....but magically ..I did... I could not go out with her officially as I'm like one of the care takers in a hostel but I still did go out with herunofficially. People did suspect and heaps of boys (some of who like her), disliked me. They really had her on(they were not sure) about goin out with me but it was unofficial. Well she knows all the tricks in dabook... I broke up with her 1.5 months ago. I talked to her last time invited her over for drinks in my room but she turned me down as she had a plane to catch. We somehow discussed the past and she passed some rude comment that got me angry and I told her that I never cared about anything including her. She told me that she is with someone else, of what I'm not sure as I've never seen or heard of anyone with her. She got really angry and hung up on me and said do you know what you just said implies?!. we are hardly on talking terms. 'd like to be with her if possible but if not...it's fine. The problemis we talked 2 weeks ago and she'd gone out for holidays. she's just come back and I don't think I could start talking. anyhow, after a week I went to her room to return something of hers and she just showed that she doesn’t care ..I just told her that after having gone out with her, I don't think it's right for me to be just passing next to her and ignoring her. we've been a lot intimate before. I said it's silly and also apologized about the behavior. I explained to her that I was drunk but also told her that I thought that she owed me an apology. she should have the courtesy and respect to say good bye properly...not hang up on me.. Then she replied.."but I did hang up on you" anyway, I left her room but most of the conversation was almost without an eye contact as she was doing something or the other like "studying" or cleaning up her room*(pretending not to care).....now Ilike her. want her...but dunno how to go about it.. Any suggestions?
M
My Comments:
I’m going to give a really detailed in depth response, so get ready. Here it is: Move on!!!!! I’m guessing you don’t yet have my book. Get it – immediately!
When you are coming from a place of weakness you try to hold onto things that are over.
But when you have the skills to move through the world, turning wishes into opportunities you can quickly and easily grab a hold of, you can let go of the past. Let me ask you question: If every woman on the planet desired you, would you have written me this email? I have a hunch the answer’s “No!” Am I right? Look – I’ve been in situations where I didn’t want to let go of a girl, because I didn’t want to be alone, fearing I wouldn’t be able to find another girl. I was coming from a place of weakness.
I no longer have this fear – because I have mastery over the necessary skills to attract desirable women anywhere I go. I’m going to teach you step-by-step how to develop these skills, empowering you to attract any woman you desire, annihilating every last morsel of fear you have about being alone. Click here to start mastering these skills:
RealWorldSeduction
'Till next time,
Swinggcat
P.S.-If you have a success story you would like to
share, or a question you would like to ask, or a
comment you would like to make, please email me at:
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Thanks!
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Wednesday, September 22, 2004
5 Myths Preventing Men From Attracting Women...
By Swinggcat – author of Real World Seduction
Myth #1: Being an Attractive Man Is
Always About Appealing To What
Women Say They Want
If you are one of those vehement supporters of
this myth, you should get a noose and hang
yourself - you'll be better off. Trying to get
a woman to like you by attempting to live up to
her ideal preferences in a man is a one way
ticket to transforming your ego into a
proverbial punching bag. Women prefer tall,
dark, handsome, rich men, packing dogs with
garden hose length and telephone pole girth.
Oh, furthermore, if you don't want to fall
short of their expectations you better be
lumbered with chiseled abs and a copious
bubble butt. If your rump isn't up to par,
you could always get silicon butt cheek
implants. But forewarning: Your
black-and-blue rear will be so sore that
you won't be able to sit down for a month.
As those of you know who have been reading my
newsletters and have read my book: Attraction
is not what a woman says she wants. If
attraction was what women say they prefer, then
I wouldn't know short, bald, fat, and broke
guys experiencing massive success with women.
But I do.
Attraction, contrary to this, is about you
creating the emotion inside women of wanting,
chasing, and reaching for more of you. Although
my short, bald, fat and broke Casanova buddies
don't fill the quota of the “ideal man,” they
do manage to generate the emotion inside women
of wanting, chasing, and reaching for more of
them. And this, my friend, is why they are
massively successful with women. The art of
creating this emotion in women is what I
call PRIZING. My book is chockfull of
different techniques for PRIZING women, some
of which are Open Loops, Tension Loops,
Challenging & Qualifying, and Meta-Frames.
One of the best things you can do to set the
groundwork for PRIZING women is to make them
strive to fill the quota of your ideal female.
So, when you're out with a woman, don't behave
like a spineless little worm, asking her
questions such as: “How am I doing with you?”
Instead, when she behaves in ways that go
against your standards and expectations of
women, let her know that she is losing points
with you - and losing points quickly!
Myth #2: If A Woman Is Of Higher
Value Than You She Is Not Allowed
To Be Attracted To You.
This one actually rings some truth. Let me
explain. If you see a woman and immediately,
in your mind, consecrate her as a Goddess
amongst Goddesses you must bow down to, you
are figuratively butt ramming yourself,
because you are setting the frame that she is
the Prize, not you. As those of you who have
read my book know, women do not feel
attraction for men who are not the PRIZE.
Viewing a woman you have just met as a Goddess
amongst Goddesses is fine, as long as you
perceive yourself as a God amongst Gods and
abstain from bowing down to her.
What is the lesson to be learned? Objective
value doesn't exist, only perceived value
does. Although women are usually not
attracted to men of lesser value than
themselves, you can do a lot to increase your
value. Whenever interacting with a woman, a
Meta-Frame - or underlying meaning - is
established, determining your value in
relation to hers. When you allow a woman's
perceived value to intimidate you, or make
you feel of lesser value than her, you are
unknowingly establishing the Meta-Frame that
she is the PRIZE, not you. So the key is to
stop fretting about some aspect of her being
of higher value than some aspect of you,
plundering you of your self-esteem. When
interacting with a woman, if you ever feel
ugly to her beauty or pedestrian to her
sophistication or like a retarded little
spaz to her sense of cool...or whatever,
change your focus of attention. See the
bigger picture. Realize that when first
meeting a woman you paint a picture in
your mind of who you think she is, based
on a few aspects you observe about her.
This picture usually ends up being way off
base. Learn to take control of your
perceptions: If you feel intimidated by her
beauty, imagine what she looks like in the
morning without her makeup; if her
sophistication renders you tongue-tied,
consider that she might be putting on an
act to impress you; if you start worrying
about how much older you are than her,
imagine how much worse she's going to
look when she's your age...and so on.
Myth # 3: If You Want To Attract
Women You Have To Act Like You
Enjoy And Are Interested In The
Things That They Enjoy
This pathetic little myth is really a
product of the collective dating advice for
men self-help books for sale at a bookstore
near you, touting men to develop the
personality of an obedient lapdog.
This myth couldn't be further from the
truth. Women are attracted to men, not
little puppy dogs.
Hypothetically speaking, let's say you are
dating a girl who has a thing for musical
kitsch: think Britney Spears or Christina
Aguilera. You, however, despise this kind
of music and would prefer the sound of
nails on a chalkboard to this crap. What
should you do: Prentend Britney's great
or tell her what you really think?
Although counterintuitive, pretending to
like something you don't genuinely
like is unattractive to women.
Likewise, having a willingness to express
what you hate can redound in women finding
you very attractive.
Exceptions, of course, do exist. For
example, specific activities have been
deemed by our culture as having a high
social value. You might, for example,
prefer reading comic books over
participating in these activities. There
could be consequences, however, to not
participating in them. In one of my
upcoming products, I touch on these
activities. I will probably publish a
newsletter in the near future addressing
these activities.
Furthermore, I am not suggesting that you
jettison all of a woman's interests and
tastes that you do not share. Doing this
will turn you into a creepy control freak
and you will probably end up becoming a very
unhappy, boring person. Only being around
people with the same interests and tastes as
you, will stifle your growth as a human
being - diversity is good. I personally love
to be around people who introduce me to
things I don't know a lot about. This is how
I develop new interests and grow as a human
being.
My gripe is with men faking an interest in
something as a means to get someone to like
them. Doing this is really handing your balls
over on a platter to the other person. Don't
do this. Don't give away your power. It is
one of the most unattractive qualities you
can possess.
Myth # 4: Women Don't Like Sex
And Will Only Sleep With You
After You Go Through Great
Lengths Courting Them.
This one really makes my skin crawl. My life
experience keeps reaffirming that beyond the
shadow of a doubt this myth doesn't even
contain a smattering of truth. Women love sex
and can be as aggressive as men when it come to
obtaining it.
If you doubt this, make some female friends who
are not interested in you. That way they won't
be concerned with how you judge them,
allowing them to shed their ladylike pretenses
and talk candidly about their sexuality.
Warning: This lurid peek into the female sexual
psyche might frighten you - it isn't for the
faint of heart. What you will find is that
women are as sexual as men…if not more. Also,
I wouldn't be surprised if these women told you
about how much fun quickies, one-night-stands,
and meaningless sex can be.
Many women hold off on sleeping with men
because they lest being judged as sluts. It can
be quite powerful to tease women about acting
sexually forward or aggressive towards you.
Acting genuinely concerned, though, about a
woman's sexual promiscuity can transform a
sexually adventurous woman into a frigid prude.
Most men I know who are unbelievable at quickly
getting women into bed have a knack for making
women feel comfortable expressing their
sexual habits and promiscuity (Note: This is,
of course, in the context of women you've just
met. You probably wouldn't want to encourage
this kind of promiscuity in your wife or
girlfriend).
Myth # 5: If You Aren't Currently
Good With Women You Probably
Aren't Going To Get Any Better.
Simply not true. I don't believe this myth for a
second. Over the years I have known many hopeless
sad-sack losers who no one believed in, transform
themselves into some of the most skilled
ladies men I have ever seen. In many cases these
guys ended up more skilled with women than natural
ladies men. This is probably because they had a
burning desire to get a foothold on this area of
their life.
This self sabotaging myth is disseminated
primarily by shrinks, guys who've had little
success with women, and ladies men.
I know a few guys who were told by their
psychiatrists that if they weren't good with
women, they probably weren't going to get
any better. And that they'd be better off
compromising by settling for a less than
desirable woman. One of these guys stopped
seeing his therapist and is now doing fantastic
with women. He gets a gold star for firing the
bastard.
Some guys down on their success with women will
try to feed you all sorts of negative rhetoric,
such as: “if you are not already successful with
women, you are not going to get any better.”
These guys will infect your mind. Avoid them
like the plague.
Some ladies men will try to mystify their
abilities by making you think that they are
blessed with some unattainable God-given
talent. Often times this is an attempt to
exalt their abilities at the expense of
your self-esteem. Don't take that crap.
You're better than that.
All of the disseminators of this myth are
thought viruses that will infect your mind,
sabotaging your self-esteem and future
opportunities with women. If you currently
have any of these people in your life,
KICK 'EM TO THE CURB.
It is an understatement to say that I believe
in you; I am convinced that you can succeed with
women. I have met and taught men of all walks of
life who have successfully turned their lives
around with women. No matter what your current
level of success with women is, I know you
strive to get to a higher level. Otherwise,
you wouldn't be reading this. I know you are
capable of achieving your goals with women and
I am going to help you get there. And if you
haven't already picked up a copy of my book,
do so. It's not written for losers looking to
cope with their unfortunate situation. It's
written for winners: People who are ready to
take the bull by the horns and start achieving
and living the success they dream about. At the
end of the day, $39.95 is a small price to pay
to be fully equipped with the tools you need to
start experiencing massive success with women.
So if you haven't already picked up my book, do
so now.
RealWorldSeduction
'Till next time,
Swinggcat
P.S.-If you have a success story you would like
to share, or a question you would like to ask,
or a comment you would like to make, please
email me at:
swinggcat@realworldseduction.com
Include the fist initial of your first and
last name. And include the country,
state/province, and city you live in.
This whole "learning" thing goes both ways,
you know! Oh, and be sure not to just hit
"reply" to this email, because I won't get
it!
Thanks!
______________________________________________
Copyright 2004 Superior Living Inc. All rights
reserved. Swinggcat and RealWorldSeduction are
trademarks of Superior Living Inc.
DatingTipsForMen publishes top dating, attraction, and seduction articles.
Myth #1: Being an Attractive Man Is
Always About Appealing To What
Women Say They Want
If you are one of those vehement supporters of
this myth, you should get a noose and hang
yourself - you'll be better off. Trying to get
a woman to like you by attempting to live up to
her ideal preferences in a man is a one way
ticket to transforming your ego into a
proverbial punching bag. Women prefer tall,
dark, handsome, rich men, packing dogs with
garden hose length and telephone pole girth.
Oh, furthermore, if you don't want to fall
short of their expectations you better be
lumbered with chiseled abs and a copious
bubble butt. If your rump isn't up to par,
you could always get silicon butt cheek
implants. But forewarning: Your
black-and-blue rear will be so sore that
you won't be able to sit down for a month.
As those of you know who have been reading my
newsletters and have read my book: Attraction
is not what a woman says she wants. If
attraction was what women say they prefer, then
I wouldn't know short, bald, fat, and broke
guys experiencing massive success with women.
But I do.
Attraction, contrary to this, is about you
creating the emotion inside women of wanting,
chasing, and reaching for more of you. Although
my short, bald, fat and broke Casanova buddies
don't fill the quota of the “ideal man,” they
do manage to generate the emotion inside women
of wanting, chasing, and reaching for more of
them. And this, my friend, is why they are
massively successful with women. The art of
creating this emotion in women is what I
call PRIZING. My book is chockfull of
different techniques for PRIZING women, some
of which are Open Loops, Tension Loops,
Challenging & Qualifying, and Meta-Frames.
One of the best things you can do to set the
groundwork for PRIZING women is to make them
strive to fill the quota of your ideal female.
So, when you're out with a woman, don't behave
like a spineless little worm, asking her
questions such as: “How am I doing with you?”
Instead, when she behaves in ways that go
against your standards and expectations of
women, let her know that she is losing points
with you - and losing points quickly!
Myth #2: If A Woman Is Of Higher
Value Than You She Is Not Allowed
To Be Attracted To You.
This one actually rings some truth. Let me
explain. If you see a woman and immediately,
in your mind, consecrate her as a Goddess
amongst Goddesses you must bow down to, you
are figuratively butt ramming yourself,
because you are setting the frame that she is
the Prize, not you. As those of you who have
read my book know, women do not feel
attraction for men who are not the PRIZE.
Viewing a woman you have just met as a Goddess
amongst Goddesses is fine, as long as you
perceive yourself as a God amongst Gods and
abstain from bowing down to her.
What is the lesson to be learned? Objective
value doesn't exist, only perceived value
does. Although women are usually not
attracted to men of lesser value than
themselves, you can do a lot to increase your
value. Whenever interacting with a woman, a
Meta-Frame - or underlying meaning - is
established, determining your value in
relation to hers. When you allow a woman's
perceived value to intimidate you, or make
you feel of lesser value than her, you are
unknowingly establishing the Meta-Frame that
she is the PRIZE, not you. So the key is to
stop fretting about some aspect of her being
of higher value than some aspect of you,
plundering you of your self-esteem. When
interacting with a woman, if you ever feel
ugly to her beauty or pedestrian to her
sophistication or like a retarded little
spaz to her sense of cool...or whatever,
change your focus of attention. See the
bigger picture. Realize that when first
meeting a woman you paint a picture in
your mind of who you think she is, based
on a few aspects you observe about her.
This picture usually ends up being way off
base. Learn to take control of your
perceptions: If you feel intimidated by her
beauty, imagine what she looks like in the
morning without her makeup; if her
sophistication renders you tongue-tied,
consider that she might be putting on an
act to impress you; if you start worrying
about how much older you are than her,
imagine how much worse she's going to
look when she's your age...and so on.
Myth # 3: If You Want To Attract
Women You Have To Act Like You
Enjoy And Are Interested In The
Things That They Enjoy
This pathetic little myth is really a
product of the collective dating advice for
men self-help books for sale at a bookstore
near you, touting men to develop the
personality of an obedient lapdog.
This myth couldn't be further from the
truth. Women are attracted to men, not
little puppy dogs.
Hypothetically speaking, let's say you are
dating a girl who has a thing for musical
kitsch: think Britney Spears or Christina
Aguilera. You, however, despise this kind
of music and would prefer the sound of
nails on a chalkboard to this crap. What
should you do: Prentend Britney's great
or tell her what you really think?
Although counterintuitive, pretending to
like something you don't genuinely
like is unattractive to women.
Likewise, having a willingness to express
what you hate can redound in women finding
you very attractive.
Exceptions, of course, do exist. For
example, specific activities have been
deemed by our culture as having a high
social value. You might, for example,
prefer reading comic books over
participating in these activities. There
could be consequences, however, to not
participating in them. In one of my
upcoming products, I touch on these
activities. I will probably publish a
newsletter in the near future addressing
these activities.
Furthermore, I am not suggesting that you
jettison all of a woman's interests and
tastes that you do not share. Doing this
will turn you into a creepy control freak
and you will probably end up becoming a very
unhappy, boring person. Only being around
people with the same interests and tastes as
you, will stifle your growth as a human
being - diversity is good. I personally love
to be around people who introduce me to
things I don't know a lot about. This is how
I develop new interests and grow as a human
being.
My gripe is with men faking an interest in
something as a means to get someone to like
them. Doing this is really handing your balls
over on a platter to the other person. Don't
do this. Don't give away your power. It is
one of the most unattractive qualities you
can possess.
Myth # 4: Women Don't Like Sex
And Will Only Sleep With You
After You Go Through Great
Lengths Courting Them.
This one really makes my skin crawl. My life
experience keeps reaffirming that beyond the
shadow of a doubt this myth doesn't even
contain a smattering of truth. Women love sex
and can be as aggressive as men when it come to
obtaining it.
If you doubt this, make some female friends who
are not interested in you. That way they won't
be concerned with how you judge them,
allowing them to shed their ladylike pretenses
and talk candidly about their sexuality.
Warning: This lurid peek into the female sexual
psyche might frighten you - it isn't for the
faint of heart. What you will find is that
women are as sexual as men…if not more. Also,
I wouldn't be surprised if these women told you
about how much fun quickies, one-night-stands,
and meaningless sex can be.
Many women hold off on sleeping with men
because they lest being judged as sluts. It can
be quite powerful to tease women about acting
sexually forward or aggressive towards you.
Acting genuinely concerned, though, about a
woman's sexual promiscuity can transform a
sexually adventurous woman into a frigid prude.
Most men I know who are unbelievable at quickly
getting women into bed have a knack for making
women feel comfortable expressing their
sexual habits and promiscuity (Note: This is,
of course, in the context of women you've just
met. You probably wouldn't want to encourage
this kind of promiscuity in your wife or
girlfriend).
Myth # 5: If You Aren't Currently
Good With Women You Probably
Aren't Going To Get Any Better.
Simply not true. I don't believe this myth for a
second. Over the years I have known many hopeless
sad-sack losers who no one believed in, transform
themselves into some of the most skilled
ladies men I have ever seen. In many cases these
guys ended up more skilled with women than natural
ladies men. This is probably because they had a
burning desire to get a foothold on this area of
their life.
This self sabotaging myth is disseminated
primarily by shrinks, guys who've had little
success with women, and ladies men.
I know a few guys who were told by their
psychiatrists that if they weren't good with
women, they probably weren't going to get
any better. And that they'd be better off
compromising by settling for a less than
desirable woman. One of these guys stopped
seeing his therapist and is now doing fantastic
with women. He gets a gold star for firing the
bastard.
Some guys down on their success with women will
try to feed you all sorts of negative rhetoric,
such as: “if you are not already successful with
women, you are not going to get any better.”
These guys will infect your mind. Avoid them
like the plague.
Some ladies men will try to mystify their
abilities by making you think that they are
blessed with some unattainable God-given
talent. Often times this is an attempt to
exalt their abilities at the expense of
your self-esteem. Don't take that crap.
You're better than that.
All of the disseminators of this myth are
thought viruses that will infect your mind,
sabotaging your self-esteem and future
opportunities with women. If you currently
have any of these people in your life,
KICK 'EM TO THE CURB.
It is an understatement to say that I believe
in you; I am convinced that you can succeed with
women. I have met and taught men of all walks of
life who have successfully turned their lives
around with women. No matter what your current
level of success with women is, I know you
strive to get to a higher level. Otherwise,
you wouldn't be reading this. I know you are
capable of achieving your goals with women and
I am going to help you get there. And if you
haven't already picked up a copy of my book,
do so. It's not written for losers looking to
cope with their unfortunate situation. It's
written for winners: People who are ready to
take the bull by the horns and start achieving
and living the success they dream about. At the
end of the day, $39.95 is a small price to pay
to be fully equipped with the tools you need to
start experiencing massive success with women.
So if you haven't already picked up my book, do
so now.
RealWorldSeduction
'Till next time,
Swinggcat
P.S.-If you have a success story you would like
to share, or a question you would like to ask,
or a comment you would like to make, please
email me at:
swinggcat@realworldseduction.com
Include the fist initial of your first and
last name. And include the country,
state/province, and city you live in.
This whole "learning" thing goes both ways,
you know! Oh, and be sure not to just hit
"reply" to this email, because I won't get
it!
Thanks!
______________________________________________
Copyright 2004 Superior Living Inc. All rights
reserved. Swinggcat and RealWorldSeduction are
trademarks of Superior Living Inc.
DatingTipsForMen publishes top dating, attraction, and seduction articles.
Having Women In Your Life…
By Swinggcat – author of Real World Seduction
Hey Guys,
Today I’m going to share with you something that I talk about in my book. If you aren’t currently doing what I am about to tell you, DOING IT could increase your success with women a hundred and fifty percent…if not more.
Whether you are looking for one-night-stands, threesomes, an awesome girlfriend…or whatever, implementing what you’re about to learn will redound in a giant step towards your goal.
Whether you consider yourself to be a slithering lounge lizard, a prodigious Casanova, a stand up guy, or a dilapidated ejaculate, if you are not yet doing what I am about to tell you, doing it will turbo charge your current success with women.
NOT DOING what I’m about to tell you is one of the biggest roadblocks preventing men from ATTRACTING women.
What you are about to learn is probably nothing you haven’t already heard. It, however, is one of the most neglected skills – especially by guys learning how to ATTRACT and be more successful with women.
Before I tell you what this secret is, I am going to share a little story with you. When I first became serious about mastering, what I used to perceive as, the ego bruising “social minefields,” in order to succeed with the women I desired, I befriended many guys trying, as well, to get this area of their life out of the way.
Some of these guys considered themselves to be spineless little worms. Others thought of themselves as full blown Casanovas. And a few felt like Average Joes. Some were amazing at quickly getting women into bed; while a few, alas, couldn’t, even if their life depended on it, talk to a woman.
All of us became really close and formed a taskforce with one goal in mind: To become more successful with women. I made a lot of good friends, and witnessed a few of them do some amazing things, ranging from making out with women in bars to occasionally having sex with a woman they had just met.
Despite what looked to be great success, there was a dark, depressing cloud brooding over us: None of us had any female friends. Some of the group had female friends, but got rid of them, thinking that they would take away time from attracting women. A few had never had a female friend. When we went out we never were just hanging out. Our only goal was to generate attraction in women. We did not have a single morsel of interest interacting with women we felt weren’t ATTRACTED to us. When entering a bar, women could feel our hunter energy, a pack wolves waiting to attack. Even if one of us made out with a woman, the night would usually end with just us guys.
Are you starting to get what’s wrong with this picture?
Good.
In my book, Real World Seduction, I talk about the importance of making five female friends that fit the archetype of the sort of woman you strive to ATTRACT.
Before breaking down the reasons for making at least five female friends, I’m going to get crystal clear about what I mean by “making friends with women.”
If you’re someone who sits around with their female friends, giving each other hot pink manicures and pedicures, listening to their problems with men, you’re in big trouble. Being friends with women is not about you playing the big passive bottom in their “bitter at men” gang bang. The only exception to this is if you are gay. My point: Being friends with women is about treating them exactly how you treat your guy friends. Women know you are not their girlfriends. When you act like you are their girlfriend, they interpret it as an unconvincing pretense used to get into their pants.
To reiterate: Being friends with women is about acting the way you would around your guy friends.
Let’s discuss the reasons for making friends with women.
Reason # 1: You Will Be More Comfortable Around Women In General:
Men who don’t have female friends are usually nervous and uncomfortable around women, causing women to feel uncomfortable around them. When a woman picks this sort of man up by the proverbial scruff of his neck, and mercilessly tears him apart, like a cheaply wrought rag doll, he becomes nervous and uncomfortable in his own skin. This results in her becoming nervous and uncomfortable. In her book, this will take you straight to the top of the Creep-O-Meter.
Trying to make women feel comfortable around you when you are uncomfortable in your own skin is usually a losing battle – and often times leads to them feeling even more uncomfortable.
The best way I know to make women feel comfortable is to become comfortable in your own skin and around women. The quickest road I know to becoming comfortable in your own skin and around women is to make female friends.
Reason # 2: You Will No Longer Need An Endless Supply Of Pick Up Lines And Memorized Material To Be Successful With Women:
I know some guys who are amazing at approaching women and initially getting women attracted to them but as soon as they run out of rehearsed material, things take a floundering turn for the awkward as they buckle completely. One common scenario is that a guy will meet a woman and succeed in generating the emotion inside her of wanting, chasing, and reaching for more of him through using memorized material. She willingly gives him her number. When he calls she has jamais vu (jamais vu is the opposite of déjà vu: it is the illusion that you are encountering something you have already experienced for the first time). It is like she is talking to a total stranger and the emotion of her feeling attraction towards him is long gone. Since he doesn’t know what to do outside the realm of using memorized material, she treats him like a random telemarketer trying to solicit her, cutting the phone call abnormally short and hanging up. The problem is that this guy neither understands women nor knows how to act around them. One of the best ways for developing these skills is by being friends with women – especially the type you strive to succeed with. Once you have taken the time to implement the skills you learned from my book in the real world and have made a few female friends, you’ll start to notice something cool happening in your interactions with women: After talking to a woman for a few minutes you’ll know exactly how to generate attraction with her, without having to use rehearsed material. I’m not against using memorized material – in fact, I’m a fan of it. But if you can only interact with women using memorized material, you are in big trouble.
Reason # 3: Women Know When A Man Is Not Frequently Around Other Women:
Women are clairvoyant when comes to knowing whether or not a man is frequently around women. Women assume that if other females hang around you, then you must be a cool guy. They assume, likewise, that if no females hang around you, something might be wrong with you – bad thing! This is pretty much herd mentality – go figure!
One of the big problems with a lot of the material on how to attract women is that it only focuses on making you feel more confident about yourself. As, alas, you might know, you can do all the affirmations in the world, but if you don’t have the social skills to attract women, your out of luck.
Another blunder guys make when learning how to attract women is only memorizing material to say to women. Only memorizing material without understanding why you are doing it is a makeshift solution to attracting and succeeding with women. By just memorizing a few pick up lines, you’re cheating yourself out of really learning how to attract women. My book has hundreds of powerful things to say to women. But these are only examples to help you learn the skills needed for attracting women. My belief is that people learn from a combination of explanation and examples. If you ever purchase a product on attracting women that only gives you explanations but no examples or examples – think pick up lines – but no explanations, you are being cheated – big time!
My book takes you through hundreds of real world examples and painstakingly breaks down the structure and purpose of these examples. If you put forth the effort studying my book, you will never have to memorize another person’s pick up lines or material again. Because you will understand the underlying structure behind generating attraction with women, allowing you to come up with your own material and lines. So if you haven’t picked up my book, do today!
RealWorldSeduction
**********************************************
Swinggcat responds to your emails:
Comment:
Hi Swinggcat,
Just to say BIG "thank you" for the amazing stuff you write – your posts, your book, the ideas….I’m still using your challenging and qualifying stuff without any significant changes and it works like a CHARM.
I think that you invented the formula all we need. Your system is really something completely new – as you say it is “swinggcat”.
And now my request: If you supply us with MORE of this kind of REAL-LIFE examples/stories you will PUSH the things much, much further in the right direction. I think what the guys really need is more of REAL seduction examples and less theory. (Please don’t think that I’m an advocate of the Outer Game thus ignoring the Inner one).
If I try to explain the principles of the internal combustion engine by the laws of physics and chemistry it will take me a lot of time to
draw the picture…however if I show you a short movie how it works without much explanation …you will get the picture almost
instantly…
And this is how your stuff works with women - INSTANTLY. When I run your method on a woman she starts looking amazed and in disbelieve, looses control and composure…and after awhile has no choice but surrender…
It’s Very similar with the seduction process provided that you have some basic understanding…The guys need the connection between something real in their mind(your real-life stories) and the reality in which they operate and they want to shape.
I have collected almost everything. I'm very well acquainted with all the seduction theories, methods
systems...etc currently existing and have to admit that your system looks like mount Everest compared to the rest ..
I consider it like a new religion and keep in mind that thousands and thousands of guys out there are awaiting your new fantastic real-life stuff… so
please keep up the good work and God bless you, MAN…
- A From California
My Comments:
Wow! – I’m glad you are having success using the material from my book. I know what I teach works because it has worked for me amongst many others.
You were successful because you took the time to master the techniques in my book – and I applaud you for that. I think the success you are starting to taste is something that is attainable to many other guys, if they only took the time to master these techniques.
About Real World Seduction/Swinggcat Method being a Religion: Well, in no way do I consider what I teach a religion. I am just some guy who has a lot of experience with women. And, at least I feel, has figured some things out about them that others haven’t.
Then again – maybe if I turn it into a religion I can get a nice tax break!
Comment:
Maybe I'm being a bit premature here, since I have not had a chance to use your stuff yet (I just received it less than 24 hours ago and spent my nightshift at work reading the bulk of it), but your SH -T is SWEEET!!!
I was skeptical about ordering your eBook because I've ordered a few seduction manuals in the past (3 to 5 especially over the past 21/2 months) and I've gotten very minimal results.
Now don't get me wrong...some of the other manuals that I've ordered I think have some merit to them; They have their own terminology which is pretty much equivalent to your stages of Attraction. But, where I have failed in the past in getting these women over these past several months is, I think, at the attraction and close stage.
I have consistently had all the girls that I've set up a date – sorry, meeting with - flake on me (A few of them whom I’ve been acquainted with for a few months or so, and one which I thought was in the bag, as early as yesterday…Can you believe that mutherf – ckin’ SH -T!!!). A lot of the other manuals, in my opinion do not give great concrete examples or examples to work with.
My problem is with the Attraction stage. I can never get them to follow through on their commitment to meet up with me. If I could do that, then I think I could fumble my way through a successful close or non-successful close; but I need the experience of getting past that Attraction stage so I will eventually, no doubt in my mind, become successful at closing these women; My efforts are always frustrated coming out of the starting block.
Reading your examples of Prizing, with the Sub-Headings consisting of:
1. Open Loops
2. Pushing & Pulling
3. Revealing & Concealing
4. Undermining
And then following up with Qualifying & Challenging, is wicked to the point of Evil!!! I feel a sense of renewed hope in succeeding at the Attraction Stage (My personal weak point), and I can’t wait to try them out!
Whether It’s your system by itself, or using it in conjunction with other systems (which I aforementioned earlier, is meritorious in their own way), I am confident that I, and any other User will kick ASS!!!
Sorry for the long email. I felt inspired at this moment to write it, and anything less than what is presented would do you, the reader, and me any injustice if the full background story was presented.
Anyway, Thanks again, and I will keep you updated on my future successes.
- Ray from Canada
My Comments:
Thank you for the compliments. Now go out and start getting the success you deserve.
Question:
First off I just want to say I have been reading your book, and although I am not finished yet, the information in it so far has been awesome. Your book fills in the holes that others left out. Instead of giving vague references on what to do, you spell it all out in detail. I have come to a point where I am no longer taking things personally; but now that I can get a number fairly easily I have come to another stumbling block. I find that even though I may ask for an email the woman will say, "no, here take my number instead", so now I'm thinking cool. But, when I call these women they don't return phone calls or act cold and standoffish, the opposite of how they were in person. Am I missing something? I cannot see myself as being the PRIZE if the woman already has the power because I'm calling her, and she can act rude, ignore, or not even return calls (the woman has already established the frame/meta-frame). In a way she forces a man to chase her. I know I have read books that say persistence, but when is enough enough. Is there another way?
I think this is a very important question that most men have trouble with.
Thanks in advance for your help.
G in Texas
My Comments:
Your doing awesome. I really, though, need more info to answer your question.
How long are you waiting to call these women? As a general rule DON’T wait too long to call her. Calling too soon can make you look needy, but waiting too long is usually worse. If, for example, you met and generated attraction with a woman five days ago, she has probably already interacted with several guys who she also was attracted to since that day. My point: Five days is an eternity in her world in which you have probably been long forgotten, my man. Since I have been doing this stuff for awhile, and I can leave quite an impression on women, I call when I feel like it. Remember: agonizing over whether or not a woman sees you as the PRIZE, is a form you chasing her – of her being the PRIZE in the interaction. Not caring what a woman thinks of you can be very powerful!
Also, as I said earlier in this newsletter, women sometimes have jamais vu. Even if when first meeting them you manage to generate the emotion in them of wanting, chasing, and reaching for more of you, by the time you talk to them on the phone this emotion might be long gone and forgotten. So you have to reignite this emotion in them. I have ways of doing this. Maybe I’ll do a whole newsletter on countering jamais vu.
The other possibility is that there is plenty of attraction there, but that women don’t feel comfortable enough to take that call to action with you. There are a lot of guys who can generate attraction with women but fail to create the comfort, allowing her take action.
A caveat: Making a woman comfortable is less about using particular lines or strategies and more about feeling comfortable in your own skin and with women, believing that you deserve beautiful women, taking a strong lead, and assuming that she wants to do what you want her to – be it having sex with you, having a threesome with you, going on a date with you…or whatever. In fact, most of the available lines and strategies used to make women feel comfortable taking action either end up making women feel more uncomfortable or kill the attraction all together if you have not mastered the aforementioned things. So if you want to be more than the cheesy guy in the bar who has a couple good memorized lines and become the sort of man women not only feel attraction towards but want to be around, pick up my book today.
RealWorldSeduction
'Till next time,
Swinggcat
P.S. – I recently started an affiliate program where I am giving high commissions on sales generated by my affiliates. Also, if you are approved as an affiliate, you get free products. So, if you have been enjoying my book and newsletters, and you run a website where you think your visitors would be interested in my book, sign up for my affiliate program.
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P.S.S.-If you have a success story you would like to
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swinggcat@realworldseduction.com
Include the fist initial of your first and last
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This whole "learning" thing goes both ways, you
know! Oh, and be sure not to just hit "reply" to
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Thanks!
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Hey Guys,
Today I’m going to share with you something that I talk about in my book. If you aren’t currently doing what I am about to tell you, DOING IT could increase your success with women a hundred and fifty percent…if not more.
Whether you are looking for one-night-stands, threesomes, an awesome girlfriend…or whatever, implementing what you’re about to learn will redound in a giant step towards your goal.
Whether you consider yourself to be a slithering lounge lizard, a prodigious Casanova, a stand up guy, or a dilapidated ejaculate, if you are not yet doing what I am about to tell you, doing it will turbo charge your current success with women.
NOT DOING what I’m about to tell you is one of the biggest roadblocks preventing men from ATTRACTING women.
What you are about to learn is probably nothing you haven’t already heard. It, however, is one of the most neglected skills – especially by guys learning how to ATTRACT and be more successful with women.
Before I tell you what this secret is, I am going to share a little story with you. When I first became serious about mastering, what I used to perceive as, the ego bruising “social minefields,” in order to succeed with the women I desired, I befriended many guys trying, as well, to get this area of their life out of the way.
Some of these guys considered themselves to be spineless little worms. Others thought of themselves as full blown Casanovas. And a few felt like Average Joes. Some were amazing at quickly getting women into bed; while a few, alas, couldn’t, even if their life depended on it, talk to a woman.
All of us became really close and formed a taskforce with one goal in mind: To become more successful with women. I made a lot of good friends, and witnessed a few of them do some amazing things, ranging from making out with women in bars to occasionally having sex with a woman they had just met.
Despite what looked to be great success, there was a dark, depressing cloud brooding over us: None of us had any female friends. Some of the group had female friends, but got rid of them, thinking that they would take away time from attracting women. A few had never had a female friend. When we went out we never were just hanging out. Our only goal was to generate attraction in women. We did not have a single morsel of interest interacting with women we felt weren’t ATTRACTED to us. When entering a bar, women could feel our hunter energy, a pack wolves waiting to attack. Even if one of us made out with a woman, the night would usually end with just us guys.
Are you starting to get what’s wrong with this picture?
Good.
In my book, Real World Seduction, I talk about the importance of making five female friends that fit the archetype of the sort of woman you strive to ATTRACT.
Before breaking down the reasons for making at least five female friends, I’m going to get crystal clear about what I mean by “making friends with women.”
If you’re someone who sits around with their female friends, giving each other hot pink manicures and pedicures, listening to their problems with men, you’re in big trouble. Being friends with women is not about you playing the big passive bottom in their “bitter at men” gang bang. The only exception to this is if you are gay. My point: Being friends with women is about treating them exactly how you treat your guy friends. Women know you are not their girlfriends. When you act like you are their girlfriend, they interpret it as an unconvincing pretense used to get into their pants.
To reiterate: Being friends with women is about acting the way you would around your guy friends.
Let’s discuss the reasons for making friends with women.
Reason # 1: You Will Be More Comfortable Around Women In General:
Men who don’t have female friends are usually nervous and uncomfortable around women, causing women to feel uncomfortable around them. When a woman picks this sort of man up by the proverbial scruff of his neck, and mercilessly tears him apart, like a cheaply wrought rag doll, he becomes nervous and uncomfortable in his own skin. This results in her becoming nervous and uncomfortable. In her book, this will take you straight to the top of the Creep-O-Meter.
Trying to make women feel comfortable around you when you are uncomfortable in your own skin is usually a losing battle – and often times leads to them feeling even more uncomfortable.
The best way I know to make women feel comfortable is to become comfortable in your own skin and around women. The quickest road I know to becoming comfortable in your own skin and around women is to make female friends.
Reason # 2: You Will No Longer Need An Endless Supply Of Pick Up Lines And Memorized Material To Be Successful With Women:
I know some guys who are amazing at approaching women and initially getting women attracted to them but as soon as they run out of rehearsed material, things take a floundering turn for the awkward as they buckle completely. One common scenario is that a guy will meet a woman and succeed in generating the emotion inside her of wanting, chasing, and reaching for more of him through using memorized material. She willingly gives him her number. When he calls she has jamais vu (jamais vu is the opposite of déjà vu: it is the illusion that you are encountering something you have already experienced for the first time). It is like she is talking to a total stranger and the emotion of her feeling attraction towards him is long gone. Since he doesn’t know what to do outside the realm of using memorized material, she treats him like a random telemarketer trying to solicit her, cutting the phone call abnormally short and hanging up. The problem is that this guy neither understands women nor knows how to act around them. One of the best ways for developing these skills is by being friends with women – especially the type you strive to succeed with. Once you have taken the time to implement the skills you learned from my book in the real world and have made a few female friends, you’ll start to notice something cool happening in your interactions with women: After talking to a woman for a few minutes you’ll know exactly how to generate attraction with her, without having to use rehearsed material. I’m not against using memorized material – in fact, I’m a fan of it. But if you can only interact with women using memorized material, you are in big trouble.
Reason # 3: Women Know When A Man Is Not Frequently Around Other Women:
Women are clairvoyant when comes to knowing whether or not a man is frequently around women. Women assume that if other females hang around you, then you must be a cool guy. They assume, likewise, that if no females hang around you, something might be wrong with you – bad thing! This is pretty much herd mentality – go figure!
One of the big problems with a lot of the material on how to attract women is that it only focuses on making you feel more confident about yourself. As, alas, you might know, you can do all the affirmations in the world, but if you don’t have the social skills to attract women, your out of luck.
Another blunder guys make when learning how to attract women is only memorizing material to say to women. Only memorizing material without understanding why you are doing it is a makeshift solution to attracting and succeeding with women. By just memorizing a few pick up lines, you’re cheating yourself out of really learning how to attract women. My book has hundreds of powerful things to say to women. But these are only examples to help you learn the skills needed for attracting women. My belief is that people learn from a combination of explanation and examples. If you ever purchase a product on attracting women that only gives you explanations but no examples or examples – think pick up lines – but no explanations, you are being cheated – big time!
My book takes you through hundreds of real world examples and painstakingly breaks down the structure and purpose of these examples. If you put forth the effort studying my book, you will never have to memorize another person’s pick up lines or material again. Because you will understand the underlying structure behind generating attraction with women, allowing you to come up with your own material and lines. So if you haven’t picked up my book, do today!
RealWorldSeduction
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Swinggcat responds to your emails:
Comment:
Hi Swinggcat,
Just to say BIG "thank you" for the amazing stuff you write – your posts, your book, the ideas….I’m still using your challenging and qualifying stuff without any significant changes and it works like a CHARM.
I think that you invented the formula all we need. Your system is really something completely new – as you say it is “swinggcat”.
And now my request: If you supply us with MORE of this kind of REAL-LIFE examples/stories you will PUSH the things much, much further in the right direction. I think what the guys really need is more of REAL seduction examples and less theory. (Please don’t think that I’m an advocate of the Outer Game thus ignoring the Inner one).
If I try to explain the principles of the internal combustion engine by the laws of physics and chemistry it will take me a lot of time to
draw the picture…however if I show you a short movie how it works without much explanation …you will get the picture almost
instantly…
And this is how your stuff works with women - INSTANTLY. When I run your method on a woman she starts looking amazed and in disbelieve, looses control and composure…and after awhile has no choice but surrender…
It’s Very similar with the seduction process provided that you have some basic understanding…The guys need the connection between something real in their mind(your real-life stories) and the reality in which they operate and they want to shape.
I have collected almost everything. I'm very well acquainted with all the seduction theories, methods
systems...etc currently existing and have to admit that your system looks like mount Everest compared to the rest ..
I consider it like a new religion and keep in mind that thousands and thousands of guys out there are awaiting your new fantastic real-life stuff… so
please keep up the good work and God bless you, MAN…
- A From California
My Comments:
Wow! – I’m glad you are having success using the material from my book. I know what I teach works because it has worked for me amongst many others.
You were successful because you took the time to master the techniques in my book – and I applaud you for that. I think the success you are starting to taste is something that is attainable to many other guys, if they only took the time to master these techniques.
About Real World Seduction/Swinggcat Method being a Religion: Well, in no way do I consider what I teach a religion. I am just some guy who has a lot of experience with women. And, at least I feel, has figured some things out about them that others haven’t.
Then again – maybe if I turn it into a religion I can get a nice tax break!
Comment:
Maybe I'm being a bit premature here, since I have not had a chance to use your stuff yet (I just received it less than 24 hours ago and spent my nightshift at work reading the bulk of it), but your SH -T is SWEEET!!!
I was skeptical about ordering your eBook because I've ordered a few seduction manuals in the past (3 to 5 especially over the past 21/2 months) and I've gotten very minimal results.
Now don't get me wrong...some of the other manuals that I've ordered I think have some merit to them; They have their own terminology which is pretty much equivalent to your stages of Attraction. But, where I have failed in the past in getting these women over these past several months is, I think, at the attraction and close stage.
I have consistently had all the girls that I've set up a date – sorry, meeting with - flake on me (A few of them whom I’ve been acquainted with for a few months or so, and one which I thought was in the bag, as early as yesterday…Can you believe that mutherf – ckin’ SH -T!!!). A lot of the other manuals, in my opinion do not give great concrete examples or examples to work with.
My problem is with the Attraction stage. I can never get them to follow through on their commitment to meet up with me. If I could do that, then I think I could fumble my way through a successful close or non-successful close; but I need the experience of getting past that Attraction stage so I will eventually, no doubt in my mind, become successful at closing these women; My efforts are always frustrated coming out of the starting block.
Reading your examples of Prizing, with the Sub-Headings consisting of:
1. Open Loops
2. Pushing & Pulling
3. Revealing & Concealing
4. Undermining
And then following up with Qualifying & Challenging, is wicked to the point of Evil!!! I feel a sense of renewed hope in succeeding at the Attraction Stage (My personal weak point), and I can’t wait to try them out!
Whether It’s your system by itself, or using it in conjunction with other systems (which I aforementioned earlier, is meritorious in their own way), I am confident that I, and any other User will kick ASS!!!
Sorry for the long email. I felt inspired at this moment to write it, and anything less than what is presented would do you, the reader, and me any injustice if the full background story was presented.
Anyway, Thanks again, and I will keep you updated on my future successes.
- Ray from Canada
My Comments:
Thank you for the compliments. Now go out and start getting the success you deserve.
Question:
First off I just want to say I have been reading your book, and although I am not finished yet, the information in it so far has been awesome. Your book fills in the holes that others left out. Instead of giving vague references on what to do, you spell it all out in detail. I have come to a point where I am no longer taking things personally; but now that I can get a number fairly easily I have come to another stumbling block. I find that even though I may ask for an email the woman will say, "no, here take my number instead", so now I'm thinking cool. But, when I call these women they don't return phone calls or act cold and standoffish, the opposite of how they were in person. Am I missing something? I cannot see myself as being the PRIZE if the woman already has the power because I'm calling her, and she can act rude, ignore, or not even return calls (the woman has already established the frame/meta-frame). In a way she forces a man to chase her. I know I have read books that say persistence, but when is enough enough. Is there another way?
I think this is a very important question that most men have trouble with.
Thanks in advance for your help.
G in Texas
My Comments:
Your doing awesome. I really, though, need more info to answer your question.
How long are you waiting to call these women? As a general rule DON’T wait too long to call her. Calling too soon can make you look needy, but waiting too long is usually worse. If, for example, you met and generated attraction with a woman five days ago, she has probably already interacted with several guys who she also was attracted to since that day. My point: Five days is an eternity in her world in which you have probably been long forgotten, my man. Since I have been doing this stuff for awhile, and I can leave quite an impression on women, I call when I feel like it. Remember: agonizing over whether or not a woman sees you as the PRIZE, is a form you chasing her – of her being the PRIZE in the interaction. Not caring what a woman thinks of you can be very powerful!
Also, as I said earlier in this newsletter, women sometimes have jamais vu. Even if when first meeting them you manage to generate the emotion in them of wanting, chasing, and reaching for more of you, by the time you talk to them on the phone this emotion might be long gone and forgotten. So you have to reignite this emotion in them. I have ways of doing this. Maybe I’ll do a whole newsletter on countering jamais vu.
The other possibility is that there is plenty of attraction there, but that women don’t feel comfortable enough to take that call to action with you. There are a lot of guys who can generate attraction with women but fail to create the comfort, allowing her take action.
A caveat: Making a woman comfortable is less about using particular lines or strategies and more about feeling comfortable in your own skin and with women, believing that you deserve beautiful women, taking a strong lead, and assuming that she wants to do what you want her to – be it having sex with you, having a threesome with you, going on a date with you…or whatever. In fact, most of the available lines and strategies used to make women feel comfortable taking action either end up making women feel more uncomfortable or kill the attraction all together if you have not mastered the aforementioned things. So if you want to be more than the cheesy guy in the bar who has a couple good memorized lines and become the sort of man women not only feel attraction towards but want to be around, pick up my book today.
RealWorldSeduction
'Till next time,
Swinggcat
P.S. – I recently started an affiliate program where I am giving high commissions on sales generated by my affiliates. Also, if you are approved as an affiliate, you get free products. So, if you have been enjoying my book and newsletters, and you run a website where you think your visitors would be interested in my book, sign up for my affiliate program.
http://realworldseduction.directtrack.com/
P.S.S.-If you have a success story you would like to
share, or a question you would like to ask, or a
comment you would like to make, please email me at:
swinggcat@realworldseduction.com
Include the fist initial of your first and last
name. And include the country, state/province,
and city you live in.
This whole "learning" thing goes both ways, you
know! Oh, and be sure not to just hit "reply" to
this email, because I won't get it!
Thanks!
______________________________________________
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Swinggcat and RealWorldSeduction are trademarks of
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Frames, Games, and Prizability…
By Swinggcat- author of Real World Seduction
Hey Guys,
A while back someone emailed me a great success story. I saved it on my computer and forgot about it. Last week I was going through my computer and found it. I thought, “Wow! - this is a really great story,” and was planning on using it in my last newsletter. But, then, as I was reading through it, I thought to myself, “there is so much good stuff going on here, I could do a whole newsletter on it.” And that’s exactly what I’m doing. Enjoy!
“Hey Swinggcat! There once was a time when I would walk into a bar, look at all the beautiful women having fun with guys who were NOT me, and get depressed. So I’d start drinking, and that would only make me more depressed. Eventually I’d go home alone, hating the world, hating women, and most of all, hating myself for not even TRYING to have fun.
Bars and clubs can be an intimidating environment. Until recently, it wasn’t in my reality to believe that I could actually make out with a girl in either location. Sure, I’d seen guys do it before, but to think that *I* could was just beyond any logical reasoning my mind could grasp.
But in reading through Swinggcat’s book, there was a chapter that really stuck out at me. That was the chapter on FRAMES. As Swinggcat defines it, a frame determines the underlying meaning of behaviors and actions.
I’ve found this is a *key* concept in understanding any interaction with women.
When you enter a situation you may feel uncomfortable with, the natural inclination is to be overwhelmed by the FRAME your environment presents. If you allow this to happen, you effectively give up any control over your behaviors and actions. This is the worst possible thing you can do if you are hoping to meet the girl of your dreams. Controlling your FRAME, and setting the right FRAME, as opposed to adopting the FRAMES presented to you, is the most powerful tool there is in getting a woman.
Allow me to demonstrate what I mean.
I was recently in a very trendy club in Los Angeles. It was the kind with some low level celebrities, some incredibly beautiful women, some incredibly rich men, sexy go-go dancers swinging around on poles, trendy techno music, and tastefully pornographic movies projected on the walls. In short: IT WAS THE MOST INTIMIDATING ENVIRONMENT KNOWN TO MAN!
So there I am, a guy who’s about 50 lbs. overweight, who’s bald, and who makes $30 Grand a year, hob-knobbing with models and porno stars. And wouldn’t you know it, the same feeling I got when I went to a bar in the past began to creep up on me. But because I was able to understand the concept of controlling my FRAME, I was able to do something amazing.
I set the frame that I’m having a good time, that all the girls in the club liked me, and that I was going to have fun with them. Before long, I found myself in a conversation with a beautiful girl who is a model. In fact, she told me she’s going to be on the next season of “America’s Next Top Model.” Because I approached her with a strong frame of having fun and that I was the PRIZE, she was very responsive to me. She eventually got dragged away by some friends (as is apt to happen in clubs). But later on, I saw her talking to a group of guys who were obviously trying to hit on her.
But because my frame was so strong, I walked up to the group, took her by the hand, and literally LEAD her onto the dance floor, away from all the moes she was talking to, who watched in stunned silence and a poor, bald, fat guy grinded away with this amazing girl in front of them. And not only that – SHE WAS INTO IT!
So there I am, body pressed up against this girl, having the best time in the world, and I think to myself “I should make out with her!”
So I did. I grabbed her and planted one right on her lips. And not only did she react well, but she reciprocated! Before long, our tongues were in a fencing match with each other, and I was the envy of about 78% of the club. It was a reality shattering experience for me, because until that point, the only place I’d ever made out with a girl was either in my car or in the bedroom after about 3 or 4 dates.
So what was different? The answer: My Frame! I set the frame where I was the PRIZE, where she was trying to win ME over, and where she wants me so bad that she WANTED to make-out with me. And because I set the strong frame, the model I was with WENT ALONG WITH IT! Now, I can now go into a club without that sinking feeling of depression dragging me down, because I know it is possible to not only have fun, but to meet any girl I want and make-out with her! You just gotta have the right frame.
Thanks Swinggcat!”
- M from Pasadena
My response:
Damn! – talk about a geek to sheik story. This guy went from “classified gimp” to “certified pimp.” What was is it that allowed him to do this? The sole enabling factor was this: He understood the power of ESTABLISHING himself as the PRIZE when interacting with women. In my book I call this PRIZABILITY.
As those of you who have been following my newsletters and have read my book know: ATTRACTION is not what a woman prefers. ATTRACTION is creating the emotion inside a woman of wanting, reaching for more of you. The art of creating this emotion inside women is what call PRIZING.
You cannot, however, create the emotion in a woman of her wanting and reaching for more of you if she does not perceive you as being the PRIZE. Put in other words, before you can ATTRACT her, you need to set the groundwork that you are the PRIZE. You can’t make a woman want more of you if she does not view you as having any perceived value.
Even having good looks and lots of money, in and of themselves, doesn’t necessarily suffice in establishing that you are the PRIZE with women.
A more efficient way of ESTABLISHING yourself as the PRIZE is through developing specific social skills. Learning to, for example, tell stories, cold read, be intriguing, develop your sense of humor…and so on. I do all of these things, and, in fact, I teach them in my book.
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The most powerful way, however, to establish PRIZABILITY is to ALWAYS define the underlying meaning of your interactions with women as you being the one who is the PRIZE. In my book I call this the META-FRAME.
In fact, all of the other methods for establishing PRIZABILITY- such as, telling stories, cold reading, being intriguing, saying something funny…and so on – only work in conjunction with you defining the META-FRAME as you being the PRIZE.
If you are doing a bunch of things to try to establish your PRIZABILITY with a woman – such as, story telling and acting funny – but you are not defining the underlying meaning of your interaction with her as you being the one who is the PRIZE, you will, unknowingly, establish negative PRIZABILITY.
Put in other words, doing or saying things to increase your PRIZABILTY within the context – or META-FRAME - of you not being the PRIZE will inevitably make you look needy, pathetic, and desperate.
Before learning anything else about dating or ATTRACTING women, you need to know how to ESTABLISH the META-FRAME that you are the PRIZE in the interaction. Even if you have all of the social skills in the world, without knowing how to set the META-FRAME your skills are worthless when comes to ATTRACTING women. If you do not yet have a handle on this, you need to read my book:
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When you are fat, bald, and broke, like M from Pasadena, a woman’s default assumption is probably going to be that you are not the PRIZE. To make matters worse, your default assumption about yourself might be that you aren’t the PRIZE.
As M from Pasadena tells us: “When you enter a situation you may feel uncomfortable with, the natural inclination is to be overwhelmed by the FRAME your environment presents. If you allow this to happen, you effectively give up any control over your behaviors and actions. This is the worst possible thing you can do if you are hoping to meet the girl of your dreams. Controlling your FRAME, and setting the right FRAME, as opposed to adopting the FRAMES presented to you, is the most powerful tool there is in getting a woman.”
M refuses to allow society, his environment, and the people he is around to dictate his FRAME and META-FRAME.
Just doing this can establish PRIZABILITY because it conveys to women that you are in control of your power, have a strong sense of self, and have an unswayable REALITY. These are all qualities women find PRIZABLE in men.
M continues: “I set the frame where I was the PRIZE, where she was trying to win ME over, and where she wants me so bad that she WANTED to make-out with me. And because I set the strong frame, the model I was with WENT ALONG WITH IT! Now, I can now go into a club without that sinking feeling of depression dragging me down, because I know it is possible to not only have fun, but to meet any girl I want and make-out with her! You just gotta have the right frame.”
Let’s remember, he didn’t play tonsil hockey with just any girl, he did it with a woman who is going to be on the next season of “America’s Next Top Model.” And he was able to do this in spite of being fat, bald, and broke – all because he established the META-FRAME that he is the PRIZE.
When you ASSUME that you have perceived value, and KNOW how to establish the META-FRAME that you are the PRIZE, women will see you as a PRIZE they want to win over – and it doesn’t matter if you’re fat, or bald or broke…or whatever. If, however, you are good looking and rich yet do not have the skill set for establishing the META-FRAME that you are the PRIZE, your success with women will be mediocre at best. That’s how important the META-FRAME is. With some guys, it almost seems like they were born with it. Not me. I had to learn how to establish the META-FRAME through a lot of experimenting and hard work. If you want to save yourself truck loads of time, come check out my book and learn how to establish the META-FRAME within a few hours:
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